A wedding isn't supposed to be a solicitation for gifts. If you attend, I can see a small contribution of say, $50, if you are consuming their food and drinks plus the cost of the venue. Otherwise, a nice card congratulating them should suffice. Now I've never been to a wedding, so what do I know.I did send a check to the bride and groom for $200.00 which I thought was sufficient for a wedding I wasn't going to.