Guys hugging other guys instead of shaking hands is this new

[Blaze]

I noticed the last several yr when meeting old friends or my brother I haven't seen for awhile they "hug" at first instead of shaking hands.

Is this new or something in the last 5-6 yrs. That's what I'm observing. Its more common than 10-20 yrs ago.

 

[Patman]

I see a lot of guys doing the "half hug" with a handshake at the same time. Whenever we have a get together with the Corvette guys that seems to be a common greeting.

 

[MRtv]

I'm seeing it too. A guy I have not seen for the last 25 years came over to my house and I got the hug greet. I don't mind it so much. It's ok with me. I tend to be a hugger with people I know well and were used to hugging so this is just a step beyond that.

 

[dogememe]

Yeah, I don't get it, and quite frankly I don't like it. The only people I would want to hug me would be my current boyfriend but other than that, no thanks, you're invading my personal bubble. And don't get me started on the half a dozen different handshakes and fist-bumps...

 

[Virtus_Probi]

The bro-hug is definitely popular among younger guys, starts out as a shake and then they pull in for a sort of a hug...an intern in the office I barely knew gave me one a few weeks ago, surprised me but I was fine with it.
I have gotten a lot freer about hugging my old friends, I have one great bud going back close to 40 years now and I started hugging him every time I saw him about 10 years ago. He didn't like it at first, but now he will even initiate a hug when we see each other.

 

[maxdustington]

I don't get as many respectable handshakes as I once did, so there's that.
I judge other men harshly on their handshake, if some soyboy tried to hug me instead of shaking my hand I would be upset with that.

It's feminization, men are no longer allowed to have their own greetings. We must copy female behavior so no one gets their feelings hurt and we can all be the same.

 

[SuperSalad]

I do a lot of hugging with family and friends.

Professional acquaintances get handshakes.

Strangers get handshakes unless they initiate a hug themselves. I'm not forward enough to initiate one with a stranger, but I'm not stingy with them.

 

[Kira]

I'd bet money on a lot of it being imitation of sports people as seen on TV.

Also, when cheap, "reality TV" gets made a buncha guys hugging helps fill the time. They sure don't have dialog.

Fat guys deliver a rusted car to the fat guy who runs the resto shop and they all hug....YUK!

 

[supton]

Originally Posted By: maxdustington
I don't get as many respectable handshakes as I once did, so there's that.
I judge other men harshly on their handshake, if some soyboy tried to hug me instead of shaking my hand I would be upset with that.

It's feminization, men are no longer allowed to have their own greetings. We must copy female behavior so no one gets their feelings hurt and we can all be the same.

Eh? Dim recesses of the mind told me that in other cultures men hold hands, and even give kisses. Sure enough, first google link:
https://www.nytimes.com/2005/05/01/weekinreview/why-arab-men-hold-hands.html

I wouldn't want to hug a stranger, and most of the time it's a bit "eh?" but I'm like "whatever". Good friends I don't mind hugs from at all, although I rarely initiate hugs or handshakes.

 

[RooflessVW]

The only people that get hugs are people that I consider family.

 

[HemiHawk]

I think personal contact like that is way bigger in European countries. But if its someone you're relatively close with why not.

I don't even like the handshake in the US anymore. Somewhere along the line a "firm" handshake turned into "grip their hand as hard as you can". I guess its a power move, I just laugh knowing they wouldn't like it if I did the same...

 

[nthach]

I hug old friends and strangers who initiate. I've had a few yoga teachers hug me after class.

In a professional setting, I believe in the power of a handshake. I've been working on that for the past few years.

 

[Malo83]

Originally Posted By: dogememe
Yeah, I don't get it, and quite frankly I don't like it. The only people I would want to hug me would be my current boyfriend but other than that, no thanks, you're invading my personal bubble. And don't get me started on the half a dozen different handshakes and fist-bumps...

 

[Johnny2Bad]

No more or less common than in the past, as far as I know (I'm 60). Specific to the example, I would never think of shaking hands with an old friend I hadn't seen for a while, male or female. Shaking hands is for greetings of strangers or simple acquaintances and for business relationships.

