Lost my brother yesterday

[doitmyself]

Sincerest sympathy to you and your family.

 

[TBoss1]

So sorry for your loss.

 

[Owen Lucas]

Sorry to hear about this Donald, may your brother rest in peace.

 

[sleepery]

Prayers and condolences for you and your family .

 

[jadmt]

sorry for your loss...try not to second guess his family....no doubt they are suffering too...my guess is they got the best advice they could from the Doctors....

 

[demarpaint]

Sorry for your loss, sending prayers. My mother passed the same way after a stroke, and spending 8 days on a ventilator with sepsis. The picture the doctors painted was not good, and they pretty much guaranteed she would end up back on a ventilator again if she got off of it. We had to make a decision and all we were told was if she was to go back on a ventilator all we were doing was extending her suffering. May he rest in peace.

 

[slacktide_bitog]

sorry for your loss

 

[Inked]

Thoughts are with you and your family during these difficult days and those to follow. It’s my belief that he is simply walking a different path now and that you’ll be with him again someday.

 

[Nessism1]

As an old friend always used to say...keep going. Your brother's legacy lives on in those that loved him.

 

[#18FAN]

Sorry for your loss
God be with you and your family

 

[AZjeff]

Donald so sorry for the loss of your brother. It's unfortunate that you don't trust the judgment of the loved ones that were there with him. Hopefully it won't cause a problem within the family and you can find peace.

 

[Cujet]

Sorry to hear this. It is never easy. I've found the only thing that helps me is to actively remember to be thankful for the time I had with them. That soothes my soul a bit. And to tell stories. Feel free to share one!

My very best friend died suddenly and I had so many stories to tell. But sadly, the really funny ones were 100% inappropriate for the funeral..

 

[lilspenny]

I had posted a few months ago that my brother had a stroke and was in the hospital. He made some progress with recovery in the hospital. Was then moved to a stroke rehab place and was there for a few weeks but caught an infection which turned into sepsis and was moved back to the hospital ICU. He was given various drugs to deal with sepsis and put on a ventilator. I thought we was making progres with sepsis.

His family felt he was going through hell and had the ventilator disconnected and he passed soon after.

I think they acted too quickly to disconnect the ventilator and should have given the antibiotics for sepsis a chance. But I was not part of the decision process.

So both sad and upset.

He was 74.

He lived on Nantucket during the school year and taught at the public school. So getting medical treatment for a heart attack or stroke means being flown to Boston which will certainly delay getting the proper treatment.

I sincerely hope he is in a better place.

Donald I know this is very difficult for all of you. I have had something similar with my mom. There's an old saying "time heals all wounds" and it's true to a large degree. I encourage you to pray that God will help you to forgive those that acted too soon and to help you with remembering the goods days that you shared with your brother. The future is so important and at this point it's much more important than the painful past. Please remember that the same God that not only made the first atomic particle made all of us and with Him joy and happiness can fill your heart again. Talk to God, and be there for the other hurting family members.

 

[fdcg27]

Donald, I offer you my sincerest sympathy.
I know it must be very difficult to think that things might have been different had more time on the vent been allowed, but that is something we cannot know.
We are merely men. We are not God.

 

[Patman]

Sorry for your loss Donald

 

[KGMtech]

Sad news, I hope you can accept that others made a difficult decision.

 

[BMWTurboDzl]

Condolences for your tragic loss.

 

[FZ1]

I had posted a few months ago that my brother had a stroke and was in the hospital. He made some progress with recovery in the hospital. Was then moved to a stroke rehab place and was there for a few weeks but caught an infection which turned into sepsis and was moved back to the hospital ICU. He was given various drugs to deal with sepsis and put on a ventilator. I thought we was making progres with sepsis.

His family felt he was going through hell and had the ventilator disconnected and he passed soon after.

I think they acted too quickly to disconnect the ventilator and should have given the antibiotics for sepsis a chance. But I was not part of the decision process.

So both sad and upset.

He was 74.

He lived on Nantucket during the school year and taught at the public school. So getting medical treatment for a heart attack or stroke means being flown to Boston which will certainly delay getting the proper treatment.

I sincerely hope he is in a better place.

Condolences for your loss, Donald.

 

[JeffKeryk]

Donald, sounds like your dear brother was a good guy; school teachers give us so much; they guide our lives. And are not, IMO, fairly rewarded. I lost my brother at 44; he suffered greatly with cancer for almost 2 years.

Your brother is not sick anymore; he's got wings!. The thing that helps me is I get to have Greg's children and grand children in my life. I am committed to help where I can. They are all a bright spot in my life.

RIP to your dear brother. I admire the way you give him honor.

 

[CarLuver]

Condolences to your family.