Haha. @AutoMechanic, just remember, Babe Ruth lead the league in strikeouts five times.
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@AutoMechanic , you need to ditch your Mom and Dad.
I don’t mean alienate them from your life, but you need to get out there,…..you know, on your own.
You’ve always come across as a great guy, and until you give me reason to think otherwise, I’ll continue to believe that, but you’re stuck in a rut, brother!
You’ve got all the chick magnet deodorant, but the parents are a chick repellent and you’re hanging with them all the time. (This is not a knock against them. You need to venture out on your own!)
Listen to @skyactiv. Get out there! Strike up conversations! Just be yourself! If they don’t like you being yourself, that’s their problem. If they like you being yourself, then it’s worth pursuing!
All the best! Good luck!
Cheers!
Benny
I don’t mean alienate them from your life, but you need to get out there,…..you know, on your own.
You’ve always come across as a great guy, and until you give me reason to think otherwise, I’ll continue to believe that, but you’re stuck in a rut, brother!
You’ve got all the chick magnet deodorant, but the parents are a chick repellent and you’re hanging with them all the time. (This is not a knock against them. You need to venture out on your own!)
Listen to @skyactiv. Get out there! Strike up conversations! Just be yourself! If they don’t like you being yourself, that’s their problem. If they like you being yourself, then it’s worth pursuing!
All the best! Good luck!
Cheers!
Benny
This.
@AutoMechanic, I have a daughter about your age. Most young women prefer someone who is confident enough to walk up to them and strike up a conversation. Most also want a guy who is clean and well groomed.
I imagine you have the deodorant and cologne departments covered
Just don't overdo that stuff, as way too much can also be off-putting. You have a job. You're already ahead of the curve on lots of young men I see.
AutoMechanic
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I just have to get past the empty feeling that comes with going out alone. Don’t know if it’s just me or not but anytime I go out alone I start getting a bad feeling and thinking some crazy stuff.@AutoMechanic , you need to ditch your Mom and Dad.
I don’t mean alienate them from your life, but you need to get out there,…..you know, on your own.
You’ve always come across as a great guy, and until you give me reason to think otherwise, I’ll continue to believe that, but you’re stuck in a rut, brother!
You’ve got all the chick magnet deodorant, but the parents are a chick repellent and you’re hanging with them all the time. (This is not a knock against them. You need to venture out on your own!)
Listen to @skyactiv. Get out there! Strike up conversations! Just be yourself! If they don’t like you being yourself, that’s their problem. If they like you being yourself, then it’s worth pursuing!
All the best! Good luck!
Cheers!
Benny
Well, I’m not sure what you mean by thinking “crazy stuff”, but when you start making connections with other people, it’ll help. (Even if they don’t last long.)
I went with my wife to an appointment today and while I was walking around the facility parking lot during her appointment, I struck up a conversation with a guy that had a 1988 Volvo 740. (It was mint!) He happened to come out as I was walking by. (Lucky me!)
When I saw him, I complimented him on his beautiful Volvo. It turned into a 30 minute conversation. I love my wife, but that conversation was the best part of my day. (Shame on me for not getting pictures of the car.)
When you go out with someone, or even alone, don’t be afraid to strike up conversations. Even small talk in passing is a great way to become confident when it comes to talking to people. Who knows, maybe you’ll strike up a conversation with the “one” while you’re out. If you don’t, so what, there’s always the next time.
Don’t be afraid to strike out on your own! Don’t be afraid to strike up conversations with people! (Guys and Girls)
Just go with the flow and let it happen. You’ll find your groove.
Don’t get too comfortable in your normal routine. (Time flies by.)
AutoMechanic
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I know. I’ve had the same routine my whole life with one small change from school to work. I’ve always went everywhere with my parents too. I should have broken it a long time ago. The part I’m not ready for is if I start going out alone I’ll have to pay for everything and that’s going to hurt lol. Guess it’s going to have to happen eventually though.
Yes, when you have to pay for everything, there’s a mental shift. When your choice is sink or swim, you learn to swim.
Take advantage of your situation and get out on your own a little. While living with your parents, you can save a lot, but you can still venture out on your own. You can still go out with your parents from time to time, but make time for yourself!
You’ll be fine!
Find a buddy to go hang out with that's also single and looking for dates. Go to a decent tavern or sports bar, play some pool, have a few drinks (don't over do it), talk to women. Get a few to play some pool or darts.
^^^^This is great advice!
When you do something like this, expect nothing other than having a great time with your buddy. If it turns into something else, great. If it doesn’t, great. (Hopefully, you still had a good time and got out on your own a little.)
CleanSump
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The biggest hurdle is overcoming being self conscious or feeling awkward. It takes practice, a deep breath, and realizing it doesn't matter because nobody is looking and judging.
I had a friend on college who was only average looking and a little chubby but he understood the law of averages, I guess. I never saw anybody ask girls for their phone number so much. They usually turned him down but he dated some very pretty girls. I lost touch with him after I transferred schools but I bet he did well for himself in love and life.
Often the prettiest girls/women don't get approached or asked out, as guys are too intimidated to do so.
@AutoMechanic, you’re story will never move forward if you don’t turn the page.
Saying that’s a bit cliche,…but it’s true.
I don’t think so many of us would have commented on your posts if we didn’t see someone worth giving advice to.
Saying that’s a bit cliche,…but it’s true.
I don’t think so many of us would have commented on your posts if we didn’t see someone worth giving advice to.
I was very shy when younger (early to mid 20’s). I also never felt right going out by myself @AutoMechanic
However, I started going out and doing things by myself more and noticed that if I was doing it strictly for the enjoyment of the activity, I had way more fun than I thought I would but the confidence gained from simply doing enjoyable things started to draw people to me.
Random stuff like going for a hike, to the museum, checking out a car show..women would be there and I would occasionally meet them in a natural and unforced way.
Everyone is different but even though I got along with my parents, I moved out. I lived in a tiny room in a basement, under the stairs, in my first place but loved it. Living in a shared place when you’re young is another great way to meet people.
However, I started going out and doing things by myself more and noticed that if I was doing it strictly for the enjoyment of the activity, I had way more fun than I thought I would but the confidence gained from simply doing enjoyable things started to draw people to me.
Random stuff like going for a hike, to the museum, checking out a car show..women would be there and I would occasionally meet them in a natural and unforced way.
Everyone is different but even though I got along with my parents, I moved out. I lived in a tiny room in a basement, under the stairs, in my first place but loved it. Living in a shared place when you’re young is another great way to meet people.
Have you looked into meetup.com in your community? Might be a slightly older crowd though - depends on the topic I suppose.
Take a night course at a local college. Two for one - learn something and meet people.
Find people with similar interests to hang out with, then your more likely to run into a girl with similar interests.
AutoMechanic
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I’m home now. Had a bad day today at work because of a manager accusing me of leaving a wheel loose. I’m glad she won’t be there tomorrow but I am thinking of going to HR. I’ll think on it tomorrow but not going to let it bother me anymore tonight. Just glad to be off and relaxing now.
@AutoMechanic you need to get a girl and move out or you'll wind up like poor @Zee09. He's teetering on the edge of lunacy.
Teetering?
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You need to hop in that RAV4 and toss yourself in some splashables first and throw some Barry White on and get your funk off....
She mad you ain't ask her out, brah! No cap! Whaz wrong wit yu?
