Similar would have happened to us but only from family members in the Bay Area or a few of her college friends. My side of the family, as well as my friends, would have just viewed it as normal life.
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$50-60 an hour in the bigger cities.
I know a nurse right out of school making $39 an hour here in Florida.
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Nothing wrong with that. I wish her and her child(ren) the best in that endeavor.
To throw some cold water on the idea of women being SAHMs, when it works (if it does), a husband has to be in the picture. But beware.
At a past job a supervisor caught his SAHM wife having an affair, and it devastated him. He told me he had wanted her to stay home with the kids because it was better for the kids. I pointed out that this was the rationale behind the welfare system—paying single mothers so they wouldn't have to work for an employer and could stay home with their children—but no one these days can say with a straight face that those children turned out better for having Mom at home. He didn't like to hear my observation, but he didn't disagree.
Almost every woman I've known of who cheated on her husband was a SAHM. They have more time to do that, and no other adult is around during the day. There's an old joke from the 1950s: Mrs. Jones (a SAHW) has two children. One looks like the mailman, the other like the milkman.
At a past job a supervisor caught his SAHM wife having an affair, and it devastated him. He told me he had wanted her to stay home with the kids because it was better for the kids. I pointed out that this was the rationale behind the welfare system—paying single mothers so they wouldn't have to work for an employer and could stay home with their children—but no one these days can say with a straight face that those children turned out better for having Mom at home. He didn't like to hear my observation, but he didn't disagree.
Almost every woman I've known of who cheated on her husband was a SAHM. They have more time to do that, and no other adult is around during the day. There's an old joke from the 1950s: Mrs. Jones (a SAHW) has two children. One looks like the mailman, the other like the milkman.
Because women at work don't cheat on husbands.
I'd like to see the statistics, if they exist.
The problem here isn't the wife working or not, the problem here is cheating on the spouse.
If a fella marries the wrong woman, this is a concern if she is a stay-at-home or not.
Plenty of working women cheating on work trips or with co-workers. It’s the person, not the occupation (or lack thereof).
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Sounds similar to the military when the husband is away for weeks / months and wife gets lonely…..
My Daughter was a Pharmacy Tech. After having kids, she is now a stay-at-home Mom and Homeschools the grandkids. Her Husband is in the Air Force. The public school system will never get to see my two grandsons. Thank God.
Lemme tell you with a couple kids plus - going to work is easier unless you are an under water sulfur miner with no breathing apparatus
Being a stay at home mom (or dad) is a tough job and I give credit to those who do it, especially in the first 10 years or so.
and men …
I’m surprised some of the comments in here are so focused on cheating women. It goes both ways.
I have known far more working cheating men and women then stay at home. Almost toxic levels depending on the group.
Be leery if your spouse feels the need to go out with the boys or go out with the girls after work on a regular basis. There’s a reason they are not coming right home.
Thought Ladys Home Journal took over the puter.
I 1000% agree, but sometimes the most difficult things are more rewarding.
I did 14 weeks home with our first while her mom returned to work, from ~5 months to ~8.5 months, and another 14 weeks with both of them when our second was ~6 months to ~9.5 months (with the older one home turning 3 during that time). Not for the faint of heart. It's for the most part a thankless job that has shimmering moments, but long commuting days mean I miss out on a lot of the shimmering moments too, not just the headaches. The ups and downs at home make daily work look like a cakewalk.
Women being stay at home moms is a bit selfish and lazy past the first few years. Don't let my initial sentence taint the rest of what I wrote, read on...
Once upon a time ago, that was a legitimate use of one's day, but now we have conveniences that negate the need for spending so much time doing the daily chores, such as:
Microwave.. and if you want to go back far enough, even a gas or electric stove
Clothes washer
Dish Washer
Vacuum Cleaner
Ready made products and services to do anything you might need done.
Grocery stores with an abundance of choice and even convenience semi-prepared foods.
