Deal-breakers when you're dating

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-Any tattoos or piercings besides ears/belly button.
-Inability to drive stickshift
-Poor respect for physics leaving stoplights and when driving
-Lack of frugality (shoes, purses, etc. habits)
-Any use of obscenities, and any high use of the word like
-Excess makeup
-Poor use of language
-Lack of drive to excel in education and career
 
Originally Posted By: JHZR2
-Any tattoos or piercings besides ears/belly button.
-Inability to drive stickshift
-Poor respect for physics leaving stoplights and when driving
-Lack of frugality (shoes, purses, etc. habits)
-Any use of obscenities, and any high use of the word like
-Excess makeup
-Poor use of language
-Lack of drive to excel in education and career


Those attributes describe my wife. However I did not seek them out.

Patience and intelligence is my wife.
 
WHEN DATING: 5 YEARS AGO

poor hygene: Ive dated some smoking hotties, that when things got personal, i discovered bad hygene.. obviously a big turnoff.

a long intermission durring the date talking with someone else.

drunks....

smokers, especially drunk smokers..

extreme foul language..

Chicks that want to pick fights, or point out others short commings

sexy is sexy, trashy is trashy.. been on a few dates that i was red in the cheeks going into public places with them due to there dress.. totally out of left field too !!
 
This thread is actually rather refreshing! I was beginning to think that my opinions were way out of line with what most men thought......I guess I was wrong.
To any gals out there reading this thread....you might want to take notes and SPREAD THE WORD!
 
Originally Posted By: andrewg
....I guess I was wrong.
To any gals out there reading this thread....you might want to take notes and SPREAD THE WORD!

How many guys fall into this catagory??
 
Originally Posted By: mva
If I was dating again:

Lying

non-drinker

religeous


So you like truthful alcoholic atheists?
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I'm not dating anymore (married) but if I were the list would be short:

Kids.
Lack of personality.
Inability to hold an intelligent conversation.
Dogmatic adherence to beliefs (religious, political, etc.).
Debt outside of normal car or home loans.

As long as none of those five criteria are met, the rest can be worked out. Any one of them would be a deal breaker for me.
 
Originally Posted By: Drew99GT
Originally Posted By: mva
If I was dating again:

Lying

non-drinker

religeous


So you like truthful alcoholic atheists?
grin2.gif



I don't know if I'd like to live with one, but if you can find one at the bar they make for excellent conversation.
 
Originally Posted By: greenaccord02
I'm not dating anymore (married) but if I were the list would be short:

Kids.
Lack of personality.
Inability to hold an intelligent conversation.
Dogmatic adherence to beliefs (religious, political, etc.).
Debt outside of normal car or home loans.

As long as none of those five criteria are met, the rest can be worked out. Any one of them would be a deal breaker for me.


What about school loans? They needed to pay for the intelligence somehow
 
Originally Posted By: asiancivicmaniac
Originally Posted By: greenaccord02
I'm not dating anymore (married) but if I were the list would be short:

Kids.
Lack of personality.
Inability to hold an intelligent conversation.
Dogmatic adherence to beliefs (religious, political, etc.).
Debt outside of normal car or home loans.

As long as none of those five criteria are met, the rest can be worked out. Any one of them would be a deal breaker for me.


What about school loans? They needed to pay for the intelligence somehow

Actually, intelligence doesn't come from schooling.
 
Originally Posted By: andrewg
Originally Posted By: asiancivicmaniac
Originally Posted By: greenaccord02
I'm not dating anymore (married) but if I were the list would be short:

Kids.
Lack of personality.
Inability to hold an intelligent conversation.
Dogmatic adherence to beliefs (religious, political, etc.).
Debt outside of normal car or home loans.

As long as none of those five criteria are met, the rest can be worked out. Any one of them would be a deal breaker for me.


What about school loans? They needed to pay for the intelligence somehow

Actually, intelligence doesn't come from schooling.

It doesn't hurt to have some either
 
There are always the obvious things like smoking, not trustworthy, religous fanatic, etc., but sometimes weird ones come out of the woodwork that you never gave much thought to, because they never popped up before. I once dated a woman who was really pretty cool in most of the important areas, but for some reason, she HAD to go shopping practically everyday of the week. And not because she actually needed anything specific, but just more or less to wander around a Target store, a Gap, or whatever, for a an hour or two. Often she didn't buy anything, but most of the time she did. After a while it started to make me nuts.
 
Originally Posted By: asiancivicmaniac
Originally Posted By: andrewg
Originally Posted By: asiancivicmaniac
Originally Posted By: greenaccord02
I'm not dating anymore (married) but if I were the list would be short:

Kids.
Lack of personality.
Inability to hold an intelligent conversation.
Dogmatic adherence to beliefs (religious, political, etc.).
Debt outside of normal car or home loans.

As long as none of those five criteria are met, the rest can be worked out. Any one of them would be a deal breaker for me.


What about school loans? They needed to pay for the intelligence somehow

Actually, intelligence doesn't come from schooling.

It doesn't hurt to have some either

Basic schooling....certainly. After that it depends on many more factors. I've met many gals who've spent nearly a decade in college (total). Most of them did not have a mind unto themselves.....just repetitive parrots of mindless, collegiate propaganda. On the other hand I've met more than a few ladies that barely made it past high school that had far more interesting opinions and discussions on life.
Intelligence isn't learned in school from professors. It comes from the individual within.
 
