2018 Pilot Touring here.
I did the full timing service back in November plus spark plugs (and a Bando serpentine belt) at a trusted local shop here in Maryland for around $1250 parts and labor. I bought all of the parts on my own from Rock Auto and through a local dealership for the coolant. I used the AISIN timing kit, which I HIGHLY recommend being the ONLY kit that you use and ONLY from Rock Auto if you do not go to a dealership for the service. All of the parts in the AISIN kit either are or at one point were the OEM parts for Honda (AISIN is also the OEM for many Toyota parts). There are also plenty of counterfeit kits on Amazon and eBay so use Rock Auto or nothing.
I wouldn't bother with the valves both to save money and unless there is a noticeable noise or issue.
For piece of mind, I would do a drain and fill on the transmission unless you know it has been done every 30k miles. The ZF9 likes to cook transmission fluid and the 60k recommendation for fluid changes has been shown to be too long. The Honda Type-3.1 ATF is around $30 per quart and a drain and fill takes four quarts. It is relabeled ZF Lifeguard 9 if you can find that instead. Pentosin ATF9 is the only aftermarket fluid I would ever consider using since it was designed specifically and only for the ZF9 transmissions, which use a specifically lower viscosity ATF.
If you have $140 to add on, a VCM muzzle is also recommended. In our generation Pilot, VCM doesn't seem to cause the same issues as previous generations as frequently, but I would rather have it disabled. And I do. I paid for six cylinders and I am going to have them running.
Finally, BITOG is the best forum, but you are going to want to check out piloteers.org. It will expand on everything I have brought up here.
Edit: I forgot to mention that Honda does not sell an "OEM Timing Kit." The dealer will have all of the parts individually, but you will not be able to find a "Genuine Honda" kit online. Those that you see on Amazon and eBay whose price seems too good to be true are not legitimate.