Nearly unlimited access to an infinite amount of information because you have... get ready for it... internet access.
If you want your woman (lol, that reads as possessive but I could write "your man" to women and so it is just based on context) to stay at home because she's hot and you don't want her to have as many solicitations and advances from other men, that's something you pay for, and is arguably isolationist and her friends will claim you are a bad person for wanting that.
It is helpful and good for your children's development, for the mother to stay at home to raise children during their most formative years. After that point, she's a boat anchor if she doesn't pull her own weight, and something is wrong with her if she doesn't want more than that and feel bored out of her mind. Idle time watching TV, surfing the internet, and snacking all day long, rots the mind and body. I am only generalizing, each specific person has their own life choices.
So yes, stay at home mom is a good thing, until it isn't.
Once upon a time ago, that was a legitimate use of one's day, but now we have conveniences that negate the need for spending so much time doing the daily chores, such as:
Microwave.. and if you want to go back far enough, even a gas or electric stove
Clothes washer
Dish Washer
Vacuum Cleaner
Ready made products and services to do anything you might need done.
Grocery stores with an abundance of choice and even convenience semi-prepared foods.
Nearly unlimited access to an infinite amount of information because you have... get ready for it... internet access.
If you want your woman (lol, that reads as possessive but I could write "your man" to women and so it is just based on context) to stay at home because she's hot and you don't want her to have as many solicitations and advances from other men, that's something you pay for, and is arguably isolationist and her friends will claim you are a bad person for wanting that.
It is helpful and good for your children's development, for the mother to stay at home to raise children during their most formative years. After that point, she's a boat anchor if she doesn't pull her own weight, and something is wrong with her if she doesn't want more than that and feel bored out of her mind. Idle time watching TV, surfing the internet, and snacking all day long, rots the mind and body. I am only generalizing, each specific person has their own life choices.
So yes, stay at home mom is a good thing, until it isn't.
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A friend and his wife did the math and figured out that the wife's entire income was going towards daycare for two children, a second vehicle, and the wardrobe (business professional) she had to maintain for her job. Throw in the fact that she really didn't like what she was doing and the choice was easy to make.
Nick1994
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I like the term Domestic Engineer
That’s where homeschooling comes in. I have substitute taught for my wife when she was sick and much preferred going to work.Women being stay at home moms is a bit selfish and lazy past the first few years. Don't let my initial sentence taint the rest of what I wrote, read on...
Once upon a time ago, that was a legitimate use of one's day, but now we have conveniences that negate the need for spending so much time doing the daily chores, such as:
Microwave.. and if you want to go back far enough, even a gas or electric stove
Clothes washer
Dish Washer
Vacuum Cleaner
Ready made products and services to do anything you might need done.
Grocery stores with an abundance of choice and even convenience semi-prepared foods.
Nearly unlimited access to an infinite amount of information because you have... get ready for it... internet access.
If you want your woman (lol, that reads as possessive but I could write "your man" to women and so it is just based on context) to stay at home because she's hot and you don't want her to have as many solicitations and advances from other men, that's something you pay for, and is arguably isolationist and her friends will claim you are a bad person for wanting that.
It is helpful and good for your children's development, for the mother to stay at home to raise children during their most formative years. After that point, she's a boat anchor if she doesn't pull her own weight, and something is wrong with her if she doesn't want more than that and feel bored out of her mind. Idle time watching TV, surfing the internet, and snacking all day long, rots the mind and body. I am only generalizing, each specific person has their own life choices.
So yes, stay at home mom is a good thing, until it isn't.
Homeschooling isn’t for everyone. I know other women who started small businesses or do volunteer work. Very few sit and watch TV in our circle.
Same here. As kids grew, wife got busy (hey now) - she started two small businesses, then got her masters, then when kids were driving started a part time gig with the state (pension even) and when they were all launched she went full time at UWMC (she hated it!!! more than all the rest, but doubled down on pension and getting SS income up, which is a thing)
