Apple IDs are locked for inactivity after a year. Google accounts after two years, so for an account that hasn't been used since 2018, it would not have made any difference.
Apple has close to 300 retail stores in the U.S., including one in Tacoma, about nine miles away from the OP's stated location.
Those stores have people who are happy to help set up and migrate data to new devices, a standard offer they make on the spot to every new owner.
Just because a website doesn't work the way one expects doesn't mean it's broken. In such a situation:
1) Go to Apple.com
2) "Support" at the far right end of the tool bar - "Apple Account and Password" under the drop down menu that results
3) Prominently displayed on the Apple Account Support page -- A) Forget your password?" B) Access a locked account" C) Can't create an account?" D) Update account details"
4) Choose "If your Apple Account is locked, not active, or disabled" page, which offers three scenarios, two of which lead to a page where one can start a Chat, or request a callback. That callback will come from a support rep based in Texas (not the Philippines or India), who speaks, and understands perfect English, won't forcefully regurgitate a script before getting to the gist of the call, and actually possesses critical thinking skills, and will readily consult with someone above L1 support if they have to. I know, because I've had such contact.
If that's too difficult to follow, I don't know what to say, except that a company that offers in person, online, as well as phone support, and prides itself on a good UX, shouldn't be accused of making it difficult, nor responsible for the failure of a carrier to help a user complete the onboarding process for a device they sold.
Google Pixel support also follows a similar process, and doesn't display a toll-free number anywhere on their site either. One must submit some basic information and request a callback. But at least that's better than the standard "consult Google Community for (self) help," the typical response for their non-paying customer services. And unless you're in NYC, Boston, or Mountain View, good luck trying to find in person help, because that where most of their handful of stores are located.