I hope all goes well.
Wife has the dreaded "C"
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Praying for both of you!
Good luck Schmoe.
Had my maternal Grandmother pull through breast cancer, and my aunty has just had two ops for it.
Make sure that you are at every appointment, soak up all the information so that you can help in her decision making process. Scared people don't always take in and process information well.
Had my maternal Grandmother pull through breast cancer, and my aunty has just had two ops for it.
Make sure that you are at every appointment, soak up all the information so that you can help in her decision making process. Scared people don't always take in and process information well.
My prayers are with you and your family! It can be beat! My wife is a survivor of several years now. The main thing I found out through our ordeal is that she knows that you are by her side at all times.... Our two kids were in grade school at the time and if it weren't for family and friends, I don't know what we would have done.
Support from your family and friends will carry one through!
Support from your family and friends will carry one through!
Prayers sent. During Lent I've been spending a lot of time in Church. I will add your wife to my prayers.
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Sorry to hear that, but our best to you and her. Ive had all four grandparents face cancer, and the only one that did harm was the one that didnt get treated (by choice). She has a great shot to beat it, it was caught early, and so do it! Stay positive no matter what. Make sure she stays active. My FIL had a football-sized tumor on his kidney (bigger than the actual kidney), and it was removed and he is doing perfect. He was down in the dumps until my wife made him get moving and active.
Good luck!
Good luck!
Prayers sent, I have a couple of family members that are fighting cancer now, one thing that helps over come the feeling of being unable to help them, is donating blood platelets at the Red Cross.
It takes about three hours from the time you get there. It sounds like chemo is hard on the platelets and the patients need replacement ones.
It takes about three hours from the time you get there. It sounds like chemo is hard on the platelets and the patients need replacement ones.
You are in our prayers. I am living proof that cancer can be survived. I pray that your wife experiences a good outcome beyond your wildest dreams.
My best advice is to have not only a positive mental attitude, but an aggressive, We Are Going to Win attitude. This goes for both of you. You will have to support each other through this, and you will have down times, but pouring all your emotional energy into it, however much you have, is the only way to go.
Anything else is hedging your bets, and one thing I have learned is that there are certain times you don't hedge bets, the only approach that will work is all out commitment. There should be no possibility of downsides in you mind to hedge against - period.
Go Get Em.....
Anything else is hedging your bets, and one thing I have learned is that there are certain times you don't hedge bets, the only approach that will work is all out commitment. There should be no possibility of downsides in you mind to hedge against - period.
Go Get Em.....
Scmoe, my sister in law was diagnosed 20 years ago. My prayers are with you.
My wife just had radiation treatment for a non cancerous event. I saw so many brave and upbeat women in the waiting areas. I hope your wife can share her feelings with you as she goes through this. We all don't have to be SO brave 100% of the time.
My wife just had radiation treatment for a non cancerous event. I saw so many brave and upbeat women in the waiting areas. I hope your wife can share her feelings with you as she goes through this. We all don't have to be SO brave 100% of the time.
Brethren, THANKS. I can feel the love, seriously. Such a good place to be. As you can imagine, when the news first hit, it was a shock. That was Wednesday night, Thursday morning she had to be at the MRI place to re-examine the other side. On the way there, the rear tire blew out. Missed that appointment, but the doctors agreed to stayed during lunch and got her in. We had a ski trip planned for Santa Fe that day and I almost cancelled it, but I said we still needed to go, at least for our 6 year old. Something told me to head west, and we did, 6 year old loved it. As you can imagine, it was a rough trip with learning what we just did. I almost turned back and a few times and a few times I thought I would have to pull over and throw up. But, I stayed the course and did my best to be the man, father and guidance counselor. I too, have had cancer all around me. Grandfather, father, mother, step mothers, step dads, neighbors, work friends, etc. etc. But being at the very top of Deception Point, by myself, 13K feet, looking down at the beautiful creation, I realized something. The world is not going to stop for us, must take charge, move forward.... I prayed like never before. And prayed some more and did some deep soul searching. I was falling into the pity rut but somehow, I started feeling better and a lot more positive. I felt my "old" self coming back, the glass is NOT half empty, it's half FULL. The only problem I'm worried about is that during the course of the journey to Santa Fe, about a 8 hour drive from OKC, my wife was talking to her mother, my mother, friends, etc. etc. and my daughter was over hearing all this. Yesterday, we get an email from her teacher asking if it would be OK if our daughter would go see a counselor at school. I was like WHAT? I thought she was having learning diability or something, but, it was over this cancer ordeal. She is worried that Mom is going to go to heaven.....Boy, that was ROUGH. Chaniging game plans here, we're not talking about this anymore around her.
