You and your Dad are good men.
Some really bad news about dad
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Thoughts and prayers sent StevieC
Originally Posted by Old Mustang Guy
You and your Dad are good men.
I hope to be 1/2 the man he is. Some big shoes to fill.
You and your Dad are good men.
I hope to be 1/2 the man he is. Some big shoes to fill.
Originally Posted by Bud
I am going through the same thing with my wife, and it's tough. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Bud I'm really sorry for you. My thoughts are with you.
I am going through the same thing with my wife, and it's tough. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Bud I'm really sorry for you. My thoughts are with you.
Originally Posted by 53' Stude
Thoughts and prayers sent StevieC
Thoughts and prayers sent StevieC
Posts like this bring us back to earth.
0w20 vs 5w20 just ain't that important.
Strength to you and your family Stevie.
0w20 vs 5w20 just ain't that important.
Strength to you and your family Stevie.
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We all love you brother! We're all family here,and it shows how some of us fight with each other like real life siblings haha
I remember getting the text that my dad was terminal. He lasted three weeks,he was 72. This was in 2014,the day before Thanksgiving. I went and spent his last three weekends with him. I still have the voicemail on my phone when my sister called and said he had died. I just got up,walked out of work,picked up my gf,and drove up to his house. He had Hodgkins lymphoma. I lost my mom when I was 18 (I'm 49 now). I'll never get used to the feeling of being an "orphan". When you lose your parents it changes your life forever.
I remember getting the text that my dad was terminal. He lasted three weeks,he was 72. This was in 2014,the day before Thanksgiving. I went and spent his last three weekends with him. I still have the voicemail on my phone when my sister called and said he had died. I just got up,walked out of work,picked up my gf,and drove up to his house. He had Hodgkins lymphoma. I lost my mom when I was 18 (I'm 49 now). I'll never get used to the feeling of being an "orphan". When you lose your parents it changes your life forever.
Originally Posted by aquariuscsm
We all love you brother! We're all family here,and it shows how some of us fight with each other like real life siblings haha
I remember getting the text that my dad was terminal. He lasted three weeks,he was 72. This was in 2014,the day before Thanksgiving. I went and spent his last three weekends with him. I still have the voicemail on my phone when my sister called and said he had died. I just got up,walked out of work,picked up my gf,and drove up to his house. He had Hodgkins lymphoma. I lost my mom when I was 18 (I'm 49 now). I'll never get used to the feeling of being an "orphan". When you lose your parents it changes your life forever.
Thanks for sharing.
We all love you brother! We're all family here,and it shows how some of us fight with each other like real life siblings haha
I remember getting the text that my dad was terminal. He lasted three weeks,he was 72. This was in 2014,the day before Thanksgiving. I went and spent his last three weekends with him. I still have the voicemail on my phone when my sister called and said he had died. I just got up,walked out of work,picked up my gf,and drove up to his house. He had Hodgkins lymphoma. I lost my mom when I was 18 (I'm 49 now). I'll never get used to the feeling of being an "orphan". When you lose your parents it changes your life forever.
Thanks for sharing.
Originally Posted by Kjmack
Originally Posted by StevieC
Originally Posted by Old Mustang Guy
You and your Dad are good men.
I hope to be 1/2 the man he is. Some big shoes to fill.
AMEN
Originally Posted by StevieC
Originally Posted by Old Mustang Guy
You and your Dad are good men.
I hope to be 1/2 the man he is. Some big shoes to fill.
AMEN
Originally Posted by StevieC
They have upped his treatment considerably but it doesn't seem to be having any effect other than really nasty side effects.
Really, really sorry to hear Stevie.
Originally Posted by FordBroncoVWJeta
KEEP SPENDING AS MUCH TIME WITH HIM AS POSSIBLE!
Originally Posted by Shannow
Don't let yourself have an opportunity to kick yourself later for the things that you didn't say or do.
This is definitely the advice.
They have upped his treatment considerably but it doesn't seem to be having any effect other than really nasty side effects.
Really, really sorry to hear Stevie.
