This is where an impact is better again. I believe you said you were using a breaker bar or cheater.
With an impact you can push on the rear of the tool and keep the bit fully bottomed and it won't want to "cock" like the off-axis force of a breaker bar does.
Still, you need to use quality tools for best fit and good metallurgy, and quick blips of the trigger -- at least initially. The plug will either "snap" free, or it won't.
I just went through this on several Subaru drain plugs both female hex and Torx, and the impact is just more efficient and less drama.
Indeed it's great to not over tighten them YOURSELF, but some of the plugs --on Subarus at least -- are legendary from the factory. TR580 front diff fill in particular (the TR690 gets filled through the breather which is infinitely easier)