The only dilemma is in our heads (maybe a pun?)
The 14 mm, tapered seat plug in aluminum head torque spec. in my Caravan FSM is 13 ft. lbs. with anti-seize. The back of my NGK box recommends 7 -14 ft. lbs. without anti seize. In my case, there is not the difference you exclaim above.
On their website, NGK DOES recommend anti seize for non plated (black, plain steel) plugs. This kind of shoots a hole in their defense of altering torque/plug breakage, electrical conductance, and heat transfer.
I am 2 hours away from installing new NGK's in my Caravan. Since you have swayed to the dark side in trying the anti seize, maybe I will do likewise and NOT use it! I have already gone out on a limb using NGK instead of the "Chrysler loved Champions"
FSM's rules are meant to be broken. When I was a young pup, I remember questioning my father in law (diesel mechanic) about using regular lithium bearing grease on my '82 Escort....Ford FSM recommends ONLY 3% moly grease. I, and the Escort survived, despite the tongue lashing from my FIL.
IF/when I use antiseize on plugs, it doesn't even fill the thread valleys....very tiny amount (none on the tapered seat).
Sorry, Mr. Critic. You can attempt to top my OCD, but you will fail.