When I've been asked to be part of the wedding party, I've always expected to pay for my own tux. However, when my cousin got married, he got his and one more rental free, which he used for me. I was greatful, and in turn spent that much more on their gift.
Pay for Groomsmen's Tuxedo Rentals or Not??
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I think men should own tuxes. Basic black never goes out of style. If one neglects to own one they should bear the penalty of renting one themselves.
Bridesmaids dresses are a ripoff though, they have to go with the special wedding color scheme and are usually picked fairly ugly and not often worn again. I think the bride should pay for those.
Some folks get married right out of school and involve younger siblings who don't have jobs yet. It's a burden for them.
Bridesmaids dresses are a ripoff though, they have to go with the special wedding color scheme and are usually picked fairly ugly and not often worn again. I think the bride should pay for those.
Some folks get married right out of school and involve younger siblings who don't have jobs yet. It's a burden for them.
Originally Posted By: tpitcher
Beautiful (Asian sized & style) bridesmaids dresses were $65 at the shop in St. Paul last weekend.
Go to the "American" stores and they are WAY higher.
My Bride has a awesome wedding dress for $160.
Well yes it's an industry. Like Christmas but a magnitude worse. Everyone wants your money first. My wife-to-be walked into a David's Bridal a few months before the wedding, I think hours after the proposal
and they smooth talked her about how she got there just in time, they needed to pick out a dress so it could be altered in time, blah blah blah.
Then, on the TV news, some Reservists got called up and (coincidentally) married with 24 hours notice. A David's Bridal rep was on TV blushing about how they quickly got dresses to the lucky ladies.
Beautiful (Asian sized & style) bridesmaids dresses were $65 at the shop in St. Paul last weekend.
Go to the "American" stores and they are WAY higher.
My Bride has a awesome wedding dress for $160.
Well yes it's an industry. Like Christmas but a magnitude worse. Everyone wants your money first. My wife-to-be walked into a David's Bridal a few months before the wedding, I think hours after the proposal
Then, on the TV news, some Reservists got called up and (coincidentally) married with 24 hours notice. A David's Bridal rep was on TV blushing about how they quickly got dresses to the lucky ladies.
Spend more on pre-maritial counseling than you do the wedding. The wedding is one day, if you don't get it right, the preacher will make sure you say your vows and end up married anyway.
What are you going to do the days AFTER the wedding. All the money spent on dresses, flowers, a band, dinner, etc, will not help you figure out how to do day to day marriage.
Go cheap on the wedding, go with the best in the marriage preparation.
What are you going to do the days AFTER the wedding. All the money spent on dresses, flowers, a band, dinner, etc, will not help you figure out how to do day to day marriage.
Go cheap on the wedding, go with the best in the marriage preparation.
Originally Posted By: eljefino
I think men should own tuxes. Basic black never goes out of style. If one neglects to own one they should bear the penalty of renting one themselves.
Bridesmaids dresses are a ripoff though, they have to go with the special wedding color scheme and are usually picked fairly ugly and not often worn again. I think the bride should pay for those.
Some folks get married right out of school and involve younger siblings who don't have jobs yet. It's a burden for them.
The problem is each groomsman would have a different tux and that's no good to the bride.
Originally Posted By: tpitcher
Beautiful (Asian sized & style) bridesmaids dresses were $65 at the shop in St. Paul last weekend.
Go to the "American" stores and they are WAY higher.
My Bride has a awesome wedding dress for $160.
You forgot to add alteration because no woman has perfect body (unless you marry a super model but then you are going to pay a lot more than just a cheap $99 dress).
I think men should own tuxes. Basic black never goes out of style. If one neglects to own one they should bear the penalty of renting one themselves.
Bridesmaids dresses are a ripoff though, they have to go with the special wedding color scheme and are usually picked fairly ugly and not often worn again. I think the bride should pay for those.
Some folks get married right out of school and involve younger siblings who don't have jobs yet. It's a burden for them.
The problem is each groomsman would have a different tux and that's no good to the bride.
Originally Posted By: tpitcher
Beautiful (Asian sized & style) bridesmaids dresses were $65 at the shop in St. Paul last weekend.
Go to the "American" stores and they are WAY higher.
My Bride has a awesome wedding dress for $160.
You forgot to add alteration because no woman has perfect body (unless you marry a super model but then you are going to pay a lot more than just a cheap $99 dress).
I bought the guys rentals. They were nice enough to get up there for me, I figured I'd get rent them a suit to do it in. I guess I'm old school, but that was my rationale.
For my daughters wedding we paid for the dresses and tuxes. Any alterations to the dresses I believe the bridesmaids paid for. A lot depends on the situation though. Are they going to have to go out of town, miss work or can they really afford tuxes. For my part I would offer to pay what I could and if they insist on paying I would accept, but make sure I give a nice gift for being in the wedding.
Originally Posted By: javacontour
Spend more on pre-maritial counseling than you do the wedding. The wedding is one day, if you don't get it right, the preacher will make sure you say your vows and end up married anyway.
What are you going to do the days AFTER the wedding. All the money spent on dresses, flowers, a band, dinner, etc, will not help you figure out how to do day to day marriage.
Go cheap on the wedding, go with the best in the marriage preparation.
Thanks and oh, we did.
At the end of it, we took a "Love Languages" 30 question, 5 different levels and 5 different categories of answers and we came out just one number off (essentially the same) with everything important the same and what is not important the same. Talk about compatible!
