It's back to engine design school for you, Kreigle, for four reasons: your units don't work out, the piston moves the stroke length four times, not two, per revolution, you have only attempted to calculate average piston speed as opposed to maximum (sinusoid, right?), and fourth, to make your point, you're not seriously comparing a German Ford V4, the worst of the sixties, with a Honda inline 4-cyl, considered one of the most high tech engines of the nineties, are you? Now, a SAAB 2-stroke would have been another story...
But sure, it's generally true that faster piston speed equals more friction and heat, and therefore wear...
Also, XS650 did say 'usually.'