I wasn't bored of life in my 20s, but I WAS bored by Life cereal, Life magazine, and the board game Life by that time.
were you bored of life when you were in your 20's?
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It's a difficult time.
Earlier in life, you had milestones to look forward to: 16 driver's license, 18 adulthood and high school graduation, 21 drinking age, 22 college graduation...then all the sudden it's, "what now?"
I had to think hard to remember what I did when I was 23.
I worked at Western Auto, had a rotten little 300 sq-ft efficiency apartment next door to 10 immigrant workers in the same size apartment, didn't own a car but I bought my second brand new motorcycle, I rode to New Orleans all by myself to watch a friend's band play, and I muddled through a few community college courses that I really didn't want to take.
I was still in the National Guard. That was the year that I [made very angry] an E-7 who made it his personal mission that no matter how well I did on my E-5 board, I would never see my Sergeant stripes. Served out the rest of my enlistment as a soldier that had been to PLDC (now WLC)and rocked my E-5 board but still had the "sham shield". Went from "high-speed-low drag" Army Specialist to E-4 Mafia - unavailiable and invisible for detail - Full Bird Private with one act of a SFC.
It's not that bad. It seems like nothing will ever happen - that you are stuck in neutral, but it is not that bad.
There were no answers at the bottom of any of the bottles I checked...and I checked a lot of 'em. I'm not saying you should abstain from alcohol. Just that there isn't any relief or answers in it.
Earlier in life, you had milestones to look forward to: 16 driver's license, 18 adulthood and high school graduation, 21 drinking age, 22 college graduation...then all the sudden it's, "what now?"
I had to think hard to remember what I did when I was 23.
I worked at Western Auto, had a rotten little 300 sq-ft efficiency apartment next door to 10 immigrant workers in the same size apartment, didn't own a car but I bought my second brand new motorcycle, I rode to New Orleans all by myself to watch a friend's band play, and I muddled through a few community college courses that I really didn't want to take.
I was still in the National Guard. That was the year that I [made very angry] an E-7 who made it his personal mission that no matter how well I did on my E-5 board, I would never see my Sergeant stripes. Served out the rest of my enlistment as a soldier that had been to PLDC (now WLC)and rocked my E-5 board but still had the "sham shield". Went from "high-speed-low drag" Army Specialist to E-4 Mafia - unavailiable and invisible for detail - Full Bird Private with one act of a SFC.
It's not that bad. It seems like nothing will ever happen - that you are stuck in neutral, but it is not that bad.
There were no answers at the bottom of any of the bottles I checked...and I checked a lot of 'em. I'm not saying you should abstain from alcohol. Just that there isn't any relief or answers in it.
To all the vets above...THANKS FOR SERVING.
Tig...I flew out of NAS Whidbey Island as an AT with VP-1 (Screaming Eagles) during 1955-1958.
Tig...I flew out of NAS Whidbey Island as an AT with VP-1 (Screaming Eagles) during 1955-1958.
It's proberbly normal that you should feel like this.
You are out of your teens, being part of a group is very important to teens.
My guess is, you are on your way to finding 'yourself '
Perhaps in the doldrums not knowing where you really fit in?
In my experiance, don't worry, it will pass.
Many people at you time of life Marry, just because they feel 'it's the thing to do'
More often than not, that's a mistake!
You are out of your teens, being part of a group is very important to teens.
My guess is, you are on your way to finding 'yourself '
Perhaps in the doldrums not knowing where you really fit in?
In my experiance, don't worry, it will pass.
Many people at you time of life Marry, just because they feel 'it's the thing to do'
More often than not, that's a mistake!
[censored], I wish I could say I'm bored. But let this be a time for you to find something new to do. Get a cat or dog.
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I wish I could say I was bored. At 23 I landed my dream job, at the time right seat in a CRJ. Now at 27 I'm the right seat in 737's. It's what you make of it. Get a dog, they're great company.
Originally Posted By: Spazdog
Earlier in life, you had milestones to look forward to: 16 driver's license, 18 adulthood and high school graduation, 21 drinking age, 22 college graduation...then all the sudden it's, "what now?"