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My wife is a two time cancer surviver, once 42 years ago and once 15 years ago. Hang in there - it is beatable!
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Originally Posted By: Schmoe
But being at the very top of Deception Point, by myself, 13K feet, looking down at the beautiful creation, I realized something. The world is not going to stop for us, must take charge, move forward.... I prayed like never before. And prayed some more and did some deep soul searching. I was falling into the pity rut but somehow, I started feeling better and a lot more positive. I felt my "old" self coming back, the glass is NOT half empty, it's half FULL. ..
THAT's what I'm talking about! You captured eloquently what I was shooting for.
But being at the very top of Deception Point, by myself, 13K feet, looking down at the beautiful creation, I realized something. The world is not going to stop for us, must take charge, move forward.... I prayed like never before. And prayed some more and did some deep soul searching. I was falling into the pity rut but somehow, I started feeling better and a lot more positive. I felt my "old" self coming back, the glass is NOT half empty, it's half FULL. ..
THAT's what I'm talking about! You captured eloquently what I was shooting for.
Ditto on the thoughts and prayers. Both my mother and mother-in-law went through this with successful outcomes. Todays cancer treatments are way more advanced than what both of them had.
God bless you and your family.
God bless you and your family.
You are doing well. Just be positive..and it looks like you are!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
We Will definitely be thinking of you. My mom got diagnosed with cancer about an yr ago, and she seems to be doing well after treatment.
Breast cancer has a pretty high cure rate, compared to some.
Be hopeful - and glad that it was not caught too late.
People have already said wonderful things, i have nothing to add.
G'luck, and please update here when you can.
KEEP FRIENDS AND FAMILY CLOSE - A CLOSE-KNIT SUPPORT NETWORK IS A HUGE FACTOR IN FIGHTING CANCER OR ANY OTHER DISEASES.
Breast cancer has a pretty high cure rate, compared to some.
Be hopeful - and glad that it was not caught too late.
People have already said wonderful things, i have nothing to add.
G'luck, and please update here when you can.
KEEP FRIENDS AND FAMILY CLOSE - A CLOSE-KNIT SUPPORT NETWORK IS A HUGE FACTOR IN FIGHTING CANCER OR ANY OTHER DISEASES.
Schmoe,
Sorry to hear that. However, you have to look at the half full glass. It was caught early and most likely with no spread (the sentinel lymph node biopsy will tell you that for sure). If so, the treatment required is removal of the mass without disfiguring mastectomy and some local radiation. Very high chances of survival. It could be much worse. I know that it doesn't help with anxiety now, but you have to put it in perspective and be positive. In breast carcinoma, support meetings are almost as effective as non-surgical treatments.
BTW, it's ductal carcinoma, the most common type. There are a few subtypes though and you need to ask the doctor about grade and receptor status for complete info.
Sorry to hear that. However, you have to look at the half full glass. It was caught early and most likely with no spread (the sentinel lymph node biopsy will tell you that for sure). If so, the treatment required is removal of the mass without disfiguring mastectomy and some local radiation. Very high chances of survival. It could be much worse. I know that it doesn't help with anxiety now, but you have to put it in perspective and be positive. In breast carcinoma, support meetings are almost as effective as non-surgical treatments.
BTW, it's ductal carcinoma, the most common type. There are a few subtypes though and you need to ask the doctor about grade and receptor status for complete info.
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