Originally Posted by FordBroncoVWJeta
KEEP SPENDING AS MUCH TIME WITH HIM AS POSSIBLE!
Originally Posted by Shannow
Don't let yourself have an opportunity to kick yourself later for the things that you didn't say or do.
This is definitely the advice.
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Make as many memories as possible and as fast as possible.
Lost my dad to cancer,its a fast downhill so stop wasting time on BITOG and spend that time with Dad!
Lost my dad to cancer,its a fast downhill so stop wasting time on BITOG and spend that time with Dad!
Originally Posted by RazorsEdge
Make as many memories as possible and as fast as possible.
Lost my dad to cancer,its a fast downhill so stop wasting time on BITOG and spend that time with Dad!
LOL, I have been spending time with him as much as possible. I post on BITOG all day long because I have access on my phone and usually time to kill in between customer calls. Then in the evenings after dinner etc.
Make as many memories as possible and as fast as possible.
Lost my dad to cancer,its a fast downhill so stop wasting time on BITOG and spend that time with Dad!
LOL, I have been spending time with him as much as possible. I post on BITOG all day long because I have access on my phone and usually time to kill in between customer calls. Then in the evenings after dinner etc.
I understand where you're coming from. Best to you and your dad.
Just wanted to send a general thank you to all those in this thread that commented. I appreciate the kind words and the advice.
Also thanks very much to all of you that PM'ed me as well. This board has some really great folks on here.
Sorry to anyone that found the thread mushy, I'm a pretty strong guy and have dealt with a lot of things in my life but loosing a parent and one that means the world to me is super hard even for the strongest of us and I wanted to prepare as best as possible because I know it's going to be brutal on me and the family when this day comes because I'm already having a rough time with it.
Anyone that still wants to comment please feel free, I'm not ending the thread. I just wanted to make this statement.
Everyone!
Also thanks very much to all of you that PM'ed me as well. This board has some really great folks on here.
Sorry to anyone that found the thread mushy, I'm a pretty strong guy and have dealt with a lot of things in my life but loosing a parent and one that means the world to me is super hard even for the strongest of us and I wanted to prepare as best as possible because I know it's going to be brutal on me and the family when this day comes because I'm already having a rough time with it.
Anyone that still wants to comment please feel free, I'm not ending the thread. I just wanted to make this statement.
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Prayer sent.
Now is the time to spend as much time together before its too late.
Now is the time to spend as much time together before its too late.
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Originally Posted by StevieC
Anyone been through something similar that can relate? How did you cope with it, any tips you can offer?
It is a similar situation to my mom. She had cancer for a couple of years, had surgery and it appeared that she had completely beaten it, as she was free of it for 2 years but then it came back. At first it looked bad but she was on some experimental medication that seemed to be working really well as it was shrinking her tumors, but then out of the blue the doctor told her that it had spread to her brain. I still remember that conversation I had with my mom in early December 2008 when she told me that news. I knew she wouldn't have much longer. She died on January 13, 2009
I'm honestly not really sure what tips or advice I can offer here, as sometimes I feel as if I have coped well with her death but then other times I will just randomly feel very sad and think about her and it'll hit me really hard as if it had just happened. I especially feel sad when thinking about how my 17 year old son didn't get more time with her, she would have loved to see him graduate from high school, get married, etc. I do feel like she was able to fight off cancer during those years because she wanted more time with my son. She often mentioned how very young children don't have memories of those years so she wanted to live long enough that my son would have memories of her (he was 7 when she died and he does remember a lot of his time with her) My son is/was her only grandchild, so he got spoiled by her big time!
A month after my mom died I lost my job, and didn't find a new one for 6 months, so I had a lot of free alone time while my first wife was at work and my son was at school. I spent a lot of that time going for a lot of long drives by myself, I felt that helped me cope with it a little bit.
Everybody will deal with situations like this a little bit differently, I hope that you can find a way to deal with it yourself. I know that one thing I found very comforting after she died was having so many people come up to me and tell me how much my mom meant to them. I'd better stop typing now, as I'm tearing up a little bit....
