Dude...you got only one choice...bail out while you still can. Yes, your going to lose some money but chalk it off as lessons learned. Things will NOT get better, a pattern has been established and now your name is "in" the computer. Get the #ELL OUT OF DODGE will you still can. You only live once and don't start feeling sorry for yourself. You did the best you could so feel happy. Don't sit there and fool yourself saying "things will get better," because your only kidding yourself. And THANK GOD she isn't pregnant. CHIN UP!!!! TAKE IT LIKE A MAN and move on.
Look at it this way............this whole incident is ALWAYS going to be in your mind. IF you got back together, IF things worked out, IF she could control her temper, IF you could trust her again...you will still be GUN shy. And when all this crap happens again, you will be so ****** at yourself for even trying and trusting her and this next time, you won't be getting off so easily. Women have the court system by the gonads compared to us men. We get screwed just because we are men. The next time around bring your own bottle of KY jelly because your going to get it in more ways than one.
FILE for divorce, is Washington a no-vault divorce state? Remember, you will get over this and life will still go on. Don't kid yourself thinking she hasn't thought about divorce already.