It's not just that no one is home, it's even when someone is home people no longer know how to parent. I see this all day long, every day at work. People asking their 2-year-olds if they want to brush their teeth and when they say no, they don't do it, because they don't want to "traumatize them". Or the kid cries for juice all day long and the parents give in and then I get to take little Johnny to the OR at age 3. This lack of direction continues through their teens and before they know it, their kids are lost.
Overhead a woman telling another woman her dream job is a Stay At Home Mom
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Triple_Se7en
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I applaud her.
This is what made the USA great in past generations of the 20th Century.
This is what helps seek proper education, proper upbringing of children and secures family values in our country.
BRAVO!
4WD
$50 site donor 2025
My wife never worked and prefers to be home - it was great until internet shopping got easy … 
Interestingly, both my wife and my brother's wife came from money. Neither of us had a direct benefit of receiving money from them but we did have the indirect benefit of our spouses coming into the marriage with zero debt while both of us did have debt. My SIL worked because that's just her personality and she makes a butt ton of money, several times more than my brother, easily. Maybe it would've been different out of necessity if they both brought debt to the marriage too. I know lots of people who need to have two FT working adults to make ends meet.
The stay at home mothers around here are all on welfare and collecting child support from five or six baby daddies.
The polar opposite of the miserable childless cat ladies we are hearing about on the campaign trail.
The polar opposite of the miserable childless cat ladies we are hearing about on the campaign trail.
I guess stay at home Dad would be my dream job, IF we had the money to still do the fun stuff. I had half a year of that on self funded leave and it was pretty nice.
I am surprised today due to the push back on typical gender roles. We're not supposed to admit women tend to be more nurturers and "nesters" while guys tend to want to make fire and kill things <--- so the family can eat
Biology is just misinformation. Duh.
If women don't want the typical role(s), that's 100% fine. But they shouldn't be shamed for biology -- it's just how we're programmed, statistically
Biology is just misinformation. Duh.
If women don't want the typical role(s), that's 100% fine. But they shouldn't be shamed for biology -- it's just how we're programmed, statistically
The problem is - what do you do when the kids grow up. It doesn't take long.
My wife stayed home for 7 or 8 years. Once the kids were in school full time she went back to work, but she is a teacher, which is a very family friendly job (same summer and holiday off with the kids). I believe our kids are much better for it.
However most private employers have no interest in family friendly. And its likely impossible to get ahead on one income anymore. If you have one income and that person looses their job, you almost always loose your healthcare too unless you can afford a couple grand a month.
Society places no value in a stay at home parent (men could stay home also).
Society pays for it in the end, with both fewer kids and more kids with social and development issues. If my two daughters have no kids I won't blame them one iota.
My wife stayed home for 7 or 8 years. Once the kids were in school full time she went back to work, but she is a teacher, which is a very family friendly job (same summer and holiday off with the kids). I believe our kids are much better for it.
However most private employers have no interest in family friendly. And its likely impossible to get ahead on one income anymore. If you have one income and that person looses their job, you almost always loose your healthcare too unless you can afford a couple grand a month.
Society places no value in a stay at home parent (men could stay home also).
Society pays for it in the end, with both fewer kids and more kids with social and development issues. If my two daughters have no kids I won't blame them one iota.
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This was my wife's dream job and she made it known when we were dating in high school. Well, it became a reality in 2006 with our move to Iowa. The boys were 3 and 5 then. She has stayed home with our boys ever since. They are 23 and soon to be 22.
We have had to make choices financially, (new cars, going out to eat etc) but none of them were worth the price of my wife raising our boys! We would do it again in a heartbeat.
I do worry a little bit now that the boys are one foot out the door as college wraps up, girlfriends enter the fray that she will need something to do. She claims to stay busy around the house so I don't push.
Just my $0.02
We have had to make choices financially, (new cars, going out to eat etc) but none of them were worth the price of my wife raising our boys! We would do it again in a heartbeat.
I do worry a little bit now that the boys are one foot out the door as college wraps up, girlfriends enter the fray that she will need something to do. She claims to stay busy around the house so I don't push.
Just my $0.02
My wife likes a lot of nice things. She has to work so we can buy them. It would quite a lifestyle change if we were single income. LOL.
"Stay at home mom" was brought up once. What that was going to look like ended the conversation quickly.
"Stay at home mom" was brought up once. What that was going to look like ended the conversation quickly.
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In the meantime, you save a fortune on child care, extra work clothing, restaurant meals, etc. We got by on less because my wife stayed home and home schooled the kids, but it was 100% worth it.
AZjeff
$50 Site Donor 2023
Considering what nurses endured a few years ago being a stay at home mom would be very attractive.
Also considering the average wage for nurses is close to $40/hr it would be very hard to give up for most families.
Also considering the average wage for nurses is close to $40/hr it would be very hard to give up for most families.
Naw.
I could not agree more with you. It's nice to see that I'm not the only one to believe this.I applaud her.
This is what made the USA great in past generations of the 20th Century.
This is what helps seek proper education, proper upbringing of children and secures family values in our country.
BRAVO!
JTK
$100 Site Donor 2025
Based on what I've seen from friends, family, etc. Some moms can't wait to get back to work. Some prefer to be a SAHM. The later should be the better option for the kid and I believe statistics show that it is. This is definitely a discussion and agreement to have before you get married and have kids.
Yes, kids very very expensive to raise especially today.
I completely misread your thread title.
I thought you were asking how much overhead.......oh never mind.
I thought you were asking how much overhead.......oh never mind.
My wife was put down by other women, including some in our family who now have chosen that life and act like they invented it. We were fortunate to have a good community of other stay at home moms for support.
I agree that one parent needs to stay home. It would have been me if her salary potential had been greater than mine.
When my kids were pre-School age, my wife did daycare. It didn’t pay a lot back then, but we probably netted more in tax savings than the income. It was great socialization for our kids as well.
My wife is 5 years older than me so she's going to be 51 and we still have a freshman in high school. By the time he leaves, she'll be 55, and I don't see her seriously getting back into the workforce. I think she should do something low-pressure and more fun. She loves auctions and going to those kinds of places, so maybe go to auctions and then have a small store somewhere to sell what she buys. I don't know, she doesn't know, she doesn't have to make any real money doing it, I just want her to have something to do.
