I have a 14 year old daughter. My wife and I have a big school decision to make. I will try to distill this down to highlights...ask if you want more detail.
In 2006 (end of 7th grade school year), we took my (then 13 year old) daughter out of regular local public middle school due to the conditions there. Hippy left wing teachers, alcohol in the girl’s bathroom, cattle learning conditions, you know - the usual. For 8th grade we enrolled her in an open, less structured small public school in another school district. This school includes grades 6-12 in different programs. Pretty neat way to learn, but they aren’t big on deadlines. She did OK there, she let us and to some extent herself down with some very poor decisions, mostly social decisions that directly effect her school work. Things like she simply quit going to her elective ASL class, because the deaf teacher simply would not use the spoken word after a certain point for the students, or she would fall behind in her not so tough math class.
She used to be brilliant, she was always in advanced math. She has always had emotional issues. Then she turned 14. She got this loser boyfriend at school who has no real concept of reality. She sees him as a “help” in everything in her life…..we can’t ban her from seeing him, but she knows we do not approve of the relationship…..which only makes it worse (for us).
Next year she will start high school.
Our choices are:
A) Remain in same school. She will do better there. But loser boy is there, and the lack of hard deadlines bothers us. It’s a TOTAL hassle for my wife to drive her there for her varying schedule. My wife can’t hold a full time regular job because the driving and the cost of gas/transporting her is eating us.
B) Attend close by high school and get back with the same stupid loser crowd of blackies. Worse school performance can be assured, even though the school is not so bad for the average student.
We have had long talks with her. We have asked her what she wants, we have told her why we would chose one over the other (in much more detail than above). Ultimately it is our decision, but she needs to know why.
On the sketchy info given, I would appreciate your input.
In 2006 (end of 7th grade school year), we took my (then 13 year old) daughter out of regular local public middle school due to the conditions there. Hippy left wing teachers, alcohol in the girl’s bathroom, cattle learning conditions, you know - the usual. For 8th grade we enrolled her in an open, less structured small public school in another school district. This school includes grades 6-12 in different programs. Pretty neat way to learn, but they aren’t big on deadlines. She did OK there, she let us and to some extent herself down with some very poor decisions, mostly social decisions that directly effect her school work. Things like she simply quit going to her elective ASL class, because the deaf teacher simply would not use the spoken word after a certain point for the students, or she would fall behind in her not so tough math class.
She used to be brilliant, she was always in advanced math. She has always had emotional issues. Then she turned 14. She got this loser boyfriend at school who has no real concept of reality. She sees him as a “help” in everything in her life…..we can’t ban her from seeing him, but she knows we do not approve of the relationship…..which only makes it worse (for us).
Next year she will start high school.
Our choices are:
A) Remain in same school. She will do better there. But loser boy is there, and the lack of hard deadlines bothers us. It’s a TOTAL hassle for my wife to drive her there for her varying schedule. My wife can’t hold a full time regular job because the driving and the cost of gas/transporting her is eating us.
B) Attend close by high school and get back with the same stupid loser crowd of blackies. Worse school performance can be assured, even though the school is not so bad for the average student.
We have had long talks with her. We have asked her what she wants, we have told her why we would chose one over the other (in much more detail than above). Ultimately it is our decision, but she needs to know why.
On the sketchy info given, I would appreciate your input.