Self Esteem or Self Hate
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Follow the owner’s manual ( you know what that is, don’t you?)
My thoughts/feelings on this matter are that this is always a balancing act. The best path lies somewhere in the middle. A wise person will try to honestly recognize one's own faults (and strengths) but love themselves just enough to strive to be happy while working to improve themselves. Only a fool or a sociopath loves themselves so deeply that they can delude themselves into believing that they are without fault.
“The line separating good and evil passes not through states, nor between classes, nor between political parties either -- but right through every human heart -- and through all human hearts. This line shifts ... Alexander Solzhenitsyn”
“The line separating good and evil passes not through states, nor between classes, nor between political parties either -- but right through every human heart -- and through all human hearts. This line shifts ... Alexander Solzhenitsyn”
That sums it up nicely.
No kidding - I'm beginning to wish I sprung for the extended warranty...
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I have no idea what this means. However:
Blame others - no good.
Blame yourself - a little better.
Blame no one - you have learned to learn.
Blame others - no good.
Blame yourself - a little better.
Blame no one - you have learned to learn.
Self hate makes for a more successful person, alone.
Self esteem makes for a happier person, alone.
I feel like balance is good.
I prefer "self awareness." To me that encompasses what you have said above but also being aware that your actions affect others and that those others are "selves" in the same way that you are. It's not easy to do but I try.
Hate is a pretty strong word. But doubting and checking and doing the right thing should drive everyone. People should be comfortable in their own skins, but not overproud or overconfident. Know your limitations,
Both are neither "good" nor "bad'- they are simply marks on a gauge.
If one is not confident and certain of ones ability ( after a well conducted personal assessment not fueled by ego or exaggerated by Dunning Kruger) then there are underlying issues to correct.
If one "hates" himself ( depending on the definition of hate in this context) then one has failed in conducting a proper self esteem inventory and not identified areas for improvement and acted upon them.
Goes back to following the instructions referenced above and when you fail ( not if) to seek the one who can help and let Him fix it.
If one is not confident and certain of ones ability ( after a well conducted personal assessment not fueled by ego or exaggerated by Dunning Kruger) then there are underlying issues to correct.
If one "hates" himself ( depending on the definition of hate in this context) then one has failed in conducting a proper self esteem inventory and not identified areas for improvement and acted upon them.
Goes back to following the instructions referenced above and when you fail ( not if) to seek the one who can help and let Him fix it.
once again, moderation is best. Balance. Sometimes it is best to take the hit and move on. I try not to fool myself, I know I'm not perfect. I'm a work in progress 
It’s important to know who you are...... and who you’re not.
Too many people I’ve met in my life with major big egos.
Lots of ‘fake it till you make it’ type of people.
When you ask to compare the two, there are categories that are unique to self hate and self esteem. They do not depend on one another. They are not linked.
JTK
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Isn't self esteem inversely proportional to your amount of self hate?
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