Anyone been through something similar that can relate? How did you cope with it, any tips you can offer?
It is a similar situation to my mom. She had cancer for a couple of years, had surgery and it appeared that she had completely beaten it, as she was free of it for 2 years but then it came back. At first it looked bad but she was on some experimental medication that seemed to be working really well as it was shrinking her tumors, but then out of the blue the doctor told her that it had spread to her brain. I still remember that conversation I had with my mom in early December 2008 when she told me that news. I knew she wouldn't have much longer. She died on January 13, 2009
I'm honestly not really sure what tips or advice I can offer here, as sometimes I feel as if I have coped well with her death but then other times I will just randomly feel very sad and think about her and it'll hit me really hard as if it had just happened. I especially feel sad when thinking about how my 17 year old son didn't get more time with her, she would have loved to see him graduate from high school, get married, etc. I do feel like she was able to fight off cancer during those years because she wanted more time with my son. She often mentioned how very young children don't have memories of those years so she wanted to live long enough that my son would have memories of her (he was 7 when she died and he does remember a lot of his time with her) My son is/was her only grandchild, so he got spoiled by her big time!
A month after my mom died I lost my job, and didn't find a new one for 6 months, so I had a lot of free alone time while my first wife was at work and my son was at school. I spent a lot of that time going for a lot of long drives by myself, I felt that helped me cope with it a little bit.
Everybody will deal with situations like this a little bit differently, I hope that you can find a way to deal with it yourself. I know that one thing I found very comforting after she died was having so many people come up to me and tell me how much my mom meant to them. I'd better stop typing now, as I'm tearing up a little bit....
Pat, thanks for sharing. I lost all my grand parents within a few years of each other when I was a teenager. They had really strong relationships with the grand-kids and as a result I ended up in a really bad depression along with some of my other cousins. It was pretty bad. It took a long time to get over and still to this day I feel the loss so I can sympathize with some of the points you mentioned and it really makes it super tough to fathom the idea of my dad being gone.
I think I might save some vacation time (they let me bank some of it at work) and maybe take a trip back to Italy like we did in the late 90's and go visit his hometown / old house etc. and remember the good times we had when we visited. He still has living relatives there and one lives in the house he grew up in so it would be great to visit with them.
Long drives to clear my head and remember the good times is something I will most likely do when it starts weighing on me and I'm finding it tougher than normal. Thanks for the advice there.
Ok stopping here. Thanks Pat.
I think I might save some vacation time (they let me bank some of it at work) and maybe take a trip back to Italy like we did in the late 90's and go visit his hometown / old house etc. and remember the good times we had when we visited. He still has living relatives there and one lives in the house he grew up in so it would be great to visit with them.
Long drives to clear my head and remember the good times is something I will most likely do when it starts weighing on me and I'm finding it tougher than normal. Thanks for the advice there.
Ok stopping here. Thanks Pat.
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Originally Posted by StevieC
I got some really bad news and I'm having a rough time with it.
My dad's cancer has gotten really aggressive in the past couple of months and test results show it's system wide now and it's not responding to the current therapy.
Anyone been through something similar that can relate? How did you cope with it, any tips you can offer?
I only read the first post as it's very recent but I had to respond...
I've had several loved ones die of cancer, sometimes you don't cope very well, or it leaves psychological scars.
Have you ever tried any kind of complimentary or alternative medicine... yes there is plenty of sketchy and worthless crap out there, but not everything, and it doesn't have to mean discontinuing current treatment - some things work with rather than against.
I wish I could say I had firsthand experience with what works but those I loved who died with cancer went very fast, before I even knew about such things or had learned from others about such things, and I wish I knew then what I do now.
