Harassment at work

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Probably you are not the only one having problems with this guy. If his personality is that bad somebody else will follow your steps and then this idiot will have to deal with two or three people instead of one.
You did the right thing and now they will have an eye on him.
 
Does your employer have a Code of Behaviour or something like that? Does your state have a labour board? It must, who takes care of injured employees, that's probably the same group you need to talk to.

Good luck, Steve
 
I think all have provided good solid advice. Since you have taken the problem to management any action positive, or negitive, will hopefully help in your favor. Good luck and try and stay calm and keep pushing the issue up the chain so that it does not stop at the first level of supervision.
 
If you confront the guy, you might get your butt kicked, and this will encourage him to continue it more. If you go the mamagement route, and they fire him, he will be after you. If he gets transferred, he will spread the word what a p***y you are, and still harass you. And watch the management move you out eventually.
I had a situation a few years back, in which I was powerless. After 20 years of marriage, the wife was fooling around with a contractor. He had the fancy truck, money to blow etc. I went after him, and luckily was stopped by a cop who told me that in this time of political correctness, I could be arrested and would lose my professional license. And, honestly, the guy outweighed me by 100 lbs and probably would have done a number on me. I would have been out of work, looked like a fool to all, and probably end up in jail.
I started a harassment campaign. I called the IRS and told them I worked under the table for him and he wouldn't pay my last 2 weeks wages. I understand he was audited. While at the motel, I removed the valve stem from all 4 of his tires, on a sunday. I did a number of other thing that he knew I was doing but could not prove it. But then I did something I should have done all along. I went to the local dive bar, founded the biggest guy I could find, and paid him $100 to punch him in the mouth, just once, and say he was my friend and he was coming back for him again. That was the last I ever saw of him. I didn't get involved. The law didn't get involved, and it was done.

PS: I also kicked her a** to the curb and I am so much better off now.
 
I have not been in the workforce all that long only 10 years. It has been my unfortunate observation that most managment would rather watch a good employee quit than to deal with a bad one, less paperwork maybe
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. I sincerly hope your case is worked out better than any I have ever seen.
 
Having to deal with an aggressive a$$ like your coworker can make your life a living **** . Best bet is to stand up to him so he sees that you're not going to take any nonsense from him. Next time he tries to boss you around tell him "the only thing you run around here is your mouth".
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Well, the State of Kansas surely has a labor board or EEO office. If you were female, this would be a dead issue. The buzz word lately is sexual harrassment, not just harrassment. If he's poking you in the butt, I'd consider that sexual harrassment and try and go that route. Sounds like the guy has some homosexual tendencies that are, in the least, blatant. He could be gay and it's his way of showing attention.
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I tell you, it all else fails, take Studebaker's advice, hire some goons to whip his arshe. If he even looks at you funny the day after, hire them again. He'll quit.
 
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Originally posted by Schmoe:
Sounds like the guy has some homosexual tendencies that are, in the least, blatant. He could be gay and it's his way of showing attention.
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That reminds me of an incident in 'The Naked Civil Servant' by Quintin Crisp. Quintin was being harassed by a group of Gay bashers, when he whisperd in the ring leaders ear "Why don't you F**k off back back to Birmingham before your friends find out your Gay". The guy took off like a scolded cat.
Honestly, I think you are going to have to be loaded for Bear with this, if you push, it's going to be Him or You.
Good Luck.
 
Wear a microcassette recorder or hide a video camera.

If it were me, I'd hack his email account and record his phone calls too.

But that's just me.
 
Boy, this sounds like a "case closed" sexual harrassement lawsuit to me. Harrassement in the workplace is a BIG friggin deal. Employers spend millions, perhaps billions to stop it and deal with it. Look at what that chick did to Orielly!!!!!!!!! We all know what the worst kind of pain is (well, besides the loss of a loved one). FINANCIAL PAIN. **** , management knows *** is up now. They hopefully know they are liable in a civilc case if you were to be assaulted (assult doesn't have to be physical). From this moment on, tape record EVERYTHING this ******* says to you, and he'll be sorry. And if that doesn't work, maybe Kansas has a "make my day" law like Colorado does. Let him assault you off work property, and then "defend" yourself, if you know what I mean
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Seriously though, I feel for you man. I've dealt with this crap in many jobs, and management simply will not deal with it. More companies have probably lost truely quality people (the kind that, you know, show up, shut up, and do their **** job well!) to this kind of crap than is necessary. It's like, gee, do I fire the guy who harrasses people and probably does more to hurt my bottom line than anyone? Nahhhhhhhhhh, will just let the harrassed go, less costly for us (in the end, it costs the most).
 
Went through the same thing a few years ago. I did the right thing, and went to my boss. He did nothing. After several more meetings with my boss and showing him documentation, my boss had a meeting with the three of us. The co-worker sat there and called me names. I acted professional and told my boss that he needed to grow up and do his job. The boss still did nothing.