Originally Posted By: andrewg
Originally Posted By: asiancivicmaniac
Originally Posted By: andrewg
Originally Posted By: asiancivicmaniac

What about school loans? They needed to pay for the intelligence somehow

Actually, intelligence doesn't come from schooling.

It doesn't hurt to have some either

Basic schooling....certainly. After that it depends on many more factors. I've met many gals who've spent nearly a decade in college (total). Most of them did not have a mind unto themselves.....just repetitive parrots of mindless, collegiate propaganda. On the other hand I've met more than a few ladies that barely made it past high school that had far more interesting opinions and discussions on life.
Intelligence isn't learned in school from professors. It comes from the individual within.


To answer the original question. Yes, even student loans would be unacceptable. You either work your way through it or save up money and then go. Perhaps you don't agree, and that's OK. People have different criteria for dating. Intelligence is not the same as college education, and to believe it is is both ignorant and elitist. Never hurts, though, I'll agree with that. I don't believe College is all propaganda, either, though the people who graduate with a "head full of propaganda" are perhaps the best examples of what happens when a person has an education but no intelligence. You can't teach a person to be a critical thinker, but higher education will help refine that quality when it is inherent to the individual.
 
As a newly divorced guy, I've been on the dating scene now for almost a year and I could come up with a huge list of my own deal breakers!
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But for the sake of keeping it brief, I'll stick to the obvious ones like I don't want a liar, cheater or smoker. Drinking doesn't bother me so much as long as it's not a regular thing (my ex wife spent $200 a month on booze!)

The things I look for in a woman is someone who has a positive attitude and a great sense of humor. So if a woman is too serious and is always complaining, that's a 100% deal breaker right there. And it might sound shallow, but she has to be attractive. She doesn't necessarily need to have supermodel good looks (although that's cool!) but definitely needs to be cute and keep herself in good shape too
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Originally Posted By: greenaccord02
Originally Posted By: andrewg
Originally Posted By: asiancivicmaniac
Originally Posted By: andrewg

Actually, intelligence doesn't come from schooling.

It doesn't hurt to have some either

Basic schooling....certainly. After that it depends on many more factors. I've met many gals who've spent nearly a decade in college (total). Most of them did not have a mind unto themselves.....just repetitive parrots of mindless, collegiate propaganda. On the other hand I've met more than a few ladies that barely made it past high school that had far more interesting opinions and discussions on life.
Intelligence isn't learned in school from professors. It comes from the individual within.


To answer the original question. Yes, even student loans would be unacceptable. You either work your way through it or save up money and then go. Perhaps you don't agree, and that's OK. People have different criteria for dating. Intelligence is not the same as college education, and to believe it is is both ignorant and elitist. Never hurts, though, I'll agree with that. I don't believe College is all propaganda, either, though the people who graduate with a "head full of propaganda" are perhaps the best examples of what happens when a person has an education but no intelligence. You can't teach a person to be a critical thinker, but higher education will help refine that quality when it is inherent to the individual.


I agree with the bold part. Although not everyone in college is intelligent (I have to say that maybe only 1/2 to 2/3 of the people at my school really belong in college. Some are probably better off learning a trade and making a living that way), a lot are driven to it by the intrinsic qualities they have for learning and knowledge...and the fact that soon it would be pretty hard to get a decent job without at least a master's not to mention a bachelor's.
 
Originally Posted By: Patman
And it might sound shallow, but she has to be attractive. She doesn't necessarily need to have supermodel good looks (although that's cool!) but definitely needs to be cute and keep herself in good shape too
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Not shallow at all Patman. I think you were one of the few that had the balls to admit its extremely important. In the real world looks trumps a lot of objections. ..in spite of statements to the contrary. It may throw the guy under the buss but we (men are pretty friggin' shallow).. I have seen a few things in my 65 y ears.
 
Originally Posted By: dparm
What are your absolute deal-breakers when you date a person? Cursing, smoking, not religious, flakey, unambitious, etc.


A pattern of bad decisions is #1 in my book. #2 closely follows the first,,, stupidity.

I really had a tough time finding someone I was compatible with that met the above criteria. Took many years. Glad I chose wisely, 25 years of marriage!
 
Originally Posted By: Patman
As a newly divorced guy, I've been on the dating scene now for almost a year and I could come up with a huge list of my own deal breakers!
smile.gif


But for the sake of keeping it brief, I'll stick to the obvious ones like I don't want a liar, cheater or smoker. Drinking doesn't bother me so much as long as it's not a regular thing (my ex wife spent $200 a month on booze!)

The things I look for in a woman is someone who has a positive attitude and a great sense of humor. So if a woman is too serious and is always complaining, that's a 100% deal breaker right there. And it might sound shallow, but she has to be attractive. She doesn't necessarily need to have supermodel good looks (although that's cool!) but definitely needs to be cute and keep herself in good shape too
smile.gif




I used to make lists when I was dating around in the 90's after my divorce. Since I was single with three young children I was a special case. I like your criteria, they mesh well with my ideals.

But I actually counted my lovely Wife's extreme beauty (she's an ex-model) against her when we were dating! A girl who's grown up extremely attractive is many times a bit twisted about herself in my experience.

Luckily I chose my sweetie from a short list. She's proven to be a terrific partner for over over 16 years now.
 
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