How does one go through life with a job that stinks.
I had a job at a large bank until Oct of last year. I took a job in May of this year that pays a little less and has quite a bit more work to do. I make up what pay I lost with a part time job elsewhere.
I actually like the people at my part time job, although it stinks too, the personalities aren't as bad at my part time job as they are at my full time job.
At the bank I could come home and relax. I almost never had to work nights or weekends. With this new job it is sometimes nights, sometimes weekends, and it is difficult to juggle schedules of coordinating both jobs.
Hence I am never home, and when I am I sleep or do more work. Yard work, house work, fixing another something, and thinking about all the other things that I would like to be doing instead.
We are getting ahead financially. Due to Dave Ramsey and knocking out debt for the first time ever. The second job makes up for more than what I lost when I took that new job. But it is taking a toll.
I'm really tired. Not like military fall-asleep-at-front-leaning-rest type tired, but mentally drained.
I used to come home and enjoy relaxing. I would read, play video games, watch TV or DVDs with my wife, or just go and plan my next remodeling project with her.
(I like to tinker and build stuff so we pick a project once a year or so and attack it, or at least we did before Dave Ramsey. For now it is Debt Snowball time!)
My wife is a full time student. She takes classes during both the day and night so we don't see each other much.The good part about all that is that I have almost paid off all her student loans. She will still be taking some out as she goes, She has 2 more years of school the last I heard. But I am pretty sure I can pay those off almost as fast as she takes them out, and take a fair chunk of large payments on my student loans as we go.
But I'm not enjoying it. Is this how it goes? Tired all the time, feeling burned out and not getting to do anything fun in your life?
How do you guys do it?
I'm trying to keep this family friendly. But man, Boot Camp wasn't this hard. I thought after College (which included 5 years of Marital Arts, combined with 5 years of ROTC and all those classes) that things would calm down and life would get easier. It seemed to there for awhile.
Maybe I am just getting soft at the ripe old age of 30. I hear age makes you mellow out. I just feel angry about everything and I don't know what more to do. I can't figure out a more acceptable alternative.
Shoot, I don't even have kids yet. We are planning that after she is done with College.
To top it off the oven went out tonight. Had a repair man come by a week ago and tell us that it was on the way out. He replaced the blown fuses, but he said that it was probably the motherboard. Looks like he was right. Going to have to blow my emergency fund on this one... or just figure out how to make the toaster oven and microwave oven work in lieu of for the time being.
I know I am well off compared to all the folks that have lost their house, or can't find a job, or are going through all the above and more. Maybe I should find some of them and ask them how they do it. Focusing on one foot in front of the other is kind of what I do now. Focusing on the immediate objective, tiny achievable steps, instead of the huge inundating picture.
But that can't be the end all be all of how you do things. It is no fun. All work and no play makes for a good employee I know. But that only works if you do something you love.
You're thoughts are welcome. Going to be up late tonight. Got another software push for this stinking job.
How do you guys do it?
I had a job at a large bank until Oct of last year. I took a job in May of this year that pays a little less and has quite a bit more work to do. I make up what pay I lost with a part time job elsewhere.
I actually like the people at my part time job, although it stinks too, the personalities aren't as bad at my part time job as they are at my full time job.
At the bank I could come home and relax. I almost never had to work nights or weekends. With this new job it is sometimes nights, sometimes weekends, and it is difficult to juggle schedules of coordinating both jobs.
Hence I am never home, and when I am I sleep or do more work. Yard work, house work, fixing another something, and thinking about all the other things that I would like to be doing instead.
We are getting ahead financially. Due to Dave Ramsey and knocking out debt for the first time ever. The second job makes up for more than what I lost when I took that new job. But it is taking a toll.
I'm really tired. Not like military fall-asleep-at-front-leaning-rest type tired, but mentally drained.
I used to come home and enjoy relaxing. I would read, play video games, watch TV or DVDs with my wife, or just go and plan my next remodeling project with her.
(I like to tinker and build stuff so we pick a project once a year or so and attack it, or at least we did before Dave Ramsey. For now it is Debt Snowball time!)
My wife is a full time student. She takes classes during both the day and night so we don't see each other much.The good part about all that is that I have almost paid off all her student loans. She will still be taking some out as she goes, She has 2 more years of school the last I heard. But I am pretty sure I can pay those off almost as fast as she takes them out, and take a fair chunk of large payments on my student loans as we go.
But I'm not enjoying it. Is this how it goes? Tired all the time, feeling burned out and not getting to do anything fun in your life?
How do you guys do it?
I'm trying to keep this family friendly. But man, Boot Camp wasn't this hard. I thought after College (which included 5 years of Marital Arts, combined with 5 years of ROTC and all those classes) that things would calm down and life would get easier. It seemed to there for awhile.
Maybe I am just getting soft at the ripe old age of 30. I hear age makes you mellow out. I just feel angry about everything and I don't know what more to do. I can't figure out a more acceptable alternative.
Shoot, I don't even have kids yet. We are planning that after she is done with College.
To top it off the oven went out tonight. Had a repair man come by a week ago and tell us that it was on the way out. He replaced the blown fuses, but he said that it was probably the motherboard. Looks like he was right. Going to have to blow my emergency fund on this one... or just figure out how to make the toaster oven and microwave oven work in lieu of for the time being.
I know I am well off compared to all the folks that have lost their house, or can't find a job, or are going through all the above and more. Maybe I should find some of them and ask them how they do it. Focusing on one foot in front of the other is kind of what I do now. Focusing on the immediate objective, tiny achievable steps, instead of the huge inundating picture.
But that can't be the end all be all of how you do things. It is no fun. All work and no play makes for a good employee I know. But that only works if you do something you love.
You're thoughts are welcome. Going to be up late tonight. Got another software push for this stinking job.
How do you guys do it?