Overhead a woman telling another woman her dream job is a Stay At Home Mom

[bunnspecial]

To be honest, I think my wife would love nothing more than to be. As it is, the finances aren't there, and she also loves her work(she's a nurse coincidentally).

With that said, I've known a few families with multiple children where it was an easy decision for one to not work at least when kids aren't still in school. Depending on age and quality of the facility, childcare can run $300-500 a week. For 3 children, one at say $500, one at $400, and one at $300, that's $1200 a week or $4800/month. That's right on the edge of what my monthly take-home is. We're fortunate that we save a lot of money by only using daycare 3 days a week-between my wife's 3 day a week(varied) schedule and family(mother in law and sister in law) who fill in the gaps it works out fine for us, but that equation might change if we went to 5 days a week.

 

[Egg_Head]

And yet Butker's Mom is a medical physicist working at Emory University ATL for almost 4 decades. 'Based on that', seems she doesn't share her son's thoughts/ideas. My thoughts, different strokes for different folks. Carreer/life wise, wouldn't presume to tell women what they should or shouldn't desire or do.

If you read/watched his entire comments he says just that, do what you want. He was eviscerated and called a Neanderthal by suggesting women staying at home and raising their children may be a higher calling.

 

[ATex7239]

That’s where homeschooling comes in. I have substitute taught for my wife when she was sick and much preferred going to work.

Homeschooling isn’t for everyone. I know other women who started small businesses or do volunteer work. Very few sit and watch TV in our circle.

All the SAHM I know who are great at it are also busy bodies and motivated individuals. Always doing something. I think that is the key to happiness in that role or anything really. Staying active and busy gives purpose.

 

[Sayjac]

If you read/watched his entire comments he says just that, do what you want. He was eviscerated and called a Neanderthal by suggesting women staying at home and raising their children may be a higher calling.

Yep, he's entitled to his opinion, the same as others are to criticize (or applaud) it once publicly expressed. As I see it, that's exactly what happened. Very familiar with his comments, just found/find it very ironic that his own Mom, based on her life choices, reasonable to assume she has a different take on Butker's idea of "traditional values".

 

[MVAR]

I like the term Domestic Engineer

I managed gas stations during college. Hired one of my college friends who needed a few bucks one year. He used the journalism department printing classes to make me a new plate for my office door. He changed the title to:

Petroleum Distillate Transfer Engineer

 

[E150GT]

My wife always scoffed at people who wanted to stay home with their kids. She couldn't understand it. Then we had our first kid. She wanted to stay home. Unfortunately we weren't in a position. Fast forward a few years and we had another kid. This time she was able to stay home with the baby. She loves it. It's nice. I love that she can do it.

 

[alarmguy]

1) I'm not sure why this was post worthy, seems it would not be terribly uncommon.

2) I'm nearly positive asking a bunch of men (by vast majority anyway) what's common for women to think is not going to be the way to go.

Your question stuck in my mind common sense question.
The answer just popped into my head. If you can call it that. BTW - I always admired that a man or woman could stay home all day talking care of young children. Thankless job and one you can never get away from mp matter how bad the day is going. No calling out sick either.

We humans love to judge others and pass judgment on what other people do.

 

[dbias]

My dream job is a stay at home dad. Oh wait I’m retired and do stay at home and cheer my wife on as she goes to work each morning lol.

 

[andrew_j]

Friend’s wife is figuring this out. She retired from Navy with full benefits age 38 and has a teen daughter.

She happened to be a nurse commander.

 

[andrew_j]

I live against an executive neighborhood. All the mums who had great corporate jobs became stay at home mums. They all returned full time when kids hit about 14.