Before we bought our Model 3 I hated that idea too, but after a few days it was no longer an issue. I don't even notice it. Many controls are managed using voice commands anyway.Tesla Model 3 is a non-starter due to the central PC-like display, instead of instruments behind the steering wheel.
I suspect a used Model 3 may be the best bet. With the last "update" Tesla eliminated the turn signal stalks (which also controlled the wipers), and I think I would really hate that. It also seems like Teslas are depreciating really fast so a used one might make for a very good deal. We have a '21 SR+ which has 18" wheels. In your situation that might be a better option than the sportier models with their larger diameter wheels. Our SR+ has lots of Zoom. The SR+ is supposed to be the best handling model too (because it's lighter). I like having rear wheel drive too.
I know of two older people who traded in their Model 3s after a short time for a model Y. Seems they were having trouble getting in and out (but I'm 77 and our SR+ works fine for me). One of their cream puff trade-ins would be a dream.
I'd suggest you test drive one. You might like it.