Lead on a really used filter...

[Gary Allan]

Hmmm ..well you obviously didn't express shock about her car care technique. Which means that you didn't want to make her feel like a bimbo. ...I see ..now ..hmmm.


Well, how casual or acquainted are you with this woman? You can simply be candid and say that you would like to put a new filter on her car and have an interest in the condition of the old one. A very short and brief explanation of your internet distractions in lubrication/car maintenance as a hobby.

No matter how you approach it ..if she's going to look at you as a weirdo ..she's going to look at you like a weirdo. OTOH, she will probably just say "Sure" and be a little confused as to why you would want it ...and shortly there after have it pass out of her head. That is, she'll surely have better things to dwell on in a few minutes of you asking this. This shouldn't be a reinactment of the Airplane scene where the husband gets a second cup of coffee, which distresses his wife(That's funny. John never asks for a second cup of coffee at home. - cue suspense music

-- or "That's funny. Other men don't ask for my old oil filter"

)

Yes, there is an interest in seeing such a thing.

 

[BatmanLS1]

I will work on getting the filter. I will just express interest in seeing if a filter holds up to such abuse...she knows I am a "car" type.

I had previously discussed cars in passing with this person, and knew some neglect was taking place. I did not realize it was to this extreme though.

 

[Bryanccfshr]

Certainly, offer to do a filter change for her.. This filter should be a sight to see. It would probably be a little to forward to ask to take a look at her rockers.

 

[Drew99GT]

Bet it's a Fram. I also bet there are may new "pathways" of least resistence through the media

 

[Pablo]

You made this all up. Come clean.

I think I just hurt myself...

 

[dkcase]

On a co-worker's '98 Camry that I change oil for we used Auto-Rx. At the end of the clean cycle I wasn't going to get over to change it, so I suggested she take it to Jiffy Lube, but have them save the filter. She lives 30 miles away from me.

They put in Pennzoil for the rinse phase.

When she asked them to save the filter, they laughed but said sure. I had given her a ZipLock bag and a coffee can for them to put it in.

 

[Tosh]

Batman, I realize you're looking for your daily good deed, and this one does sound seductive (in more ways than one), but you need to extricate yourself from this one. The moment you touch her car, in her eyes you will forever be the cause of whatever mishaps are long overdue on this poor neglected Prelude. She just needs a husband, not a superhero....

 

[RF Overlord]

quote:

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Originally posted by Tosh:
The moment you touch her car, in her eyes you will forever be the cause of whatever mishaps are long overdue...

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I agree w/Tosh 100%. No matter how well-intentioned you are, and no matter how high the quality of the replacement filter, YOU will be the one she will blame when her motor locks up next week...

To quote Monty Python and the Holy Grail: "Run away!"

 

[Raven18940]

^I'm with stupid

Plus, at the rate good oil being put in that engine, do you really think she even needs a filter.

 

[ediamiam]

no good deed goes unpunished.

 

[BatmanLS1]

Oh, sorry I didn't post this before...

All along, I had no intentions of actually removing the filter myself. I can only imagine the worst happening...I don't know what, but with a filter that's been on there that long, I can only imagine.

I will see if she has time to go by an Iffy Lube and have them save the filter.

 

[LubeOiler]

Should I offer to buy a new filter for her just to get the old one.She brought up that she was in the market for a new one. This does sound like you want to see more than her old filter.This story has drama like the woman I met at Citgo who asked me to help her with her oil.I told her it needed A half qt. She said she was going to change it soon at Gyppie Lube, so I told her not to bother but then she said She didn't know anybody around here since she just moved here. She went on to say she was on her way to Tampa (250 miles) so I filled itup for her.She then asked me for my cell phone # and if I would help her get her car back in shape before I could respond she said I will pay you for everything.I looked down at the Buick 3800 seris II and couldn't turn down a woman in distress. (The Buick Too) yes I gave her my # and she quickly gave me her Cell Home and Name

So these things happen everyday you see.

 

[BatmanLS1]

Chatting w/ a co-worker the other day, and I asked her some things about her car. She brought up that she was in the market for a new one. Turns out she has a mid 90s Honda Prelude. She didn't know what engine, just that it leaks a lot of oil. Has 120k miles.

She said she just waits for the oil light to come on (stays on for good, not blinking or on then off then on) and adds more to the engine. She said the dipstick shows no oil when this happens.

She then says that she hasn't done an oil change in 3 years b/c she's always adding oil...which in this case just means the filter b/c the oil changes itself.

I would estimate that to be about 30k ago.

Should I offer to buy a new filter for her just to get the old one. Is there any interest in seeing such a thing, or have we had enough of those freak shows around here?

Most importantly though, how would one express interest in an oil filter and not come across as a person who needs to seek mental help. I'm sure I would be branded as a nut case.

 

[Raven18940]

Are you really interested in an oil filter clugged beyond all hope?

 

[Tosh]

So, LubeOiler, did you lube and oil her? Or did the drama just fizzle out, like in Batman's case? I'll happily tell a story of interoffice romance and car maintenance in exchange for further details from both of y'all....

 

[kingrob]

There's a couple of ways this could turn out. The first is the engine goes out before she sells it and she blames you and everyone hates you for doing the right thing. Or, she could notice what a strong, young He-man type you are for helping her with her car and invites you back into her house for lemonade and pancakes (heh heh heh...)

But seriously, give that filter a spin and let's see what's in there!

 

[BatmanLS1]

I made the formal request for the filter today. I even showed her BITOG as legit proof that I read about this stuff. She said she was going to take the car in since it's about to be sold, and would ask for the oil filter...If I am able to get it, I will start a new thread with the findings...otherwise, you can blast me for taunting you with a story of a used filter, and in some people's eyes, office romance.

 

[kanling]

You showed her this place? Now she knows you are some kind of oil pervert who likes to look at pictures of green oil, naked filters, sludgy engines, and other disturbing stuff. You'll be lucky if she doesn't report you to the HR department.

 

[Eddie]

And us BITOGERS WORRY AND WORRY if we find our oil level alittle below the full mark. I guess there is us and the real world. She doesn't need help WE DO. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[sky jumper]

my friend has a 2003 BMW 3 series with 28k miles and has never changed his oil. only tops it up when the oil light comes on every couple months. anyone interested in seeing his UOA or filter?

btw - this is why I will never buy a previously leased used car.