That's quite accurate. Once the milestone's disappear, or you've beaten them too easily, things can look pretty grim, believe it or not. And true enough, there is no answer in the bottom of a bottle.
Milestones - it often appears that the journey is far more important and enjoyable and gives one a greater sense of focus than does the destination.
Earlier in life, you had milestones to look forward to: 16 driver's license, 18 adulthood and high school graduation, 21 drinking age, 22 college graduation...then all the sudden it's, "what now?"
That's quite accurate. Once the milestone's disappear, or you've beaten them too easily, things can look pretty grim, believe it or not. And true enough, there is no answer in the bottom of a bottle.
Milestones - it often appears that the journey is far more important and enjoyable and gives one a greater sense of focus than does the destination.
Originally Posted By: motor_oil_madman
I only have like 3 friends and they're are always so busy. I can never seem to get any other people to hangout with me either. Most of the time I set up times to hangout and they either cancel or never get back to me.
People have busy lives, and quite frankly the idea of just "hanging out" with someone (other than a spouse or family member) would bore most adults to tears. Friends change, their lives change, and what might have been important to them in their teens has been trumped by adulthood. Your problem is that, while their lives have become busy yours hasn't. Friends often change over the years; friends that I had in my teens I haven't seen in 45 years simply because we took different paths and don't have anything in common. Sometimes you have to move on and find new friends.
You need to set some serious goals for your life and start working to achieve them. Don't worry about what others think, don't worry about the dating scene (you'll meet the right one when the time is right), and in addition to your goals find a few outside group activities to sooth your social needs.
The military is another options and a very good one. Basic training will break you down and rebuild you physically, emotionally and mentally, and it will make you a much stronger person.
I only have like 3 friends and they're are always so busy. I can never seem to get any other people to hangout with me either. Most of the time I set up times to hangout and they either cancel or never get back to me.
People have busy lives, and quite frankly the idea of just "hanging out" with someone (other than a spouse or family member) would bore most adults to tears. Friends change, their lives change, and what might have been important to them in their teens has been trumped by adulthood. Your problem is that, while their lives have become busy yours hasn't. Friends often change over the years; friends that I had in my teens I haven't seen in 45 years simply because we took different paths and don't have anything in common. Sometimes you have to move on and find new friends.
You need to set some serious goals for your life and start working to achieve them. Don't worry about what others think, don't worry about the dating scene (you'll meet the right one when the time is right), and in addition to your goals find a few outside group activities to sooth your social needs.
The military is another options and a very good one. Basic training will break you down and rebuild you physically, emotionally and mentally, and it will make you a much stronger person.
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I wish I could go somewhere. Between work and school i've always been stuck in the same place. I think it would be cool to go travel the country for a week or two.
Originally Posted By: motor_oil_madman
I wish I could go somewhere. Between work and school i've always been stuck in the same place. I think it would be cool to go travel the country for a week or two.
The only person standing in the way of your goals and dreams is you.
I wish I could go somewhere. Between work and school i've always been stuck in the same place. I think it would be cool to go travel the country for a week or two.
The only person standing in the way of your goals and dreams is you.
I am 23
-I have student loans that take up 1/4 of my income.
-I am starting to have health issues pop up
-I have a hard time sleeping at night
-Finished college with a 4 year degree
Despite all of that, I'm having the time of my life! I landed a great job with great coworkers, have some good friends, have a great hobby, seeing someone, have a nice apartment and a cool cat.
I'm also broker than a joke but hey, life's pretty good.
-I have student loans that take up 1/4 of my income.
-I am starting to have health issues pop up
-I have a hard time sleeping at night
-Finished college with a 4 year degree
Despite all of that, I'm having the time of my life! I landed a great job with great coworkers, have some good friends, have a great hobby, seeing someone, have a nice apartment and a cool cat.
I'm also broker than a joke but hey, life's pretty good.
Lived in NYC, Southie in Boston and then small seacoast New England town. Traveled various parts of south america, Europe and asia with a backpack. Worked a dot-com company nutty hours where we worked hard/played hard after hours. Mountain biked hardcore a lot and played on a soccer league. Went skiing 30+ days/season.
