were you bored of life when you were in your 20's?
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Originally Posted By: PostalBound
Go talk to CarNoobie. Be good for both of you.
Why is he in the same situation as me?
Go talk to CarNoobie. Be good for both of you.
Why is he in the same situation as me?
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I was having the time of my life. Its only got better.
YUP!
Best thing you can do right now, man -- pick up the phone and call your doctor, schedule an appointment for depression.
It's a serious illness with serious consequences. Please just swing by the doctor. Then you can get back to obsessing about oil like the rest of us
It's a serious illness with serious consequences. Please just swing by the doctor. Then you can get back to obsessing about oil like the rest of us
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Originally Posted By: jcwit
YUP!
I'll message him then.
YUP!
I'll message him then.
Yes, he was. Still is as far as I know.
Sometimes it is hard for a young person to understand some things. If you don't like where you are at in life, it is up to you to change it. Life is not like cartoons or fairy tales. In the end, you have to rely on yourself to make changes that impact your life.
I'm not saying its easy. It is not. But life is truly what you make of it. Stop whatever you are doing and do something else. You have to change your habits and routine. Find something your passionate about. Help someone. Do something.
Sometimes it is hard for a young person to understand some things. If you don't like where you are at in life, it is up to you to change it. Life is not like cartoons or fairy tales. In the end, you have to rely on yourself to make changes that impact your life.
I'm not saying its easy. It is not. But life is truly what you make of it. Stop whatever you are doing and do something else. You have to change your habits and routine. Find something your passionate about. Help someone. Do something.
I would second Astro....go Navy!....you'll learn a lot, go to a good Navy school, and have lots of buddies to hang with.
I served in the 60's, right after H.S....and it matured me for the future. After completing my tour, I used the GI benefits to go to college.
Possibly you might make a career of it.
I served in the 60's, right after H.S....and it matured me for the future. After completing my tour, I used the GI benefits to go to college.
Possibly you might make a career of it.
OK you are going to school, smart move on your part, in your future your better earning potential will enable a better life in general.
From your lack of social contacts, I would guess you are not living in a dorm.
Living in a dorm enables more contact time with others around the same age as you, but during times they are not in class, especially Friday evening and on the week-end when those who live to far away are stuck on campus.
The down side to living in a dorm is the lack of family contact. If you have a decent family, lack of contact with them can have a much greater load on your mind then you realize.
To use a mixed metaphor "Life in the dorm is like a box of chocolates", most girls crave attention, and like to get attention from as many people they can. So there is more opportunity for them to take an interest in you so you can show them some attention. Just do not expect them to think of you as the only piece of chocolate in that box. They are like a kid in a candy store when it comes to getting attention, and they are looking to see what each one is like, and they probably will have received attention from others before you, may be getting attention from others besides you, and will find others to get attention from if you no longer have time to give attention to them.
Another good place to meet people is clubs that are organized around a hobby, and adult evening classes that your local community college have.
From your lack of social contacts, I would guess you are not living in a dorm.
Living in a dorm enables more contact time with others around the same age as you, but during times they are not in class, especially Friday evening and on the week-end when those who live to far away are stuck on campus.
The down side to living in a dorm is the lack of family contact. If you have a decent family, lack of contact with them can have a much greater load on your mind then you realize.
To use a mixed metaphor "Life in the dorm is like a box of chocolates", most girls crave attention, and like to get attention from as many people they can. So there is more opportunity for them to take an interest in you so you can show them some attention. Just do not expect them to think of you as the only piece of chocolate in that box. They are like a kid in a candy store when it comes to getting attention, and they are looking to see what each one is like, and they probably will have received attention from others before you, may be getting attention from others besides you, and will find others to get attention from if you no longer have time to give attention to them.
Another good place to meet people is clubs that are organized around a hobby, and adult evening classes that your local community college have.
IF you do go to a dorm, be suer to bring a noise canceling head-phone and some study music. The noise others make can make it hard to study.
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I go to a community college and take welding classes.
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I guess bored was the wrong word. More like feeling hopeless and completely lost.
If you think it's depression, go get help before it gets bad.
And if you're just looking for people interaction in general, go volunteer (hospitals, food pantry, etc). You can work on your social skills and granted those people aren't there because they were court ordered, you have a decent pool of people to meet.
And if you're just looking for people interaction in general, go volunteer (hospitals, food pantry, etc). You can work on your social skills and granted those people aren't there because they were court ordered, you have a decent pool of people to meet.
When I was 23 I was happy as could be. Just out of the USAF and drilling with the Air National Guard. Living hand to mouth on 2 part time jobs and GI bill while going to school. Paying high rent while keeping an old truck running and paying tuition and books and still had a little left over for beer at the pub.
Life has gotten even better since then!
Life has gotten even better since then!
I know this is not related to you major, but does that community college have any evening classes like dancing, basic guitar, or basic banjo. And if they do offer these they may be at other loctions.
Some hobbies are easy to get into, like go out and get a camera, or a bicycle, or a back-pack and light-weight camping gear, and find a group and or college class that supports that hobby.
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Originally Posted By: motor_oil_madman
So has anyone else felt like this when they were in their twenties? I just think it's sad I feel this way. I used to have lots of hobbies and interests and now I just can't find the motivation to do anything anymore.
Yes. It's surprising what depression can cause. Being a "loner" isn't a sign of depression in and of itself, but losing interest in a bunch of things that used to interest you can be a sign of depression.
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Originally Posted By: motor_oil_madman
So has anyone else felt like this when they were in their twenties? I just think it's sad I feel this way. I used to have lots of hobbies and interests and now I just can't find the motivation to do anything anymore.
Yes. It's surprising what depression can cause. Being a "loner" isn't a sign of depression in and of itself, but losing interest in a bunch of things that used to interest you can be a sign of depression.
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Keep your head up. Things have a way of working out in due time. Just enjoy the ride, I agree exercising has a way of chasing depression away and I enjoy a nice good run to clear my head time to time.
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i'm hoping i'll be happier once I get into a welding job.
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