If you feel the need to furnish your own parts you need to just go all the way and do it yourself.
And yeah, this was ONE oil change in the life of the vehicle. Any oil and filter they used will be good enough and there's simply no way it's going to shorten the life of your motor in any measurable way.
I understand they didn't follow directions, but being concerned about the quality of parts used for one OCI is needs-medication level OCD on an old Honda.
I get it D60 however I also get OP's situation.
I am no stranger to suppling my own parts / fluids as it started mid 90's with my Volvos and Mercedes and crap oil filters my local quick lube used back then... My local shop allowed my own fluids and filters and then one day, a new manager and policy and no more customer supplied filters...
I now actually choose the brand of car or truck I buy based on how far I must drive for dealer oil changes so problem solved for me.
Both my Volvo dealer and Mercedes dealer were well over a hour drive each way 2 hours round trip. Even as a young guy in the 90's it was times I could NOT do a oil change myself.
IMO, Nothing wrong with a car owner being "picky" as in this Great Land of the USA as long as one has the money, HE can be picky! Nothing wrong with customer supplied fluids and filters but many shops won't do it but find one who will. My local independent guy will do anything to my car for money, no problem but my dealers wont and is why I use both.
I'm picky, I don't settle and I am willing to pay for my pickiness and dang sure expect a shop that has agreed to use my fluids that are on the front seat to do what he agreed to do at a minimum and use my dang oil!
One mans OCD is the next guys simple expectations of a job well done.
However, I have leaned that IF you wan't it done right, do it yourself!
I find its always best to do ones own oil changes as with my OCD I know a young tech sure won't spend the time and care changing my fluids that I will.
However, I understand the aging process as I still do my own Harley services as I have a bike lift, IF I had a car lift I would continue to do my own car service but those days have passed as I'm not getting under a car on my back anymore.
If I was OP in this situation, as long as my oil and filter are now not leaking, I would drive the car and perhaps do a early oil change next time and give it no more thought. IMO, all oils are made to be mixed and my Harley oil cooler as example holds oil so I never get all the old oil out when doing a oil change...
If I felt comfortable with that same shop OP used and needed to use them again I would ask the owner, how do we keep this from happening again?
I would perhaps hand the service writer my oil and fluids or place then in the drivers seat and make them print on the work order "use customers oil" as some of these young shop guys MAY NOT be the brightest Star in the Sky...