Originally Posted By: bbhero
Me being a guy who works as a RN around ohh 90% women
.. it is interesting. What I do?? Stay quiet about negative words about anyone else about 99% of the time. They say all of it for me. The rare three times where I had negative words about a co worker... 2 out of 3 got fired justifiably. So it goes without saying that I was with everyone else about those two.
I never talk about inappropriate stuff at any dinner table. Never.
I have been to a get together at a restaurant with my fellow nurses. It was fun. But everyone was actually well behaved. It was a good time all in all.
Me being guy doing what I do.... Yes I have gotten asked if I liked girls or guys... One lab lady asked me and I laughed a bit. I had a guy patient ask me at the hospital... I laughed when he asked me too. He was cool though. And a good guy. I told him it was hard to behave myself a good amount of the time. We both laughed and had a good evening there. He told me so great stories from his time in the military.
Have I ever had a patient do anything inappropriate?? Ahh yeah. That's always interesting. Nothing super far out there really... But it was surprising. All I can say bout that. And yes... She was pretty. Older than me by 15 years.
Know the rules ... Aka women can say whatever they want to just about .. there are limits to what I can say as a man. This is obvious for obvious reasons.
Women can harass guys but definitely a no go the other way.. I have not really had this happen at my positions I have worked in.
Having said that... Yes I have had women co workers who have definitely "liked" me a lot. In school I had one who really, really liked me a lot. That feeling was mutual. But I was with someone already. And I behaved myself and I didn't go there in any way at all so to speak. Did I want to?? Ahh yeah. But there comes a time where you have to raise the bar and not act like a total idiot. At the hospital I had a couple worker who liked me as well. Again... Keep everything within proper boundaries and behave oneself is the best way forward. And a very pretty lady who was a PT liked me quite a but as well. Again... Stay between the guiding fence posts and life is much better for it.
Guess what I'm saying is... I have learned restraint, discipline and common sense. Not always easy though.
As far as women I work with and how they looked dresses for work. Let me say I have seen my share of very, very good looking women who still looked very good in what they were wearing. That's all that can said here
I don't talk about work stuff all that often with my lady. I do on occasion. But not often. I don't want to burden her with it..
I have learned that in long term care.... Those older people.... They will get to where they truly love you. And it's real. Guys... It's a heck of a thing when a lady is knowing she is getting close to leaving this world and she tells you that she loves you... That's a tremendous honor. And.... You love them too. Big, big, big stuff there. I have had that happen a number of times now...
In my job.. . I have thought to myself what is my purpose?? Why am I there?? Who do I need to be?? What do I have to do in order to raise the bar??
I feel without question that I am there to love those people like they were my own. Until they are ready to leave our world.
I feel that I have been made to be a better man by taking care of those people. Those people help me more than I truly know at times. Inspire of how messed up, flawed, and failed a man as I feel like I am... Those people I take care of help me be a better man. They help me realize my purpose for being there. They help me realize what truly matters in this world.. and what doesn't.
I fully realize that I am so fortunate and blessed to be there with them. I am one of the most fortunate guys around to do what I do.
It is those people and their family members who make my position there so great. And I tell them that routinely. Because it is so true.
bbhero, my friend. I've always said when I go into the hospital for my next cancer surgey I'm giving you a call and an airplane ticket. We've talked before and I think that nursing care is absolutely critical for a good outcome for any hospital stay. I got the feeling the last time there that the more magic machines and strange drugs, the emphaysis on good nursing some how gets sidetracked just a bit. All the magic in the world will never replace a good nurse.
Me being a guy who works as a RN around ohh 90% women
.. it is interesting. What I do?? Stay quiet about negative words about anyone else about 99% of the time. They say all of it for me. The rare three times where I had negative words about a co worker... 2 out of 3 got fired justifiably. So it goes without saying that I was with everyone else about those two.
I never talk about inappropriate stuff at any dinner table. Never.
I have been to a get together at a restaurant with my fellow nurses. It was fun. But everyone was actually well behaved. It was a good time all in all.
Me being guy doing what I do.... Yes I have gotten asked if I liked girls or guys... One lab lady asked me and I laughed a bit. I had a guy patient ask me at the hospital... I laughed when he asked me too. He was cool though. And a good guy. I told him it was hard to behave myself a good amount of the time. We both laughed and had a good evening there. He told me so great stories from his time in the military.
Have I ever had a patient do anything inappropriate?? Ahh yeah. That's always interesting. Nothing super far out there really... But it was surprising. All I can say bout that. And yes... She was pretty. Older than me by 15 years.
Know the rules ... Aka women can say whatever they want to just about .. there are limits to what I can say as a man. This is obvious for obvious reasons.
Women can harass guys but definitely a no go the other way.. I have not really had this happen at my positions I have worked in.
Having said that... Yes I have had women co workers who have definitely "liked" me a lot. In school I had one who really, really liked me a lot. That feeling was mutual. But I was with someone already. And I behaved myself and I didn't go there in any way at all so to speak. Did I want to?? Ahh yeah. But there comes a time where you have to raise the bar and not act like a total idiot. At the hospital I had a couple worker who liked me as well. Again... Keep everything within proper boundaries and behave oneself is the best way forward. And a very pretty lady who was a PT liked me quite a but as well. Again... Stay between the guiding fence posts and life is much better for it.
Guess what I'm saying is... I have learned restraint, discipline and common sense. Not always easy though.
As far as women I work with and how they looked dresses for work. Let me say I have seen my share of very, very good looking women who still looked very good in what they were wearing. That's all that can said here
I don't talk about work stuff all that often with my lady. I do on occasion. But not often. I don't want to burden her with it..
I have learned that in long term care.... Those older people.... They will get to where they truly love you. And it's real. Guys... It's a heck of a thing when a lady is knowing she is getting close to leaving this world and she tells you that she loves you... That's a tremendous honor. And.... You love them too. Big, big, big stuff there. I have had that happen a number of times now...
In my job.. . I have thought to myself what is my purpose?? Why am I there?? Who do I need to be?? What do I have to do in order to raise the bar??
I feel without question that I am there to love those people like they were my own. Until they are ready to leave our world.
I feel that I have been made to be a better man by taking care of those people. Those people help me more than I truly know at times. Inspire of how messed up, flawed, and failed a man as I feel like I am... Those people I take care of help me be a better man. They help me realize my purpose for being there. They help me realize what truly matters in this world.. and what doesn't.
I fully realize that I am so fortunate and blessed to be there with them. I am one of the most fortunate guys around to do what I do.
It is those people and their family members who make my position there so great. And I tell them that routinely. Because it is so true.
bbhero, my friend. I've always said when I go into the hospital for my next cancer surgey I'm giving you a call and an airplane ticket. We've talked before and I think that nursing care is absolutely critical for a good outcome for any hospital stay. I got the feeling the last time there that the more magic machines and strange drugs, the emphaysis on good nursing some how gets sidetracked just a bit. All the magic in the world will never replace a good nurse.