I look at crash tests, but they don't rule my decision. I don't like SUVs for the simple reason that they are not capable of handling as well as a car. I've driven them though, and never felt like they were going to roll over.
The way I figure it, anytime I'm in a car, I'm infinitely better protected than on the bike even if the car did not test well.
Personally, ABS has saved me one time in the past 150,000 miles. It was my fault that I was in the situation, but the ABS saved me from a wreck at any rate. We all make mistakes. Usually the mistakes don't cost us anything, but not always.
There have been several occasions where ABS was a convenience, taking the stress out of a situation. That alone makes it worthwhile to me. As for traction control, I don't like it. Stability control? I like it if it can truly be easily turned off on those occasions when you want to play.
If I have a choice, then I'll find an ABS equipped version of a car I'm looking at, but it does not come into play when I'm trying to make a decision.