We decided that we would prefer to be cremated so we sold the burial plots we have owned for many years . We went to the Funeral Home and prepaid for our cremations . Those kinds of things are always increasing in price and we wanted it over and done . We made a file with all of the necessary information that our boys will need when the time comes . I'm sure there will be a lot of corny jokes to follow but making final arrangements is a very big help to your loved ones .
How many of you have made your " Final Arrangements " ?
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Not yet. I figure, the longer I put it off, the longer I'll live. 
Been meaning to at least do a will. Now that the youngest is almost legally an adult, it'll be easier, no concerns about who will raise the kids. OTOH it's harder--if both my wife and I die, it's becoming a sizable estate, and the kids are not that wise yet.
At the very least, the wife and I have talked, and I think we both want the least. Cremation and maybe a ceremony of life, nothing more.
Been meaning to at least do a will. Now that the youngest is almost legally an adult, it'll be easier, no concerns about who will raise the kids. OTOH it's harder--if both my wife and I die, it's becoming a sizable estate, and the kids are not that wise yet.
At the very least, the wife and I have talked, and I think we both want the least. Cremation and maybe a ceremony of life, nothing more.
I haven't but yes, that is a VERY thoughtful thing to do. Everyone in our families know my wife and I want cremation but I never thought of prearranging it.
In the contract, is there an "out" if, let's say you become incapacitated and family moves you out of the area or state?
My parents, did have cemetery plots already set for them but it still was a fair amount of work. Im really impressed by your post and something I wont forget until I get around to it. We have moved to a new state last year. It's something I will keep in mind. Most useful post I have read in a while to easy a family burden when the time comes.
My wife is going to put my ashes in a FRAM Endurance filter. This way, the leaking bypass valve will allow my ashes to breathe.
Corny obligatory joke aside, it is important and everyone should do the planning.
Corny obligatory joke aside, it is important and everyone should do the planning.
I know what to do with my bride...I don't care what is done with my remains after I depart.
The Funeral Home we used is part of the Dignity Memorial network . It's the largest provider in North America . We could be cremated pretty much anywhere . The " Contract " only guarantees certain services for a fixed price . There is obviously no obligation to do it .
But you don't want your loved ones spending money needlessly . In that kind of situation it is very easy to do .
Thank you. I am going to actually bookmark this page. Life is precious and you never know when your day will come, it IS a VERY thoughtful "gift" to have everything set up for your family when the time comes. I always think I am going to live a few more decades to 90 but just hit a tiny bump in the road and it makes you wonder.
Not only that but the stress and indecision the loved ones have to make because they will be trying to figure out what you may have wanted.
Feel free to message me with any questions BEFORE you make the move . There's things it would be helpful for you to know before going in .
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I assume this is the place you are talking about?
https://www.dignitymemorial.com/pre-planning/funeral-costs/payment-plan
(full disclosure. Its on our to do list for 2025 but not yet, we are a bit booked up this year with many things and a unexpected one too)
I got the thread book marked and will keep this.
I assume this is the place you are talking about?
https://www.dignitymemorial.com/pre-planning/funeral-costs/payment-plan
(full disclosure. Its on our to do list for 2025 but not yet, we are a bit booked up this year with many things and a unexpected one too)
I got the thread book marked and will keep this.
I appreciate your concern...I can assure you spending money needlessly is not in either of our characters.
That's them . You can pay the total up front if you wish . You don't have to make payments unless you would rather .
Really great post. Already brought it up with my wife. This is one thing we have put off for to long but we will do this in 2025 and if we both expire unexpected will be complicated for our kids.
Some people consider this a morbid subject . Especially younger folks . They don't want to discuss it . They want to pretend it's not going to happen or they'll just deal with it when the time comes . Funeral costs go up every year . Guaranteed . Most people overspend for funerals for various reasons . Either emotions , or ignorance or a combination of both .
My wife and I own a cemetery plot but we chose to be cremated and our ashes spread in our favorite public park. Legal or not who cares. Our grave marker will say "in loving memory of" since we wont be buried at the marker.
To note: Federal law allows you to buy a casket from Costco, Sams Club or Amazon and the funeral arrangements you want. Lots of people think they are honoring their mom, dad... if they spend more on an expensive casket at the funeral home.
To note: Federal law allows you to buy a casket from Costco, Sams Club or Amazon and the funeral arrangements you want. Lots of people think they are honoring their mom, dad... if they spend more on an expensive casket at the funeral home.
This casket from Costco gets 20 5 star reviews and is $1149.
https://www.costco.com/the-mother's-casket-by-prime.product.100525047.html
https://www.costco.com/the-mother's-casket-by-prime.product.100525047.html
When my in laws passed, this was a big deal.
The cheaper caskets at the funeral home looked very cheap. To the point that it would be embarrassing.
Luckly, one of he cousins called while we were at the funeral home and gave ups a heads up about purchasing elsewhere.
Worked out great.
When my father passed, things had changed... the Funeral home had a decent price.
Price shopping feels a little unimportant at the time.... that's how they get to you.
I'd prefer to be cremated my wife said she won't allow it, so we left it at that. Not going to debate it. We really should do a will/trust so the kids don't have a headache when we are gone
We did wills right after retirement.
Went to a lawyer....a little pricey.
You can also set up a trust.
That may help out your kids until the mature.
*Lots of people do not like trusts.
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