After a few more months of this I began to get the feeling I was going to be let go. We were in the midst of a big project so I started looking for another job. In the meantime they hired someone for me to train. There were two candidates, one was an unknown the other was good friends with the hostile aggressor in our department. I did all the interviewing, made my recommendations for the unknown (he had more skills), guess who my boss hired?

I told my boss a few days before I would quit if he hired the friend, as I saw it as an open door for favoritism. The day they announced the hiring I turned in my notice. I'm at a much better job now and find it hard to beleive stuff like that happens. Many work places not only foster this type of behavior but are unwilling to do anything about it. Therefore you either have to live with it or go somewhere else.

Fast forward 4 years:

The hostile co-worker got divorced from his wife and the boss got his too. My ex-boss was always trying to hook up with other workers, but he was married. His wife left him and he began stalking her on his company cell phone. Someone turned him in and he was fired on the spot.
 
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...There are so many laws on the books about harrassment that you should have no problems.

The laws cut both ways and it's hard to fire someone, especially if they have a strong union backing them, as state jobs almost certainly do.

Document everything and consult a lawyer, and let your management know that you have talked with a lawyer. Perhaps just the threat of legal intervention will move things ahead.

Getting someone fired from a state job is next to impossible in my home state, Connecticut. A more reachable objective is for one of you to get transferred if that is possible.
 
Well, just to update everyone. It is going to district management next, probably by the end of this week. The district boss wants to have seperate meetings with each one of us first. I have it from to other supervisors that this jerk has p****d them off too, in their words. I going to tell this boss that I've contacted EEOC and state my case in writing/verbal. I'm also going to inform him that if I don't get the desired result that a lawyer dealing in Employment Law will be hired to deal with the problem for me. I have been watching the body language of different guys at work when talking about this subject. Some as you could tell just plain don't give an opinion, except to say if it is bothering you go for it. Others are flat out against this guy but, don't have the guts to say it out loud. It just blows me away how grown men in general have no spine. As for me, I'm not going to take it anymore.
 
Sounds good Rob, suggest that you write down what points you want to discuss and take notes about what is said. Is the district boss going to be alone or will there be a witness present? Good luck and this is moving in the right direction.
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Originally posted by motorguy222:

Take a small tape recorder with you with a 60-90 minute tape and record(secretely)what is said.

While some may say that this is wrong...


I would do it myself, but you MUST check the laws in your state before you use that tape. Better yet - ask for the meeting to be taped and do it in the clear.

Remember when Linda Tripp got in trouble for tape recording Monica? If she hadn't made the tape, she would have been chewed up and spit out by the Bimbogate cover up squad. Linda had the tape, and Monica had the dress for protection. As it was, the tape got Tripp in trouble, but it did protect her from something far worse.

Either get permission for taping, or do it in secret. Excellent advice!
 
Rob,if you are meeting with people during this,regardless of who they are,you NEED some type of proof of what is said and by whom it is said.

If the meetings can be recorded in some way that would be great.

Take a small tape recorder with you with a 60-90 minute tape and record(secretely)what is said.

While some may say that this is wrong,you are in my opinion gathering evidence to prove that management is one of the problems and this kind of tape is needed to prove such.

You ar not the police and considering the circumstances,you have the right in my opinion to tape EVERYTHING that you have to deal with,including management/supervisors comments.

Good Luck.

Also,talk to a lawyer,they dont charge anything for the first consultation and may even take the case and let you pay them only if you win.

This kind of case could be worth quite a bit and should be because of what you have went through.
 
District management I think is trying to avoid the issue. They did not respond in the 5 day limit to me that are specified in Standard Operating Manual. I did not even get my meeting with district management yet to boot. I'm giving them till next tuesday to respond. After that I'm hiring a lawyer. I had a feeling that they might use a stall tactic like this. Avoid it and it will go away. Heck, sexual harassment is bad enough for just one of my charges, there are more to come. I'm gonna go for money if I get the lawyer maybe $500,000 will make a dent in there wallet and make them take notice.
 
If you really start compiling evidence, a lawyer would probably take this up on contingency, especially now that management is aware of the problem and is now stalling. **** , they just broke their own corporate law by not getting back to you, didn't they? Teach these ******** a lesson. You can probably sue the guy who harrasssed you and your company. Get these ******** !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
Well ...I would kinda keep any punitive issues out of this. Rob didn't complain for 4.5 years. Who's fault is that? Now he needs to get this issue addressed and settled.

Corrective action. It's that simple.


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"Let go" is usually disguised as restructering, rightsizing, cost cutting lay-offs.

My wife's employer, a non-profit human services foundation, has a whistle blower hotline. Anyone who calls it is automatically fired. It's quite effective on keeping things in full compliance with all applicable standards and regulations.
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