Hand crushers

[oilboy123]

What is up with guys that shake your hands and attempt to crush them?

It always catches me off guard.
Afterwords I think that I should have tried crushing it right back, or verbally asking them what the heck is up with trying to break my hand.........

Those who are hand crushers, fess up. Tell me why you do that?
Everyone else give me your Freudian analysis.
I always give a firm handshake, but don't try to crush somebody's hand.

 

[dparm]

Nobody ever told them, is my guess. Or they have some sort of macho thing going.

 

[Dan55]

If you want to prevent that in the future. Force your hand deep into the web between the thumb and index finger when you shake. It will prevent them from generating enough force to crush your hand.

 

[Pablo]

I don't mind the squeezers but what's with the guys that just grab your fingertips before you can get the squeeze going?

 

[Unearthed]

Originally Posted By: Pablo
I don't mind the squeezers but what's with the guys that just grab your fingertips before you can get the squeeze going?


+1 way worse than crushers!

 

[JoeWGauss]

Could be part of some free masoinic grip to signal to the other that they are "brothers" or something.

I have experienced this as well. I quickly remove my hand from the offending subject, and scowl at them as well. They "get it" after that unexpected reaction from me!

 

[The_Eric]

Nothing wrong with a good firm handshake... I firmly (no pun intended) in them in fact.

I could be wrong but it could be traced back to older times where a man was judged in part by his hand shake.

I'm definitely with Pablo though, when I extend my hand, I want a hand shake, not fingers.

 

[RamFan]

Originally Posted By: Pablo
I don't mind the squeezers but what's with the guys that just grab your fingertips before you can get the squeeze going?


I wouldn't say I do fingertip shakes, but sometimes I'll try to get in and out quickly and lightly as possible. Depends if my hands are sweaty or not. Just my reason why.

 

[SubyRoo]

What I dont like are the ones that think they have to continue holding your hand for the entire conversation. Just let go already, one shake is good enough.

 

[oilboy123]

Wow I opened up a forum for all different types of handshake likes, and dislikes.

I don't like finger grabbers or limp, but jeez when your hand hurts 2 hours later. I will try to remember that trick Dan55.

 

[toyotapriusguy]

Firm grip, full hand, 2 pumps max. Thats a hand shake

 

[Shannow]

Originally Posted By: Pablo
I don't mind the squeezers but what's with the guys that just grab your fingertips before you can get the squeeze going?


+ infinity, a hearty handshake is not grabbing someone's fingers.

 

[Rick in PA]

Yeah, I'm not a fan of the alpha male, I'm-going-to-crush-your-hand handshake. Firm is good. Does anybody else find they have a different handshake for the ladies? Still firm, but a gentler firmness.

 

[demarpaint]

Originally Posted By: Unearthed
Originally Posted By: Pablo
I don't mind the squeezers but what's with the guys that just grab your fingertips before you can get the squeeze going?


+1 way worse than crushers!


Yes that can be very annoying.

 

[01rangerxl]

I've noticed this before, and I just write it off as some people not being able to gauge the force of their hand. I think they want to be sure that they give a firm handshake, so they kind of overdo it. It's very common with job applicants.

That said, a very loose handshake is worse, so I don't really fault people who overdo firmness a bit.

 

[hattaresguy]

A firm proper handshake is important. Nothing worse than a limp handshake, doesn't make a good impression.

 

[The_Eric]

Originally Posted By: Rick in PA
Yeah, I'm not a fan of the alpha male, I'm-going-to-crush-your-hand handshake. Firm is good. Does anybody else find they have a different handshake for the ladies? Still firm, but a gentler firmness.


Yes, older ladies and/or less assertive women, it's a bit less firm, I'll cup my hand and also turn it horizontal a little bit. For other less ladylike (not necessarily a bad thing) or more assertive women, I give the standard handshake, but with less grip.

 

[ArrestMeRedZ]

The finger crushers are simply weak people who still want to dominate their "opponent".
We had a Japanese Liason Officer at Headquarters Pacific Air Forces who used to do this to me about once a year. He would grab my fingers and crush them with what I would consider a relatively weak grip in a normal handshake. Now, I have a very strong grip, but when it's center of the palm against my fingers, I can't compete. What would really [censored] me off is the fact I would forget about his technique from meeting to meeting.
On a couple of occasions, I came close to an international incident by considering smacking him on the jaw with my left hand to get him to let go.

 

[santov]

Originally Posted By: Dan55
If you want to prevent that in the future. Force your hand deep into the web between the thumb and index finger when you shake. It will prevent them from generating enough force to crush your hand.


Yep. It's hard to time that right though. If you get a squeezer you instead of shaking up and down and enduring the pain squeeze him hard and pull his hand towards your waste in one sudden jerk. Not like you're trying to get away but enough tip his weight forward. He'll let go or relax in reaction to falling forward.

There is a control hold, which is to squeeze three fingers (not pinky) and the knuckles pinched together hurts (try it on your left hand with your right hand). Obv, this wouldn't work well in a handshake situation.

Or you can do what my dad did when he didn't like somebody:

Look them square in the eye and lie: "My arthritis, I don't shake hands." I do that to the bible thumpers who come to the door and hand me literature and try to shake my hand.

 

[mechtech2]

Medium grip, 2-3 pumps is correct.

Small particular body parts may induce someone to use the crusher grip as a front.

Also, guys who grab your fingers [not the hand/palm] and squeeze annoy me. Weird.