Less "social" as I get older....

[Pablo]

Lemme put it this way: I get my fill of people during the day. I have a very very stressful job interacting with people from all levels almost constantly.

I'm not grumpy or depressed, hateful or otherwise antisocial, but it seems when I was 18-40 I craved socializing, now - it's like I want to be with just my wife, or my kid or maybe one other buddy and to be totally honest people exhaust me. I mean if I go to some soiree or even an office social meeting I come home stinking tired and want to be alone.

Is this normal? It only makes me crave retirement even more!! I can see myself living off the land.

 

[hattaresguy]

I'm 26 and I hate people, I'm quite unsocial if I don't like you.

 

[aquariuscsm]

Pabs I`m right there with ya! I`m the same exact way.

 

[RW1]

Mid 50s and completely understand what you're saying. I feel the same. I refuse to go to after hour gatherings because it feels like work. Same people, same [censored] that I see all day. As much as my wife hates it, I've even begun hunting alone just to get away from people. Haven't quite started wearing my trousers up to my chest or yelling at the kids to stay off the lawn but those days are not too far away.

 

[wrcsixeight]

I think I'm gonna get a dog. Humans irritate me.

 

[oilboy123]

Just turned 50 this year and social events just suck the life out of me. They always have. Need I say more..............

 

[2cool]

Pablo,
I notice the same thing as I've aged. I am an instructor and I deal with people from all sorts of backgrounds. After 8 hours I AM TIRED and I don't really want to be "on" anymore. I have a friend that is a teacher, same age as me, and she can hardly wait to retire. I guess part of it is the mental energy required to socialize, and part of it is being much more sure of yourself; you don't need the affirmation as much as you used to. Nothing wrong with you!

 

[NHGUY]

People and all their different personalities,their open hatred of others,never can suck it up and get along....I deal with it all day at work,when I am not being paid for it,I will not deal or tolerate it. I washed my hands of females a good 10 years ago as well.Liars,backstabbers,money hungry sponges...life is too short to get jerked around.#1 is YOURSELF,think of yourself more often,and worry less of others.They will never change,why shorten our own lives in a vain attempt at changing others,when they will always be what they are....pitiful.

 

[sasilverbullet]

Wow, I don't feel so strange anymore - mid 50's and pretty everything Pablo said...

 

[JHZR2]

I can't say that in person Im the best conversationalist if Im not talking about the topics that interest me.

Its one thing if it is the wife, another if it is a stranger or semi-stranger.

I have a strong desire to be social with my closest friends and family, but even then generally just with one group or maybe two, get it too complex an d it becomes tiring.

So I agree generally with you.

The thing that I guess is a blessing for me, is that while friends like to sit at home watch tv or drink beer when by themselves, I cant stand doing that - I have to be busy. So I always have two or three things going on. The reason why I say this is because its not like Im really "tired", its just that my mind is in another place it seems. FWIW, FBOW.

 

[simple_gifts]

Glad this thread is chock full of posts from people who don't like socializing..... I'm gagging on the contradiction.... lol

 

[chubbs1]

Originally Posted By: RW1
Haven't quite started wearing my trousers up to my chest or yelling at the kids to stay off the lawn but those days are not too far away.



LOL

I have a job were I have to be constantly interacting with ALL kinds of folks. I, like you, come home exhausted and just don't feel like talking most of the time. I don't even call old friends and I avoid parties like the plague. I even think I used that as an excuse once...."sorry I won't be able to make it to your party, I have bubonic plague Dr.s say it may be contagious."

 

[tigrpal]

Same here. I think of it as contentment. I'm happy with my wife and kids.

 

[Dave Hess]

Me too, I'm almost 50 and I try to avoid other people's drama, theatrics and bull &%#@. This includes both family members and coworkers. The older I get the less I want to deal with idiots.

 

[Pablo]

Online "socialization" is not draining at all....we are talking the real thing. Not this fake stuff.

 

[Drew99GT]

I'm a social butterfly.

 

[Drew99GT]

I agree Pablo; I rarely deal with people who like to converse about moly, socialism, and the gold market.

 

[Propflux01]

Originally Posted By: sasilverbullet
Wow, I don't feel so strange anymore - mid 50's and pretty everything Pablo said...


Me as well.. Guess that's another reason I do not have a Facebook account!

 

[daves87rs]

I try not to worry about it much....maybe it's because I take it day by day...

 

[jorton]

53 or 54

since I quit drinking beer
you're not so fun