I'm going to do a hot take and seems like Dad got his son a gift Dad wanted, instead of communicating and understanding what his son likes and doesn't like.
The story said the Dad works in a shop, so cars isn't something out of the blue. I'm sure that he must have talked about cars with his son at least a few times in their relationship. From those conversations it should be obvious that the son is NOT interested in cars at all.
It's only really ungrateful if the son specifically asked for the thing, or asked for something similar like a '65 chevy but got a '64, or why is it blue I wanted red-like you see in the spoiled super sweet16 reality shows
I put majority of this crossed wires and miscommunication on dad, especially the part about spending 3 years doing it. [censored]? The kid didn't ask him to spend 3 years on that-especially time alone. That's all on dad. Why invest so much time on a "surprise" instead of spending that time with the recipient himself?
For example, spent 3 hours after work doing something on the car project. Instead, take the kid to a baseball game-or to the comic book store or fishing, or whatever it is the kid is interested in.
sure guys aren't great on communication, but you can't blame the kid for this. On the same token, I don't think the kid or the dad is unique with this kind of relationship and they can open up communications in other ways. Whatever it is, don't spend another 3 years working independently on secret gifts, obviously that isn't working.
The story said the Dad works in a shop, so cars isn't something out of the blue. I'm sure that he must have talked about cars with his son at least a few times in their relationship. From those conversations it should be obvious that the son is NOT interested in cars at all.
It's only really ungrateful if the son specifically asked for the thing, or asked for something similar like a '65 chevy but got a '64, or why is it blue I wanted red-like you see in the spoiled super sweet16 reality shows
I put majority of this crossed wires and miscommunication on dad, especially the part about spending 3 years doing it. [censored]? The kid didn't ask him to spend 3 years on that-especially time alone. That's all on dad. Why invest so much time on a "surprise" instead of spending that time with the recipient himself?
For example, spent 3 hours after work doing something on the car project. Instead, take the kid to a baseball game-or to the comic book store or fishing, or whatever it is the kid is interested in.
sure guys aren't great on communication, but you can't blame the kid for this. On the same token, I don't think the kid or the dad is unique with this kind of relationship and they can open up communications in other ways. Whatever it is, don't spend another 3 years working independently on secret gifts, obviously that isn't working.
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