Ward Carroll is a USNA grad and flew on F-14’s. He has a popular YouTube aviation channel and here interviews retired Hornet pilot Mark Miller, CPT USN Retired.
They discuss the likely [unofficial] sequence of events. Plenty of jargon, mostly described. Wasn’t aware the USN uses tanker-configured planes like this. They make the point the crew would not have survived the impact so ejecting saved their lives. The second aircraft had their active countermeasures turned off, procedure for landing. They use an advanced IFF system in hostile theaters.
They answer questions from followers. They also make the point that some details of the investigation will be classified and not released to the public. They also announce USS Gettysburg has been relieved as Air Warfare Commander. So Gettysburg CO seems likely to get booted.
CENTCOM Commander is General Mike Kurilla, USA.
I'm still not sure that I buy that they couldn't have survived long enough to eject. Yeah an SM-2 is a big missile with a big warhead. But many have noted that it has a blast fragmentation warhead and a proximity sensor. It gets close enough and explodes into an expanding ball of fragments. Apparently modern fragments might even be incendiary, like little artillery shells. This is kind of old as I believe the US Navy is only using vertical launch tubes now. But this shows tests where the targets aren't immediately obliterated. The second video (apparently can't direct link) is of an SM-2 intercepting a missile.
But yeah the US Navy doesn't have any dedicated tankers any more, although they're supposedly going to operate the MQ-25 Stingray. I think they call what they do now as buddy refueling. And there's been criticism that it adds hours to fighter/attack aircraft.