Thanks for your reply. A few responses are needed here by me.
LOL about the crush on the service writer. I am about to celebrate my 25th wedding anniversary.
On the Odyclub.com forum, the transmission issues were discussed, the consensus seemed to be: If you change your ATF fluid every 15,000 miles you're golden (meaning you won't ever have transmission issues in the 2005 to 2007 Odysseys if you do the ATF drain/fill every 15k miles).
Regarding the oil changes, as I mentioned in the post, about 2 years ago I switched to lower priced oil and filters.
I kept an accurate list of all repairs. Some of the more pricy repairs were the timing belt, water pump, tensionser, camshaft seals.
Also the power sliding doors were quite expensive to maintain as other mechanics don't want to touch them, they all say take it to Honda. I had various repairs done to the sliding doors over those 10 years, including new motors, latches, and several other parts.
The Honda dealer I was using would mark up the parts about 150% if you let the service department order the parts, so I got their permission to actually go to the parts counter at the same dealership directly and order the parts to eliminate that extra markup.
But still each service visit averaged $1,000 per sliding door. (with about 2 repairs per sliding door over that time = $2,000 * 2 = $4,000 just to keep the sliding doors working perfectly. Other expensive repairs were new rotors for all 4 wheels (3 times), new brake calipers, leaks in the rear hatch and sun roof, engine mounts, air conditioner compressor and condensor failed, power steering pump failed, and alternator failed. Several other repairs and maintenenace such as PCV valve replacements, suspension parts, etc.
I really liked the van, and it had the aeura of Japanese reliability, but these vans as nice as they are, are not frugal vehicles.
The total of all the repairs and maintenance over 10 years totaled close to $20,000.
I was fortunate with the used car market still being pricy, and was able to sell the van for $5,200. I had paid $13,500 for it back in 2013.
Honestly, I'm looking at Consumer Reports magazine's car reliability ratings.
I'm thinking about migrating to Toyota Corolla's in the future, as I just want a vehicle that has a low cost of ownership.