The "fist bump" as far as I know became popular due to my fellow Canadian Howie Mandel, who started his entertainment industry career as a comedian in the late 1970's,* but had to drop out of the limelight soon afterward and periodically since stop performing due to a severe germ phobia and an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. It's also the reason he began shaving his head.

The "fist bump" was his way of dealing with it. I distinctly remember when he re-emerged and re-started his career, people would look confused when he offered his fist rather than his hand for a greeting. People now are just used to it. In contrast to a hug, this is more common today than in the past, where it was not only unheard of, but would have been considered rude.

* For the record, I never found his act funny, but somehow he did gain traction with it, performing on such stages as the Johnny Carson era Late Show and early seasons of Letterman. Ironically he sometimes offers a hug rather than a fist bump.

 

[4WD]

Originally Posted By: Blaze
I noticed the last several yr when meeting old friends or my brother I haven't seen for awhile they "hug" at first instead of shaking hands.

Is this new or something in the last 5-6 yrs. That's what I'm observing. Its more common than 10-20 yrs ago.




We be fist bumpers …

A while back I found two guys in a bind … one in his 50’s and one in his 20’s …

Stuck in a mud hole with a flat tire from an old 3”x8” oilfield timber he tried to use to get free …
I fixed the tire (plug kit and 12v compressor) and then pulled them out of the mud …

My earnings? One handshake + one hug … (would have loved to have seen my own expression, lol)

 

[853okg]

Originally Posted By: supton
Originally Posted By: maxdustington
I don't get as many respectable handshakes as I once did, so there's that.
I judge other men harshly on their handshake, if some soyboy tried to hug me instead of shaking my hand I would be upset with that.

It's feminization, men are no longer allowed to have their own greetings. We must copy female behavior so no one gets their feelings hurt and we can all be the same.

Eh? Dim recesses of the mind told me that in other cultures men hold hands, and even give kisses. Sure enough, first google link:
https://www.nytimes.com/2005/05/01/weekinreview/why-arab-men-hold-hands.html

I wouldn't want to hug a stranger, and most of the time it's a bit "eh?" but I'm like "whatever". Good friends I don't mind hugs from at all, although I rarely initiate hugs or handshakes.


Yes...in other cultures. The New York Times would LOVE you to emulate "other cultures." Tell you what: why not be super progressive and immediately advance to the French kiss?
This may shock you, but it's entirely possible that "first google link" is first because they are pushing an agenda. I know that sounds like crazy talk to you...

 

[hatt]

I have not noticed this.

 

[dogememe]

Originally Posted By: Malo83
Originally Posted By: dogememe
Yeah, I don't get it, and quite frankly I don't like it. The only people I would want to hug me would be my current boyfriend but other than that, no thanks, you're invading my personal bubble. And don't get me started on the half a dozen different handshakes and fist-bumps...

Glad to provide comedic relief though I don't even know what's funny

 

[bullwinkle]

Usually has to be family, or close friend that has had a major emotional event (death of a fellow close friend, family member, etc.). Doesn’t happen often, but I’m comfortable enough in my heterosexuality that it doesn’t bother me!

I’m uncomfortable hugging women I don’t know very well, though-too easily misinterpreted. Hope that doesn’t make me sexist...

 

[maxdustington]

Originally Posted By: supton
Eh? Dim recesses of the mind told me that in other cultures men hold hands, and even give kisses. Sure enough, first google link:
https://www.nytimes.com/2005/05/01/weekinreview/why-arab-men-hold-hands.html


Quote:
In fact, if a man chooses not to touch another in a greeting, it can be interpreted as a sign of distance or disdain. Kissing cheeks, long handshakes and clutching hands are meant to reflect amity, devotion and most important, equality in status, noted Fuad Ishak Khuri, a social anthropologist, in his book, "The Body in Islamic Culture" (2001).


Could you imagine holding hands on a job site? Or in a fishing boat? Kissing cheeks with another man! Why I never!

You ever seen Midnight Express? Do you recall the part where he describes how the locals view homosexuality?

Why can't we just be tough Western men and greet each other in the traditional way so we can determine how tough each other are?