I hear you guys. I used to use synthetic just in case, too. Just in case the engine got too hot, or I didn't change it in time, and for the cold flow, and the better cleaning, and so that wear would be even less than with conventionals, and so on.
Then I joined BITOG and learned how to read UOAs and looked at them, eventually hundreds of them. And I was always rooting for the synthetics at first. I looked particularly closely at UOAs when the car was run in hot weather, or with lots of cold starts, or where there were problems with coolant or anything else, or where the poster said the engine was run hard or was modified, and so on.
In the end there was really no difference, at least not as far as I could tell. Conventionals run in hot summer weather with lots of stop-and-go driving posted great results, more often than not. Same with lots of cold starts, same with any kind of severe service you can think of. Eventually I had to admit that I could not see a single real advantage for synthetics in all the UOAs that I had looked at, and in fact very often guys would go from synthetics to conventionals and the results would actually improve.
In addition to that there was the real-world reality that the majority of truly high mileage engines I heard about were run on conventional oil, right up to the extreme examples such as the recent 1,000,000 mile Chevy. Sure there are more cars run on conventionals to begin with, so any automotive population should skew that way, but if there was an advantage to synthetics you would at least expect it to show up at those extremes, right? Apparently not. My ability to internally justify the extra expense of synthetics was evaporating.
I switched my own cars from synthetics to conventionals, and of course noticed no difference, and I would say that my current view tends to be that there is a) no provable real-world advantage to synthetics, and b) if there is some advantage that is not provable by UOA or other objective method, it is small enough that it makes no difference AT ALL to how long your engine will last, and to compound the unlikelihood that synthetics are worthwhile, it is rare that the lifespan of the engine will be a limiting factor in the lifespan of the car anyway.
I do believe that there are potential advantages to synthetics but they are not the ones being exploited by the majority of users. Long OCIs, for example, but to be truly cost-effective they have to be on the order of 15k+ miles. Improvements in efficiency due to greater film strengths could be another, but to take advantage of it you need to run a less viscous oil than you otherwise would, as AEHaas has done by running 0W-20 in a variety of cars. I have seen very few people doing that. And truly extreme conditions are another, although I don't really buy that such conditions are common: for example, most ordinary turbos seem to run perfectly well with conventionals.