Lost my brother yesterday

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I had posted a few months ago that my brother had a stroke and was in the hospital. He made some progress with recovery in the hospital. Was then moved to a stroke rehab place and was there for a few weeks but caught an infection which turned into sepsis and was moved back to the hospital ICU. He was given various drugs to deal with sepsis and put on a ventilator. I thought we was making progres with sepsis.

His family felt he was going through hell and had the ventilator disconnected and he passed soon after.

I think they acted too quickly to disconnect the ventilator and should have given the antibiotics for sepsis a chance. But I was not part of the decision process.

So both sad and upset.

He was 74.

He lived on Nantucket during the school year and taught at the public school. So getting medical treatment for a heart attack or stroke means being flown to Boston which will certainly delay getting the proper treatment.

I sincerely hope he is in a better place.
 
My sister will soon be 80 and her mind and body are failing. I am 78 and am her legal Guardian. I have her in a great assisted living facility now because she kept falling and would not always wear the fall alert I got for her. I know what is coming but I certainly won't be pushing the end. She has already signed a DNR that was shown to her at the hospital 2 years ago.
 
I had posted a few months ago that my brother had a stroke and was in the hospital. He made some progress with recovery in the hospital. Was then moved to a stroke rehab place and was there for a few weeks but caught an infection which turned into sepsis and was moved back to the hospital ICU. He was given various drugs to deal with sepsis and put on a ventilator. I thought we was making progres with sepsis.

His family felt he was going through hell and had the ventilator disconnected and he passed soon after.
I am so sorry for your loss. Way too young. We had to make the decision to disconnect my brother in law from his ventilator back in February 2020 and my wife, me and his 90 year old mother sitting with him, watching him die for those 20 minutes was a memory I wish I could forget.

Too soon but he may have had a clause in his will or life directive instructions that no extraordinary life saving measures were to be used. Ventilation via intubation as a life support measure (and not for surgery use) is generally considered an extraordinary measure. I just inserted this clause in my papers. These instructions override all other wishes and are final.
 
So sorry to hear of your loss Donald. Life is precious and we never know what will come next.

A close family member passed away in her home completely unexpectedly a couple days after Christmas. There wasnt a clue that anything was wrong with her. Nothing, we were recently all together for a family gathering. She was the same age as your brother.
 
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