PP, M1, Castrol, Valv, QS etc all make great motor oils. Like many have said HTHS is the "main factor". Hell, even Supertech and Kirkland have some good oils (Warred distribution I believe). Nothing lasts forever, you can baby your car with the best fluids in the world and then one day, while you are out enjoying your car, some idiot ends up crashing into you. Where are your fluids now?
Bottom line is, if it is in the grade required or a bump above, you are good to go. I prefer a HTHS rating of 3.5 or above, since it helps me sleep better at night and I could care less if 1 - 2 MPG are cut off my hunt for fuel efficiency.