I wont mega-link alternative medicine stuff because some people get mad or feel threatened or want to lump all treatments as the same throwing the baby out with the bathwater, but i'll provide food for thought. I'm not going to get into an argument with anyone on who wants to 'put me in my place' on what they think is real, i'm just someone who has bured loved ones following western medical advice and watched others turn things around getting better while the doctors said it was impossible to get better at times. People not aware of corporate corruption of news and similar should do reading on what yellow journalism is and how people can be slandered when they hit the nail a little too close to the head providing alternatives to what big drug companies get alot of money for. But sometimes the battle is less about 'fighting against' the cancer and stopping the feeding of it in the first place.
https://www.naturalnews.com/054330_sugar_cancer_sugary_drinks.html Sugar in all forms including complex carbohydrates because it breaks down can definately feed some cancers. So some people go ketogenic - means protein and green veggies, as little carbs as possible. This is a therapy I assume few western doctors would complain about. (I dont think anyone would tell you drinking colas is good for you even if they may not think it feeds cancer)
I'd also have serious doubt about things like yearly flu shots, it's not the first time i've seen someone take a radical downturn in health "shortly after their flu shot" and i'm just NOT going to get into the argument about whether flu shots are 'safe and effective' but rather encouraging people to go and actually reading the vaccine insert when it tells you whats literally in there and encouraging a person to be looking up the individual ingredients (such as aluminum and formaldehyde) to decide if those are things you think need to be in your body or help it fight off other infections.
Or whether they want to be simply adding an infection on top of everything else, when you may or may not ever encounter the right strain of that year's flu in the first place. Note how every year it doesn't seem to match what they were sure it would in the fall https://www.vox.com/science-and-health/2018/2/1/16960758/flu-vaccine-effectiveness https://www.scientificamerican.com/...-season-why-is-this-vaccine-not-working/ https://www.nature.com/news/mutations-explain-poor-showing-of-2012-flu-vaccine-1.14940 http://www.cidrap.umn.edu/news-perspective/2008/02/fda-panel-endorses-overhaul-2008-09-flu-vaccine also note how this is always admitted in february or so but they are 100% sure THIS year's shot will work better. If someone wants to be smarmy and say I dont know anything, come february i'll potentially post the latest article saying that the 2018 vaccine didn't work any better because I see them like clockwork every year.
It's understandable why, the last article admits they choose like six viruses out of potentially hundreds (144 of just type A) http://www.sinobiological.com/Influenza-Hemagglutinin-Subtypes-and-Flu-Virus-Strains-a-144.html and it's just a guess which they think will be big that year. But you have to remember, vaccines are for profit and alot of money. Partially because the US has near total immunity for vaccine manufacturers and if you believe that makes a safer product, i'd like to sell you a Windows 98 PC because software had total immunity from lawsuits over failing to work properly too. It's not like a car where an airbag failure or something will cost them millions, software that fails costs manufacturers nothing they cant hide with good PR. Just like vaccine failures or safety issues. If a vaccine manufacturer screws up, they dont pay, the US taxpayer pays, and the manufacturer keeps their profit.
Thats all i'm going to say about that.
If you want more comments about this topic send me a message because I dont want to engage in the potential arguments that are not just a can of worms but snakes and which seem inevitable even attempting to discuss these topics online half the time in forums not willing to honestly discuss alternative health.
It's also possible you're not looking for this kind of information in which case i'll apologize for posting it, for just coping strategies I don't really have any.
PS: just to add a comment, people dont need to respond to me in this thread because I probably wont read the followups, i'm used to flame wars bringing up topics like this and I don't have energy for the drama. I post this for the original poster (and theoretically anyone else reading later who wants to PM me with something that's not harassment) and that's all. People disliking the topic are free to ignore it, i'm unlikely to post more in this thread anyways.
I got some really bad news and I'm having a rough time with it.
My dad's cancer has gotten really aggressive in the past couple of months and test results show it's system wide now and it's not responding to the current therapy.
Anyone been through something similar that can relate? How did you cope with it, any tips you can offer?
I only read the first post as it's very recent but I had to respond...
I've had several loved ones die of cancer, sometimes you don't cope very well, or it leaves psychological scars.
Have you ever tried any kind of complimentary or alternative medicine... yes there is plenty of sketchy and worthless crap out there, but not everything, and it doesn't have to mean discontinuing current treatment - some things work with rather than against.
