Lost my mom yesterday.
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Don't beat yourself up. Tomorrow isn't promised for any of us. Sorry for your loss.
Sorry for your loss, i lost my mom when i was 13, tought stuff.
My sincerest condolences.
Having had family and friends pass away, I'm convinced that those left behind always question whether they did enough, or if they somehow could've prevented their loved one from passing.
Best wishes to you and yours at this time.
Having had family and friends pass away, I'm convinced that those left behind always question whether they did enough, or if they somehow could've prevented their loved one from passing.
Best wishes to you and yours at this time.
So sorry for your loss Chris
Chris, very sorry to hear of your loss.
It was not your fault.
Be strong my friend.
It was not your fault.
Be strong my friend.
Not your fault, you did nothing out of the normal, it's the caprice of life.
Your parents are always with you. I'm 59 and I still feel my mother's caring hand and kind disposition, I still hear my father's words of well earned wisdom. Life goes on. Take care.
Your parents are always with you. I'm 59 and I still feel my mother's caring hand and kind disposition, I still hear my father's words of well earned wisdom. Life goes on. Take care.
Sorry for your loss. Prayers sent.
84...that is decent life...try to look on that that way!
Rip
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Sorry to read about you mom, she raised a good son.
Sorry Chris. Prayers sent
I am so very sorry for your loss!
I don't think anyone is in a position to ascribe the reason, much less blame, in this loss...please don't think it's your fault.
I don't think anyone is in a position to ascribe the reason, much less blame, in this loss...please don't think it's your fault.
So sorry to hear the sad news, Chris.
It's natural to blame yourself, when bad things happen many of us want to figure out what we should have done differently to have prevented them. Your mom surely could have waited for a day when you weren't working to get her hair done, so maybe she just wanted to go out on her own and have a little adventure. If she had gotten to the point where a flu was going to take her, she was going to be at risk from any kind of personal interaction. The flu could have come from so many sources not related to her trip...maybe a neighbor or even the mailman bringing her letters.
You were lucky to have your mom to such a ripe old age, I lost mine when she was only 59 and I had just started college. I have been alive far longer without her than with her. When she fell ill, I was wracked with guilt because I was caught up in the swirl of college life and hadn't been staying in touch with the family very well...actually forgot to give them my phone number and they had to send me a letter telling me to call home! By the time I got home to see her, she was in a coma and never recovered consciousness. The first night I was back, my sister and I held her hands and quietly told her how much we loved her. A single tear went down her cheek, so she knew we were there. We did this when our dad wasn't around because she did not get along with him at all.
Not trying to start a pity party for myself here, just hoping that you can see that, while you will miss her terribly, you were very lucky to have had her so long.
It's natural to blame yourself, when bad things happen many of us want to figure out what we should have done differently to have prevented them. Your mom surely could have waited for a day when you weren't working to get her hair done, so maybe she just wanted to go out on her own and have a little adventure. If she had gotten to the point where a flu was going to take her, she was going to be at risk from any kind of personal interaction. The flu could have come from so many sources not related to her trip...maybe a neighbor or even the mailman bringing her letters.
You were lucky to have your mom to such a ripe old age, I lost mine when she was only 59 and I had just started college. I have been alive far longer without her than with her. When she fell ill, I was wracked with guilt because I was caught up in the swirl of college life and hadn't been staying in touch with the family very well...actually forgot to give them my phone number and they had to send me a letter telling me to call home! By the time I got home to see her, she was in a coma and never recovered consciousness. The first night I was back, my sister and I held her hands and quietly told her how much we loved her. A single tear went down her cheek, so she knew we were there. We did this when our dad wasn't around because she did not get along with him at all.
Not trying to start a pity party for myself here, just hoping that you can see that, while you will miss her terribly, you were very lucky to have had her so long.
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Chris, my condolences.
The guilt can manifest itself in different ways. I lost my mom to cancer 2 years ago. We lived 4 hours apart.
She was declared terminal about 5 months before she passed. When she went to the hospital for the last time and then to hospice, that time spanned 6 weeks -- we thought it would be a week to 10 days.
The point of this is this: I have a job, and at the time, my wife was 7-8 months pregnant. Not knowing when she would pass, I eventually had to lengthen the time between visits for the month she was in hospice. I only had so much sick time at work (plus, when I'm not at work, someone has to cover for me), and again, the pregnant wife. She passed on a 3 day off stretch, but I was using that to try to put baby furniture together (as we were behind time-wise) instead of visiting. Everyday I wish I had gone home to see her that weekend. When I got the call she was near the end, I couldn't get there fast enough, and she passed while I was on the interstate.
Different, but similar. Don't beat yourself up. There was no neglect or anything like that... things just happen. I was 40 when she died, and my daughter was born 34 days later. The one thing I learned? It's never easy to lose your mom -- at any age.
She was declared terminal about 5 months before she passed. When she went to the hospital for the last time and then to hospice, that time spanned 6 weeks -- we thought it would be a week to 10 days.
The point of this is this: I have a job, and at the time, my wife was 7-8 months pregnant. Not knowing when she would pass, I eventually had to lengthen the time between visits for the month she was in hospice. I only had so much sick time at work (plus, when I'm not at work, someone has to cover for me), and again, the pregnant wife. She passed on a 3 day off stretch, but I was using that to try to put baby furniture together (as we were behind time-wise) instead of visiting. Everyday I wish I had gone home to see her that weekend. When I got the call she was near the end, I couldn't get there fast enough, and she passed while I was on the interstate.
Different, but similar. Don't beat yourself up. There was no neglect or anything like that... things just happen. I was 40 when she died, and my daughter was born 34 days later. The one thing I learned? It's never easy to lose your mom -- at any age.
Celebrate the years you had a great mom.
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