Sorry to hear that. It's tough to not have any generational wealth or safety net to rely on ...
Did your mom and sister make it?
They did but my mom died 6 months after arrival. I was devastated. Before she came, after so many years of lonely, nightly tears going to sleep, I dreamed of re-living my childhood dream when I see her again; being held and hugs, but it was gone in a flash. Lost and despaired for several years with no direction or purpose, I enlisted in the NAVY. Before boot camp, I met my wife. Despair subsided and I started a new life..........Long story short, I live the American dream, from rag to middle class or riches (depending on who decides)?
It is not the true American dream (rag to riches) but will provide my children with "generational wealth or safety net to rely on."
My point here is, I went from a lonely refugee with nothing, $0, to have enough to retire comfortably (not by choice). I rather work until 591/2 but it is my current situation. Finding a well paying job at my age will not happen (pass prime working age). This is what I meant by "I am not going to work as a greeter or HD." I have enough $ so I won't do that.
My American Dream - simple
- Be a millionaire by 55
- Mary a blonde
Steps to fulfill the dream
-Mary my dream girl
-Set the goal to get what you want and never give up: college (failed-cannot go to college without financial support for living), Navy (failed), college again, engineer > more $ so Master degree, more $ so find a better paying job.
-Max out 401k - 25 years of maxed out mine. I had to cash out my first two years for a mortgage, had to. I was too conservative the first 12 yrs. After 2012, more aggressive on growth funds and it pays.
-Pay only what you can afford, don't pay interests unless it is a mortgage. Even then, payoff asap. I am not good at investing so...
-Fix everything yourself. My motto: If they made it, I can fix it, until I can't.
-Be Contents of who you are - avoid all bad habits, alcohol, smokes, pets (cost more than kids so bad habit), etc.
-I came from nothing so I only spend on what I need mentality so this is my life style from the beginning. It doesn't mean that I don't spend on what I want because I can now.
Wow, I am writing too much already. I better stop here.