I got some really bad news and I'm having a rough time with it.
My dad's cancer has gotten really aggressive in the past couple of months and test results show it's system wide now and it's not responding to the current therapy.
He has been lucky and able to keep it at bay for the past 5 years but it looks like he is now loosing this battle. They have upped his treatment considerably but it doesn't seem to be having any effect other than really nasty side effects.
His oncologist told him yesterday afternoon that it doesn't look good and he might have 6 months and at best a year.
We knew 5 years ago that this was going to be a battle and this day would come and I have spent as much time with him as possible since then to make the most of it so I wouldn't regret the day that he is no longer here but it looks like our time together is going to be up shortly and I guess it hadn't hit me fully until now.
My mom is an absolute mess at the moment (understandably) and it's super rough keeping it together in front of her to be strong for her as the only one of her kids that still lives in the country.
My folks are going to fly to see my brother and sister at separate times to break the news to them in person in the next month because they don't want to do it over the phone.
It hasn't been easy since we got the news 5 years ago but it certainly wasn't as hard as it has been in the last 24 hours and then seeing my mom in such a state has only made it worse.
Anyone been through something similar that can relate? How did you cope with it, any tips you can offer?
My dad's cancer has gotten really aggressive in the past couple of months and test results show it's system wide now and it's not responding to the current therapy.
He has been lucky and able to keep it at bay for the past 5 years but it looks like he is now loosing this battle. They have upped his treatment considerably but it doesn't seem to be having any effect other than really nasty side effects.
His oncologist told him yesterday afternoon that it doesn't look good and he might have 6 months and at best a year.
We knew 5 years ago that this was going to be a battle and this day would come and I have spent as much time with him as possible since then to make the most of it so I wouldn't regret the day that he is no longer here but it looks like our time together is going to be up shortly and I guess it hadn't hit me fully until now.
My mom is an absolute mess at the moment (understandably) and it's super rough keeping it together in front of her to be strong for her as the only one of her kids that still lives in the country.
My folks are going to fly to see my brother and sister at separate times to break the news to them in person in the next month because they don't want to do it over the phone.
It hasn't been easy since we got the news 5 years ago but it certainly wasn't as hard as it has been in the last 24 hours and then seeing my mom in such a state has only made it worse.
Anyone been through something similar that can relate? How did you cope with it, any tips you can offer?
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