I wish I could say I had firsthand experience with what works but those I loved who died with cancer went very fast, before I even knew about such things or had learned from others about such things, and I wish I knew then what I do now.
I wont mega-link alternative medicine stuff because some people get mad or feel threatened or want to lump all treatments as the same throwing the baby out with the bathwater, but i'll provide food for thought. I'm not going to get into an argument with anyone on who wants to 'put me in my place' on what they think is real, i'm just someone who has bured loved ones following western medical advice and watched others turn things around getting better while the doctors said it was impossible to get better at times. People not aware of corporate corruption of news and similar should do reading on what yellow journalism is and how people can be slandered when they hit the nail a little too close to the head providing alternatives to what big drug companies get alot of money for. But sometimes the battle is less about 'fighting against' the cancer and stopping the feeding of it in the first place.
https://www.naturalnews.com/054330_sugar_cancer_sugary_drinks.html Sugar in all forms including complex carbohydrates because it breaks down can definately feed some cancers. So some people go ketogenic - means protein and green veggies, as little carbs as possible. This is a therapy I assume few western doctors would complain about. (I dont think anyone would tell you drinking colas is good for you even if they may not think it feeds cancer)
I'd also have serious doubt about things like yearly flu shots, it's not the first time i've seen someone take a radical downturn in health "shortly after their flu shot" and i'm just NOT going to get into the argument about whether flu shots are 'safe and effective' but rather encouraging people to go and actually reading the vaccine insert when it tells you whats literally in there and encouraging a person to be looking up the individual ingredients (such as aluminum and formaldehyde) to decide if those are things you think need to be in your body or help it fight off other infections.
Or whether they want to be simply adding an infection on top of everything else, when you may or may not ever encounter the right strain of that year's flu in the first place. Note how every year it doesn't seem to match what they were sure it would in the fall https://www.vox.com/science-and-health/2018/2/1/16960758/flu-vaccine-effectiveness https://www.scientificamerican.com/...-season-why-is-this-vaccine-not-working/ https://www.nature.com/news/mutations-explain-poor-showing-of-2012-flu-vaccine-1.14940 http://www.cidrap.umn.edu/news-perspective/2008/02/fda-panel-endorses-overhaul-2008-09-flu-vaccine also note how this is always admitted in february or so but they are 100% sure THIS year's shot will work better. If someone wants to be smarmy and say I dont know anything, come february i'll potentially post the latest article saying that the 2018 vaccine didn't work any better because I see them like clockwork every year.
It's understandable why, the last article admits they choose like six viruses out of potentially hundreds (144 of just type A) http://www.sinobiological.com/Influenza-Hemagglutinin-Subtypes-and-Flu-Virus-Strains-a-144.html and it's just a guess which they think will be big that year. But you have to remember, vaccines are for profit and alot of money. Partially because the US has near total immunity for vaccine manufacturers and if you believe that makes a safer product, i'd like to sell you a Windows 98 PC because software had total immunity from lawsuits over failing to work properly too. It's not like a car where an airbag failure or something will cost them millions, software that fails costs manufacturers nothing they cant hide with good PR. Just like vaccine failures or safety issues. If a vaccine manufacturer screws up, they dont pay, the US taxpayer pays, and the manufacturer keeps their profit.
Thats all i'm going to say about that.
If you want more comments about this topic send me a message because I dont want to engage in the potential arguments that are not just a can of worms but snakes and which seem inevitable even attempting to discuss these topics online half the time in forums not willing to honestly discuss alternative health.
It's also possible you're not looking for this kind of information in which case i'll apologize for posting it, for just coping strategies I don't really have any.
PS: just to add a comment, people dont need to respond to me in this thread because I probably wont read the followups, i'm used to flame wars bringing up topics like this and I don't have energy for the drama. I post this for the original poster (and theoretically anyone else reading later who wants to PM me with something that's not harassment) and that's all. People disliking the topic are free to ignore it, i'm unlikely to post more in this thread anyways.
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