Plans for when You get Old

[Al]

I am 80. Almost none of my HS friends have made plans to live in a place where there is health care/assisted living available. I am surprised bc I actually waited till I was 78 (I think thats very late) before signing on the dotted line.

After I signed I was becoming somewhat nervous. I thought- what if one of us has a stroke and it might be hard to get in. Quite a load off my mind now that we are in.

 

[Pew]

TBH, just work and live my life until I die. When the time comes that I can't take care of myself is when my life ends; no hospice and no assisted living wanted.

 

[KGMtech]

The Jewish say, "Man plans, God laughs" however planning is not the worst thing you can do.

 

[skyactiv]

The Jewish say, "Man plans, God laughs" however planning is not the worst thing you can do.

I'm jewish and if my wife and/or I need elder care down the road, locally we have Wexner Heritage Village.

 

[Pablo]

Plan to buy stuff and absolutely enjoy life

Plan to volunteer to help others

Plan to see people and things around the world

Plan retirement properly have plenty of money and time and it will be better than when you were a child but it won’t happen unless you plan to be really healthy

 

[Passport1]

Twain said; "Do not complain about growing old. It is a privilege denied to many."

Baseball pitcher great Leroy Satchel Paige asked; 'How old would you be if you didn't know how old you were?"

 

[AZjeff]

Number 1 reason is probably money. Number 2 reason probably giving up most of what you have to do what you did.

Could I have all my tools? Do welding and woodworking? Work on the cars? Have 3 dogs?

Very few people do what you did willingly. My parents planned to die naturally in their sleep one night before they became feeble. Didn't work out.

 

[Al]

TBH, just work and live my life un til I die. When the time comes that I can't take care of myself is when my life ends; no hospice and no assisted living wanted.

You may not have a choice. Euthanasia I think is only allowed in one stake. I know what you are saying but if that happened to me it would be hard on the wife. And I would be helpless to take care of her.

I pushed the issue. She did want to leave our house. I just made the decision. I wasn't going to sit still.

 

[jetman]

My parents planned to die naturally in their sleep one night before they became feeble. Didn't work out.

My parents made no plans. They both died in their early 80s. Dad went first, never woke up after heart surgery. A few yrs later Mom had a stroke, was well enough for a few days and we all loved on her, then a few days later she was gone.
Not much suffering except for us left behind. But we'll meet again.
This is not our home.

 

[Al]

Wow!!It was HER time to go without Him!!

 

[gfh77665]

 

[AZjeff]

I pushed the issue. She did want to leave our house. I just made the decision. I wasn't going to sit still.

How is that working out? Hope she has adjusted and is happy. Pretty sure if I made a unilateral decision like that it would not go over well.

 

[cheetah50]

I'm not sure to be honest. None of the men on my fathers side have ever made it past 67, and that record was set by my grandfather.

 

[69GTX]

You may not have a choice. Euthanasia I think is only allowed in one stake. I know what you are saying but if that happened to me it would be hard on the wife. And I would be helpless to take care of her.

I pushed the issue. She did want to leave our house. I just made the decision. I wasn't going to sit still.

13 states have assisted death laws......with conditions though: "While regulations vary slightly, all states with explicit statutes require the patient to be an adult resident, mentally competent, and diagnosed with a terminal illness with six months or less to live. The patient must also be physically capable of self-administering the prescribed medication". In the near future will probably a lot more states allowing it.

 

[k1xv]

At 79, living in our mortgage free rural home, alone now since my wife died 3 years ago. Have some mobility issues. Just took a Cancerguard test and nothing was detected. My only real fears are dementia, and having a stroke and nobody discovering me as I lie on the floor. No assisted living for me. Still an active traveler, though I have withdrawn from all community service.

 

[Kryptic Mentality]

Live life for what it is at the moment regardless of age and don't get too caught up in the what ifs...

 

[Al]

How is that working out? Hope she has adjusted and is happy. Pretty sure if I made a unilateral decision like that it would not go over well.

She really likesl most of the time. Won't say she is glad she is here; but I believe she is.

I understand what you are saying but we had our name in this place for 15 years. We (mostly "she") kept pushing off the decision. Someonhe needed to say, "its time."

 

[Pablo]

The thing of last of life living the most important thing to me is to never burden loved ones. I’m not talking about asking for some help from time to time. Rather I am talking about day after day detailed care - the kind that doesn't allow the person to have a life. I know some people (my wife!) gladly did help parents at any cost, but I'm not asking my kids to change my diapers.