how to pretend / be nice about others' new car?

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ok...one of your (not amazingly close) buys a new car, and you are invited to ride in it, and let's say it is absolutely NOT the kind of car you would EVER buy or like in ANY aspect ...

..of course the young couple expects compliments and they're NOT the car savvy type - pretty much just buys whatever their friends (also inexperienced) recommend - just want a new car that's all...and waste a LOT of money buying ..let's say, a rather mediocre car...

so let's say you have only critique to offer...but obviously you can't do that, right? ...you shouldn't.

so how does one be nice? what does one say? i know from experience that "hey man, nice car" is just NOT enough, they want to hear more and more nice things...and i am NOT a good actor at all...

I've been ranting to my wife about how stupid this couple's car buying was all day, and she says "pleeeaase don't say anything when we ride with them.."..

yeah i guess i should just be nice...

but how do you guys cope with this situation ?
 
I guess I would say "if you like it, that's all that matters" and leave it at that.

But then, I'm a terrible liar so I have to stop before I tell the truth.

John
 
Just bite your lip and be nice for 30 seconds and stroke their egos by telling them how much you really love their new car and you are impressed
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BTW,

What type of car did they buy ?
 
Make [censored] up... find some little things that you can make comments on, such as cool rims, spacious interior/trunk, neat lighting, etc. It's one of those situations when being completely honest just doesn't help. They're obviously ecstatic about their new car purchase - play along.

This always happen to me when I go see somebody's house and they rave about the awesome Bose home theater system they just bought.

Anyway, what car did they buy?
 
I tell the truth if someone asks me for my opinion. Eventually only those who really value your opinion will ask, and thats fine with me.

edited to add....I'm single though, your wifes needs may trump your desire to tell the truth. In that case, there are many generic things I'm sure you can find to like about their purchase. Just stick to those and dont get into the whats and whys you dont like.
 
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thanks - [censored] this is gonna be hard. but will try my best to fake it and be nice..

and sorry to disappoint, but I am not going to disclose the car they bought - it will start a war
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(because it's not an unpopular car by any means)...

guess if you guys want but i won't confirm
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If I can't say anything good about their car, I try to change the topic to whether they're happy with their purchase. They usually say yes, so I congratulate them.

If they ask me flat out what I think, the most I will do to be nice is to pick on one vaguely positive-sounding thing and blow it up. For example, a couple I know bought a Mercedes ML350. I am on more familiar terms with the husband (and know for sure that the SUV wasn't his choice), so I told him flat out that I thought it was a waste of metal. But when I spoke to the wife, I told her that if she had to get a midsize luxury SUV, the ML350 was a good choice.

If I can't find anything positive to say whatsoever, I'll say something like "well it wouldn't my pick, but honestly I never got any seat time in one. It's good to know you're happy with it."



Now, if I actually care about the person, I tell them what I really think.
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Politely, of course, but honestly. There is an art to that, which I am trying to master. One technique is to start by saying a good thing about the car or the purchase, and then go on to your negative comments without any transition like "but" or "it's just that..." etc. Then, when they respond, let them have the last word. Stuff like that. I figure that if they're friends with me, they won't begrudge me my opinion -- or else they'll know me well enough that they won't ask for it in the first place.
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I was ask that about a car that my dog would not want to ride in. All I could say was the color was interesting and it would be easy to find in a parking lot.
 
A friend of mine bought a new VW and was bragging about the "german engineering". Haha, yeah buddy made in mexico.
 
Originally Posted By: hr1940
I was ask that about a car that my dog would not want to ride in. All I could say was the color was interesting and it would be easy to find in a parking lot.


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My guess is an Accord.
 
"Wow, you're lucky; now is a great time to buy."

"I like how the doors go thunk; this is a real solid car."

"Is there a button by the odometer that shows you more stuff, outside temp or anything?"

Lying about how nice something is is salesmanship, so try to figure something out the salesman would have said. By parrotting that you're assuaging them that they made the right choice.
 
Lots of good suggestions - will come in very handy - thanks, guys.

i am not going to be tempted to reveal the car - nonono.
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oh btw, I think the choice was a rather group-think/ethnic-think driven choice - this certain group just buys this certain car, or that other one - 99% of the time, from what I have noticed. So I think the choice was rather pre-programmed: I bet the salesman hardly had anything to say/do: They knew exactly the model they wanted, went and added EVERYTHING one can add, and bought it.
 
How about, "Wow! I can't believe you bought this car!" If they love it they'll think you're complimenting their great taste, while you're secretly chuckling to yourself.
 
That's the thing - i can't secretly chuckle - i will burst out laughing if I did that...

I am gonna go for keeping an impressed expression on the face and say some nice things suggested above, but my voice gets WEIRD when i lie.
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Originally Posted By: 97tbird
thanks - [censored] this is gonna be hard. but will try my best to fake it and be nice..

and sorry to disappoint, but I am not going to disclose the car they bought - it will start a war
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(because it's not an unpopular car by any means)...

guess if you guys want but i won't confirm
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Not gonna tell? What is this, elementary school?
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