The two financial things I did really right was buying home at 22(sold 2.5 times purchase latter) and purchasing a reliable slightly used Honda Civic instead of nutty cars peers at work bought. Had no savings whatsoever but at same time not in debt.
At age 29 though I hit depression and became a hermit. A mood disorder (minor) was diagnosed and picked up and moved on although it was a few rough years.
The two financial things I did really right was buying home at 22(sold 2.5 times purchase latter) and purchasing a reliable slightly used Honda Civic instead of nutty cars peers at work bought. Had no savings whatsoever but at same time not in debt.
At age 29 though I hit depression and became a hermit. A mood disorder (minor) was diagnosed and picked up and moved on although it was a few rough years.
I'm 24. I graduated college 1 year ago and have been working full-time since then, at a GREAT job in my field of study. I also have a part-time job on the weekends because I like the extra money, and it's kind of fun working there. I'm still living with my mother, but I have all of my debt paid off and I'm currently saving to buy a house. I don't have too much time for friends lately unfortunately, but I have goals and am working hard to achieve them. I will have a much better life when I do, and I will hopefully have more free time for friends then.
At 23 I was married with a kid, in school. I had a game plan for my next 10 years. This was my purpose in life, supporting them and growing a family is my ongoing purpose.
Get out and do some service in a soup kitchen and serving other less fortunate. It will wake you up.
Get out and do some service in a soup kitchen and serving other less fortunate. It will wake you up.
Originally Posted By: Donald
Originally Posted By: motor_oil_madman
So i'm 23 and i'm just so tired of life these days. It's been like this for probably the last year or so. I used to be so energetic about doing things and now i'm just not interested in doing anything anymore. All I do is go to school and work and rarely hangout with anyone cause I only have like 3 friends and they're are always so busy. I can never seem to get any other people to hangout with me either. Most of the time I set up times to hangout and they either cancel or never get back to me. The 3 good friends I have don't do that but anytime I try to hangout with someone else it almost always happens. Most people my age have girlfriends and are pretty close to getting married. Plus my social skills are terrible cause I don't really hangout with anyone. I guess i've kind of been a loner for so long and then one day I decided I didn't want that anymore but never knew it would be this hard to meet new people. It sure is hard to find motivation to even get moving in the morning when nobody ever wants to do anything with you. So has anyone else felt like this when they were in their twenties? I just think it's sad I feel this way. I used to have lots of hobbies and interests and now I just can't find the motivation to do anything anymore.
Ask your doctor if he will prescribe Paxil. Its a mood stabilizer. Its a low key drug, and not a benzo or addictive. But tell your doctor you are a little depressed and what would he think about a drug like Paxil. Don't borrow any or take anyone elses to try it.
Don't drink to excess because you are depressed or lonely.
You will have a GF when you least suspect it. No rush on the marriage thing.
Not trying to be rude here....but having such a casual attitude toward antidepressants is scary and way too arbitrary. To the OP...DO NOT just run to the doctor and ask for Paxil (and they WILL hand it out like candy). Many other ways of dealing with your issues exist as described here in this thread....as well as some research you could easily do online.
Originally Posted By: motor_oil_madman
So i'm 23 and i'm just so tired of life these days. It's been like this for probably the last year or so. I used to be so energetic about doing things and now i'm just not interested in doing anything anymore. All I do is go to school and work and rarely hangout with anyone cause I only have like 3 friends and they're are always so busy. I can never seem to get any other people to hangout with me either. Most of the time I set up times to hangout and they either cancel or never get back to me. The 3 good friends I have don't do that but anytime I try to hangout with someone else it almost always happens. Most people my age have girlfriends and are pretty close to getting married. Plus my social skills are terrible cause I don't really hangout with anyone. I guess i've kind of been a loner for so long and then one day I decided I didn't want that anymore but never knew it would be this hard to meet new people. It sure is hard to find motivation to even get moving in the morning when nobody ever wants to do anything with you. So has anyone else felt like this when they were in their twenties? I just think it's sad I feel this way. I used to have lots of hobbies and interests and now I just can't find the motivation to do anything anymore.
