Originally Posted By: Eric Smith
Originally Posted By: Donald
My ex has borderline personality disorder. She either hates or loves you, no gray area. They are good at making you think you are the cause with all the problems.
Yeah that sounds familiar. No alcohol or drugs and eats a fairly good diet. She exercises and isn't bad shape.. it seems to occur regardless of health or anything going on. Thanks guys not sure what I'll do yet. If and when she gets to feeling better I'll talk her regarding a seeing a psychiatrist at least.
If she is a "Borderline", it is almost certain she will get highly aggressive and resistant to treatment, in addition to blaming it all on you as Donald says.
Borderlines are highly manipulative of those around them, they do this in order to mold their environment to themselves and their emotional needs. One of those needs is a need for constant reassurance, and when they don't get it, or think they are not (they often misread peoples expressions as being angry when they are not) they go "off". A common expression of this is the idea of "I hate you, don't leave me". They literally either love you or hate you, although they aren't aware enough to admit it to themselves. There is also a very observable tendency to black vs white thinking, there is no nuance, gray area, or moderation in their judgement positions.
Another name for Borderline P-D is Emotional Regulation Disorder. Read everything you can if you suspect this. This is largely a physiological disorder, the mechanisms which excite the brain are more active, and those which dampen the excitement are less active. There are some behavioral remedies which the person can use to do reality checks on themselves, assuming they ever come to believe the problem is within the themselves, not others. Google Marsha Linehan for more info on this.
Feel free to PM me if you would like to discuss...