Less "social" as I get older....

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Originally Posted By: bradepb
I like being alone alot, still love seeing my grown kids and I can tolerate my wife most days.
I dread the holidays coming and the long days of visiting with relatives, I mean I like them and all but why do we have to stay over there house for 6-8 hours on thanksgiving and xmas? And this year we are hosting, so 30 people at my small house all darn day and night sitting around talking about nothing that matters.

Well said. The holidays are pure torture for me. My favorite day of that time of the year is always January 2nd.
 
After living in a ghetto for close to 25 years, then moving into a really stable, quiet neighborhood, things drastically changed for me. I used to dread going home but now I turn into my neighborhood and thank God I can have some peace.

Sometimes, when my wife and I are just sitting in the living room and it's quiet, it'll go like this:
Me: Did you hear that?
Wife: No?
Me: Neither did I.
Then we'll laugh.

I blame my West Virginia genes on the avoidance of large crowds and social gatherings. I can tolerate very little and absolutely do not like gatherings at my home unless it is family. I'm not apologetic for this at all and don't think I should be. I enjoy my life.
 
Maybe you are just more introverted:

http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/arch...tq3RBR.facebook

Quote:

The worst of it is that extroverts have no idea of the torment they put us through. Sometimes, as we gasp for air amid the fog of their 98-percent-content-free talk, we wonder if extroverts even bother to listen to themselves. Still, we endure stoically, because the etiquette books—written, no doubt, by extroverts—regard declining to banter as rude and gaps in conversation as awkward. We can only dream that someday, when our condition is more widely understood, when perhaps an Introverts' Rights movement has blossomed and borne fruit, it will not be impolite to say "I'm an introvert. You are a wonderful person and I like you. But now please shush."
 
Most everything changes as we go through life. Appetites, interests, tolerances...trips to the bathroom in the middle of the night...

I did not go to a birthday get together held for me and another family member this year. Told them I was not going to be there. Was told I really must be there. But I did not go. They got mad. I did not care. They'll know next time.

I'm just trying to do what Oprah told me. Follow your joy.
 
Originally Posted By: levi
I did not go to a birthday get together held for me and another family member this year. Told them I was not going to be there. Was told I really must be there. But I did not go. They got mad.


My birthday is Christmas Day, which (sometimes I feel selfish) even 'though I've never worked my Birthday in my life, I've never had the day to me (or been to a resteraunt etc. etc.)...shouldn't be a biggie, but this year, better half's eldest has organised thei version of the event..."First you all HAVE to turn up on the 23rd, and stay until the 29th...blah blah blah"...I get anxious just thinking about it.

Better half said no, which got my family started on "bringing the kids to them".

We're staying home, kids in their beds, waking up to their presents, to play with when they want to in their house/yard.

And we might grab a seafood buffet at the club, or make our own.

Next year, we are thinking of a family cruise, straight over the top of the event.
 
Of course we are antisocial. we are BITOGers.

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Originally Posted By: Shannow

My birthday is Christmas Day, which (sometimes I feel selfish) even 'though I've never worked my Birthday in my life, I've never had the day to me (or been to a resteraunt etc. etc.).

...And we might grab a seafood buffet at the club, or make our own.


Sorry, this is all I can think of about eating out on Xmas...
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I'm 23 and my interest in socializing dropped sharply due to work. In college my group of friends and I were always hanging out, but now that we are all preoccupied with work we just don't have the free time or the energy, so socializing is more of an occasional thing rather than the rule.

At work I have to communicate with and assist many people all day at all levels. I have to deal with technicians, customers (both commercial accounts and individuals), administrative people, people at corporate offices, people at other branches of the company, and tons of people at other companies. Much of the interaction is mutually pleasant, and a good bit of it is not. Either way, it's draining. By the end of the day I am pretty much done dealing with most people. If you're not a family member, friend, or someone I want to talk to, I'm not interested. I have no problem being alone when I get off work.
 
For 45+ years I was ready to party at the drop of a hat, anywhere and anytime. I loved the social life above all else. Now? Leave me alone. I'm happy being a sofa spud and enjoy being with my gal. Socializing is no longer enjoyable with very few exceptions and even then only with specific people......and few of them at that.
 
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I enjoy the holidays! Time off with PAY. Free food/presents from family on thanksgiving/Christmas. pretty awesome to me.
 
There are ALOT of snowbirds in my building who always want to talk..I always make sure I have my headset in my ears and talking on the phone [even when no one is on the other end] whenever I walk to and from my car.
 
Originally Posted By: CROWNVIC4LIFE
There are ALOT of snowbirds in my building who always want to talk..I always make sure I have my headset in my ears and talking on the phone [even when no one is on the other end] whenever I walk to and from my car.


Probably half of them are speaking French ......
 
I find myself much less social.

I sometimes blame my job, working as a remote IT worker since 2002. I mean 98% telecommute. I did blame my kids when young (lame).

The hardest part is my wife is similar. She does not like socialization in large groups. I wish we complimented one another better in this aspect.
 
I never been a big fan of being around a ton of people. I like it quiet most of the time. Family events are alright, depending. My girlfriend hates Christmas/Thanksgiving, especially because my family meets up and such. She generally avoids them, even when I ask her nicely to go to keep me company! This Thanksgiving we are going to stay overnight out of town and eat at a Mexican place we love, just us! Thanksgiving has always felt like a weird Holiday to me. I think you should be thankful everyday! And all those poor turkeys... :p

I like being around family, but sometimes it can get annoying. People all hectic, too busy trying to make everybody happy, politics and other annoying discussions. I miss when we were younger and my cousins and I would just go play outside all day and eat. The good ole’ times!
 
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Originally Posted By: Papa Bear
Originally Posted By: CROWNVIC4LIFE
There are ALOT of snowbirds in my building who always want to talk..I always make sure I have my headset in my ears and talking on the phone [even when no one is on the other end] whenever I walk to and from my car.


Probably half of them are speaking French ......


You are right..95% of the snowbirds in my building are Canadiens..That is fine with me cause they are a lot nicer then most of other snowbirds.
 
I wear headphones at work to avoid talking to coworkers. And the times I'm not wearing headphones if someone tries to make small talk I pretend my cell phone just buzzed and I do the "I gotta take this" look and walk away. 12 years same faces same stories. It just gets old...

I just don't care for people much, and I'm only 38.

I never used to be this way. I blame my line of work for making me an introvert, although i'm sure it has also been due to my age. I am a software analyst and spend my days staring at code wondering [censored] is wrong with it. It is sucking the life out of me and this job has become the cemetery for my soul.
 
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