Ask your doctor if he will prescribe Paxil. Its a mood stabilizer. Its a low key drug, and not a benzo or addictive. But tell your doctor you are a little depressed and what would he think about a drug like Paxil. Don't borrow any or take anyone elses to try it.
Don't drink to excess because you are depressed or lonely.
You will have a GF when you least suspect it. No rush on the marriage thing.
Not trying to be rude here....but having such a casual attitude toward antidepressants is scary and way too arbitrary. To the OP...DO NOT just run to the doctor and ask for Paxil (and they WILL hand it out like candy). Many other ways of dealing with your issues exist as described here in this thread....as well as some research you could easily do online.
Originally Posted By: Miller88
I am 23
-I have student loans that take up 1/4 of my income.
-I am starting to have health issues pop up
-I have a hard time sleeping at night
-Finished college with a 4 year degree
Despite all of that, I'm having the time of my life! I landed a great job with great coworkers, have some good friends, have a great hobby, seeing someone, have a nice apartment and a cool cat.
I'm also broker than a joke but hey, life's pretty good.
How'd you know the story of my life?! lol
It's amazing what having good co-workers can do. For some of them its like hanging out all day.
I am 23
-I have student loans that take up 1/4 of my income.
-I am starting to have health issues pop up
-I have a hard time sleeping at night
-Finished college with a 4 year degree
Despite all of that, I'm having the time of my life! I landed a great job with great coworkers, have some good friends, have a great hobby, seeing someone, have a nice apartment and a cool cat.
I'm also broker than a joke but hey, life's pretty good.
How'd you know the story of my life?! lol
It's amazing what having good co-workers can do. For some of them its like hanging out all day.
Stay away from meds.
You need to get out the house..... NOT swallow pills.
You need to get out the house..... NOT swallow pills.
Originally Posted By: andrewg
Not trying to be rude here....but having such a casual attitude toward antidepressants is scary and way too arbitrary. To the OP...DO NOT just run to the doctor and ask for Paxil (and they WILL hand it out like candy). Many other ways of dealing with your issues exist as described here in this thread....as well as some research you could easily do online.
Agreed. Drugs are far too often the first choice when they should be the very last choice. People frequently use antidepressants when exercise, self-help strategies, or simply bucking up and dealing with life would work just as well or better—minus the side effects.
Just looking at some of the potential side effects from Paxil-I can't imagine why anyone would ever take it.
•Weakness
•Drowsiness
•Dizziness
•Nausea
•Anxiety or nervousness
•Dry mouth
•Insomnia
•Constipation or diarrhea
•Increased sweating
•Decreased libido
•Agitation or irritability
•Restlessness
•Impulsiveness
•Hyperactivity
•Tremors
•Memory problems
•Allergic reaction - difficulty breathing; swelling of your face, lips or tongue or difficulty swallowing.
•Seizures
•Problems with balance or coordination
•Confusion
•Hallucinations
•Racing or abnormal heart rate
•Fainting
•Suicidal thoughts
Not trying to be rude here....but having such a casual attitude toward antidepressants is scary and way too arbitrary. To the OP...DO NOT just run to the doctor and ask for Paxil (and they WILL hand it out like candy). Many other ways of dealing with your issues exist as described here in this thread....as well as some research you could easily do online.
Agreed. Drugs are far too often the first choice when they should be the very last choice. People frequently use antidepressants when exercise, self-help strategies, or simply bucking up and dealing with life would work just as well or better—minus the side effects.
Just looking at some of the potential side effects from Paxil-I can't imagine why anyone would ever take it.
•Weakness
•Drowsiness
•Dizziness
•Nausea
•Anxiety or nervousness
•Dry mouth
•Insomnia
•Constipation or diarrhea
•Increased sweating
•Decreased libido
•Agitation or irritability
•Restlessness
•Impulsiveness
•Hyperactivity
•Tremors
•Memory problems
•Allergic reaction - difficulty breathing; swelling of your face, lips or tongue or difficulty swallowing.