Spend more on pre-maritial counseling than you do the wedding. The wedding is one day, if you don't get it right, the preacher will make sure you say your vows and end up married anyway.
What are you going to do the days AFTER the wedding. All the money spent on dresses, flowers, a band, dinner, etc, will not help you figure out how to do day to day marriage.
Go cheap on the wedding, go with the best in the marriage preparation.
Thanks and oh, we did.
At the end of it, we took a "Love Languages" 30 question, 5 different levels and 5 different categories of answers and we came out just one number off (essentially the same) with everything important the same and what is not important the same. Talk about compatible!
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Originally Posted By: eljefino
I think men should own tuxes. Basic black never goes out of style. If one neglects to own one they should bear the penalty of renting one themselves.
Bridesmaids dresses are a ripoff though, they have to go with the special wedding color scheme and are usually picked fairly ugly and not often worn again. I think the bride should pay for those.
Some folks get married right out of school and involve younger siblings who don't have jobs yet. It's a burden for them.
The problem is each groomsman would have a different tux and that's no good to the bride.
Originally Posted By: tpitcher
Beautiful (Asian sized & style) bridesmaids dresses were $65 at the shop in St. Paul last weekend.
Go to the "American" stores and they are WAY higher.
My Bride has a awesome wedding dress for $160.
You forgot to add alteration because no woman has perfect body (unless you marry a super model but then you are going to pay a lot more than just a cheap $99 dress).
Bridesmaids to keep (her 2 Daughters are bridesmaids) $65.
Wedding dress to keep $160.
No alteration, but if did, it would be free.
Originally Posted By: eljefino
I think men should own tuxes. Basic black never goes out of style. If one neglects to own one they should bear the penalty of renting one themselves.
Bridesmaids dresses are a ripoff though, they have to go with the special wedding color scheme and are usually picked fairly ugly and not often worn again. I think the bride should pay for those.
Some folks get married right out of school and involve younger siblings who don't have jobs yet. It's a burden for them.
The problem is each groomsman would have a different tux and that's no good to the bride.
Originally Posted By: tpitcher
Beautiful (Asian sized & style) bridesmaids dresses were $65 at the shop in St. Paul last weekend.
Go to the "American" stores and they are WAY higher.
My Bride has a awesome wedding dress for $160.
You forgot to add alteration because no woman has perfect body (unless you marry a super model but then you are going to pay a lot more than just a cheap $99 dress).
Bridesmaids to keep (her 2 Daughters are bridesmaids) $65.
Wedding dress to keep $160.
No alteration, but if did, it would be free.
Time and place, time and place.
One word of advice. I got this from a psychologist. He said that no matter how compatible you are with a woman marriage will not be the same as your expectations because you have no idea what to expect from it. At the time I thought it was just a line, but it's proven to be true. So keep flexibility and compromise in mind because they will be needed in ways you can't imagine.
Rather than get gifts for my best man and groomsman I told them I'd cover half of the cost of the tux rental.
Originally Posted By: AdRock
Rather than get gifts for my best man and groomsman I told them I'd cover half of the cost of the tux rental.
Rather than get gifts for my best man and groomsman I told them I'd cover half of the cost of the tux rental.
Originally Posted By: javacontour
Spend more on pre-maritial counseling than you do the wedding. The wedding is one day, if you don't get it right, the preacher will make sure you say your vows and end up married anyway.
What are you going to do the days AFTER the wedding. All the money spent on dresses, flowers, a band, dinner, etc, will not help you figure out how to do day to day marriage.
Go cheap on the wedding, go with the best in the marriage preparation.
+1
go easy on the wedding costs. A.C.A.P.
Spend more on pre-maritial counseling than you do the wedding. The wedding is one day, if you don't get it right, the preacher will make sure you say your vows and end up married anyway.
What are you going to do the days AFTER the wedding. All the money spent on dresses, flowers, a band, dinner, etc, will not help you figure out how to do day to day marriage.
Go cheap on the wedding, go with the best in the marriage preparation.
+1
go easy on the wedding costs. A.C.A.P.
Thanks for all the advise guys.
We're in our 40'sand laid back about a lot of stuff, need NO drama, etc.With her old style asian mannerisms and me being that way also, we just flow.
We're both givers and not takers, we both volunteer at church every weekend.. In fact on our pre-marriage "Love Languages", we both came out at zero for wanting gifts. I'll post a picture sometime.
We're in our 40'sand laid back about a lot of stuff, need NO drama, etc.With her old style asian mannerisms and me being that way also, we just flow.
We're both givers and not takers, we both volunteer at church every weekend.. In fact on our pre-marriage "Love Languages", we both came out at zero for wanting gifts. I'll post a picture sometime.
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For my wedding, we bought everybody their clothes. For another wedding I was in, I paid for the rental.
IMO, to some extent it also depends upon the hassle and cost required to attend. For example, my wedding was far away from where anyone in it was from... So I picked up the cost, since they needed to buy airfare and lodging just to get down. The wedding I was in was within 2 hours worth of driving for everyone, less than 30 mins for most.
IMO, to some extent it also depends upon the hassle and cost required to attend. For example, my wedding was far away from where anyone in it was from... So I picked up the cost, since they needed to buy airfare and lodging just to get down. The wedding I was in was within 2 hours worth of driving for everyone, less than 30 mins for most.
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