Well, a 4-speed Auto Trans is really a 3-speed with Overdrive. Issues with these transmissions are often issues with the OD unit which was basically just grafted onto the 3-speed unit. Now, that might be a little hard on the OD because the 3-speeds were generally bulletproof to begin with.
An 8-speed (or similar) trans is not really the same beast ... they are multi-speed units that were engineered from day one to have OD functionality. My gut instinct is they are better engineered than 4-speed units for that reason.
The added complexity doesn't rally scare me much, provided the solenoids are of sufficient robustness. The science of hydraulic pressures (shift points) and planetary gears are well understood, and just planetary gears in general are quite robust. The computer control should, by now, be well integrated. I don't see Red Flags here.
When it comes down to it, Auto Trans reliability is really more about heat than anything else. There are charts online that show progressive life degradation as temps climb even in 10-degree F increments above optimum. And the overheating that begins the life shortening sequence can be a single event.
One possible instance where overheating can be avoided, at the cost of some fuel, is using the "OD Off" button on a vehicle that is equipped with one (like my Ram Truck) when engaged in Heavy Duty activity, like towing or hilly terrain, as towing/etc generates a lot of heat when in OD mode.
So my take on it is if you really are worried, insure the OEM installed a proper thermostatically controlled Trans Cooler, check that box on any option sheet (including any "Heavy Duty" upgrade) if you are buying new, and install an aftermarket Cooler if your existing or used vehicle lacks it. You can also consider a trans temp gauge if the vehicle doesn't already have one, and monitor it. Some good aftermarket gauges have programmable warning lamps; use them.