•Seizures
•Problems with balance or coordination
•Confusion
•Hallucinations
•Racing or abnormal heart rate
•Fainting
•Suicidal thoughts
Originally Posted By: motor_oil_madman
So i'm 23 and i'm just so tired of life these days. It's been like this for probably the last year or so. I used to be so energetic about doing things and now i'm just not interested in doing anything anymore. All I do is go to school and work and rarely hangout with anyone cause I only have like 3 friends and they're are always so busy. I can never seem to get any other people to hangout with me either. Most of the time I set up times to hangout and they either cancel or never get back to me. The 3 good friends I have don't do that but anytime I try to hangout with someone else it almost always happens. Most people my age have girlfriends and are pretty close to getting married. Plus my social skills are terrible cause I don't really hangout with anyone. I guess i've kind of been a loner for so long and then one day I decided I didn't want that anymore but never knew it would be this hard to meet new people. It sure is hard to find motivation to even get moving in the morning when nobody ever wants to do anything with you. So has anyone else felt like this when they were in their twenties? I just think it's sad I feel this way. I used to have lots of hobbies and interests and now I just can't find the motivation to do anything anymore.
I understand your situation. Find newer interests. Just hanging out cannot be a goal. Be more open and express yourself brashly. Thinking a lot before talking just leaves you thinking as the discussion moves a lot faster (and meaningless) in the hangout circles. Just say it, forget it and never take anything to heart. In the time one is done thinking, the others have flirted, wooed, made love and got divorced too!!
So i'm 23 and i'm just so tired of life these days. It's been like this for probably the last year or so. I used to be so energetic about doing things and now i'm just not interested in doing anything anymore. All I do is go to school and work and rarely hangout with anyone cause I only have like 3 friends and they're are always so busy. I can never seem to get any other people to hangout with me either. Most of the time I set up times to hangout and they either cancel or never get back to me. The 3 good friends I have don't do that but anytime I try to hangout with someone else it almost always happens. Most people my age have girlfriends and are pretty close to getting married. Plus my social skills are terrible cause I don't really hangout with anyone. I guess i've kind of been a loner for so long and then one day I decided I didn't want that anymore but never knew it would be this hard to meet new people. It sure is hard to find motivation to even get moving in the morning when nobody ever wants to do anything with you. So has anyone else felt like this when they were in their twenties? I just think it's sad I feel this way. I used to have lots of hobbies and interests and now I just can't find the motivation to do anything anymore.
I understand your situation. Find newer interests. Just hanging out cannot be a goal. Be more open and express yourself brashly. Thinking a lot before talking just leaves you thinking as the discussion moves a lot faster (and meaningless) in the hangout circles. Just say it, forget it and never take anything to heart. In the time one is done thinking, the others have flirted, wooed, made love and got divorced too!!
I'll also add that I am scared of the day that I finally accomplish all of my goals. What will I do next?
Right now I have something to work for ... a lot of things to work for. Including - paying off student loans, getting a house, finishing building my Jeep (it takes time as funds are limited).
Personally, I'm not a huge fan of "hanging out". I have a 40 inch TV, HDTV digital cable and ... I watch maybe an hour a week. The way I see it, if I'm sitting on my couch watching TV ... I am wasting time that I could be doing something fun.
Example: I can sit at home and watch netflix on my 40'' TV or I can go to the gym, run and watch netflix.
Anti depressants ... they scare me. I was almost perscribed them at one point (a lot of people suffer from depression) and I outright refused them. I was also given lorazopam (spelling?) for a plane trip ... absolutely refuse to take them ... I don't need to be putting mind altering stuff in my body. Simply put, it's scary what some of the side affects are.
Right now I have something to work for ... a lot of things to work for. Including - paying off student loans, getting a house, finishing building my Jeep (it takes time as funds are limited).
Personally, I'm not a huge fan of "hanging out". I have a 40 inch TV, HDTV digital cable and ... I watch maybe an hour a week. The way I see it, if I'm sitting on my couch watching TV ... I am wasting time that I could be doing something fun.
Example: I can sit at home and watch netflix on my 40'' TV or I can go to the gym, run and watch netflix.
Anti depressants ... they scare me. I was almost perscribed them at one point (a lot of people suffer from depression) and I outright refused them. I was also given lorazopam (spelling?) for a plane trip ... absolutely refuse to take them ... I don't need to be putting mind altering stuff in my body. Simply put, it's scary what some of the side affects are.
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