I've been a member of the forums for many years and you all seem like a well rounded group so I need to ask some input.
I decided to leave my wife of 6 years about 4 months ago for various reasons. I had been very disconnected form her for about the two previous years and just got fed up with her repeat issues. I let her know, packed up and got my own place. We have a 5 year old son together.
We're now working through the divorce papers and everything seems agreeable besides one issue. I unintentionally met someone about 30 days ago out of the blue and we hit it off. Things are going really good and I can see it being long term. The ex found out and of course is off her rocker about it, however it's really none of her concern even though she seems to think it is. Some may think it's too soon or " you're not divorced yet". I agree, however, I've been mentally checked out of my marriage for years so for me it's been a long time.....
She wants me to wait 2 years to introduce any woman into our 5 year old son's life. I think this is ridiculous as how do you build a real relationship with the new partner if half of your life (son) isn't involved? I suggested that *if* i wanted to introduce him to someone 6-9, maybe 12 months is more like it. And not as a mother figure, just as my partner to begin with until she can mesh into our life over time. The soon to be ex won't budge and insists that if I introduce him before 2 years she will make my life [censored], talk bad about my partner to my son etc.
So divorced Dad's that have moved on, how did you handle your ex and the new partner when it comes to kid introductions? Am I off my rocker to think 6 months to a year is enough time depending on how my kiddo feels about it and how he's doing with the split at that time?
I decided to leave my wife of 6 years about 4 months ago for various reasons. I had been very disconnected form her for about the two previous years and just got fed up with her repeat issues. I let her know, packed up and got my own place. We have a 5 year old son together.
We're now working through the divorce papers and everything seems agreeable besides one issue. I unintentionally met someone about 30 days ago out of the blue and we hit it off. Things are going really good and I can see it being long term. The ex found out and of course is off her rocker about it, however it's really none of her concern even though she seems to think it is. Some may think it's too soon or " you're not divorced yet". I agree, however, I've been mentally checked out of my marriage for years so for me it's been a long time.....
She wants me to wait 2 years to introduce any woman into our 5 year old son's life. I think this is ridiculous as how do you build a real relationship with the new partner if half of your life (son) isn't involved? I suggested that *if* i wanted to introduce him to someone 6-9, maybe 12 months is more like it. And not as a mother figure, just as my partner to begin with until she can mesh into our life over time. The soon to be ex won't budge and insists that if I introduce him before 2 years she will make my life [censored], talk bad about my partner to my son etc.
So divorced Dad's that have moved on, how did you handle your ex and the new partner when it comes to kid introductions? Am I off my rocker to think 6 months to a year is enough time depending on how my kiddo feels about it and how he's doing with the split at that time?