Got screwed over for a promotion and Im depressed

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Screwed over?

Yeah.

Perhaps.

At the time at which this kid was hired, they had an opening for which you weren't eligible. You were going to be eligible, and you are today, but you weren't at the time.

Now, he's in the job. What would make it right in your eyes? Demote him? That's not going to happen. They're going to train him because they hired him.

I'm surprised that, in all this, you don't mention performance reviews, evaluations, or some feedback mechanism on your job. My experience is primarily military, so, I am not as familiar with the current employment environment as I would like in addressing your issue, but I've worked as a groundskeeper, painter, busboy, bartender, auto valet, security guard, and teaching assistant. All hourly wage. All short-term (not career) employment.

In all of those, even though I was temporary, the "boss" or manager* would sit down with me periodically and discuss my job performance.

THAT should be happening in any workplace and THAT is your opportunity to ask for constructive feedback: "What qualifications/training do I need for promotion?" for example. That's the time to discuss your wage, raises, promotions, training, increased opportunity. A good time to ask for increased responsibility (that leads to promotion/raises).

It should be a two-way street, and there should be clear guidance on what your manager* thinks you need to do to improve, your promotion chances.

For now, start shopping. Your post leads me to believe that no current opportunities exist at this workplace. IF a frank, open discussion with your manager* demonstrates that, and a lack of future promotion opportunities (don't let them string you along with hollow promises and nice words), then you must create your own by seeking a job with genuine opportunities, or by getting a better job. Training and certifications in your profession would go a long way towards that better job.

But you need to hold those cards VERY close to your vest. Don't let them know that you're seeking employment elsewhere and continue to be an exemplary employee. When you are offered the next job, that future employer will have called these guys, and tardiness, poor attitude or lousy work performance will sink your outside chances.


*A manager does things right. A leader does the right things.

The world is full of managers. You wouldn't be making this post if you had real leadership at your company.
 
Having gone through this but in a totally different field, here's what to do:

1) Go to dr and get something for depression
2) Get your tail in line at work and go back to what you were doing at 100%
3) Use ziprecruiter, indeed, glassdoor, monster to begin exploring your other options
4) Work until you've located another job, sign a contract, and quit your old job.
5) Don't get canned, it really looks bad on a resume or on a previous job call.
6) You were passed over for a reason, its time to have a sit down w/HR or a boss and lay it all on the line to what happened.Its time to be frank w/them and no whining.
 
As Vito Corleone said, "You can act like a man." Your day will come, either with this employer or another.

In 30 years with the G, I too got snubbed on a few promotions. If you like your profession, keep grinding.
 
This is gonna be a HARD pill to swallow, BUT.............Listen up.........suck it up and stay at your current job WHILE you look for a new one and or get more certificates/training etc.

THE EASIEST way to get a better job is to be currently working! Gaps in employment will kill you.

It sucks brother. Been there, done that, and learned the hard way. Sometimes there isn't any rhyme nor reason why people make the decision they do at work, and it usually comes down to who likes who, and who gets along. It's many times not about who is the harder better employee.

But like many have said, just stick with it and put the fake smile on and do the best you can until you find something better. It will make you stronger. Instead of getting to work 5 minutes late, try and get there 5 minutes early. The last thing you want to do is get fired! Try and get one a few people's good sides so you can have references for your next better job.

Hang in there bud, we've all been through the soul ringer that is work!
 
OP - Honestly, my long time friend and I were going through very similar situations to yours at the same time. Mine with my employer of 12 years and him with his for 18. We talked periodically for support because these things weigh on you and it sucks.

We both made the decision to look for the opportunity elsewhere and we both found them. Flip forward eighteen months later and we're both making much better money in new jobs. It's a situation that I found many many people have to go through - your best opportunities are elsewhere. I've also learned firsthand that employers will lie to you - a lot (not that this is news to anyone).

It's pretty obvious to this random internet guy on an oil fan site that you need to leave that employer if you ever want to advance.
 
Have you considered moving? Even a short distance might present you with new opportunities. Central WA can only present you with so many opportunities. Tri-Cities or Spokane perhaps?
 
Best advice I can give you is to get this out of your system over the weekend and jump in full bore on Monday. Sounds like you need to clear your head and get several things in order... one of those being your personal life outside of work. You need to find something outside of work that makes you happy, to occupy your time. Golf, working out, fixing stuff... anything to take your mind off work and give you something productive that isn't sleeping. You're headed towards serious depression and if you don't correct your path soon, you could spiral out of control. If you can't "fix" your mentality, it may be that you need some help from a doctor up to and including medication. Nothing to be ashamed about... but something to take seriously.

Fix that and then tell yourself, make yourself "do right" with your job. Get up early so you can be on time. Prove your worth and be the best employee you can be. At the same time, freshen up the CV and search out other options. The old saying is "I had a job when I found this one". It's easier to find a job while employed. So keep your options open but by all means, take care of yourself personally and get your head straight.
 
Has happened to me too.

Consider it from the position of being unemployed. Would you take your current job? If so, then quite simply, act like you just got the job! Give it some time, then clearly articulate to your supervisor that you are interested in any future opportunities for advancement (without any [censored]')

I'm the boss at my shop, I can tell you first hand that I notice (and know) a lot more than my guys think I do.
 
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OK,you're not going to like this but you have to stop the pity party.
Like right now and act like an adult.
Don't just quit your job.Instead work harder and don't let anyone see your internal issues.
Look for other opportunities while still working.
Having gaps in job history is a red flag that is hard to explain.
It sounds like your life is full of dreams about what you want to happen but is not happening yet.
Take the time to sort yourself out and get your head on straight.

Go back to work Monday, don't give up.
I tell my kids all the time that things have a way of working out.What seems like a lost cause can suddenly become clear.
 
I agree not to quit and keep working at current job..... while quietly applying at other companies.

I understand your frustration and the poor decision making by the person in charge. You’ll find something better but until you do, stay put and don’t badmouth the boss / company.
 
I have worked as a mechanic/technician in the Automotive & Rental Equipment business.....Dealers, Independent, High Performance & Corporate for my entire career.

It is a RARITY to get promoted or get a Salary/Flat Rate/Hourly bump EVER once you become a GOOD technician. Anytime I ever needed a pay bump-cost of living raise, I ask first....Then out come the excuses EVERYTIME.
I put in my 2 week notice right on the spot then go & find my money!!!

Automotive is a pretty good gig & I like it better than Rental Equipment & being a salaried hand married to a Service Truck.

You also shouldn't be afraid of new/different equipment....It's part of life in this field, A relay is a relay, A pressure switch is a pressure switch, Hydraulics are Hydraulics, etc etc.
 
My observations is promotion is not all about how hard you work. YOu do a decent job, understand how to play management, and be decent person to work with.

Sorry it did not go your way.
 
As others have said:
Don't quit. This could eventually be a stepping stone to greater things in your life. Maybe your own business?
This is a TEMPORARY set-back. You have the rest of your life and there will be more bumps...some bigger, some smaller.
If this new Tech II doesn't know how to do his job properly, it will show when customers can't get their things fixed and complain. YOU may be his replacement.
 
I'll just share a quick story about my own situation. I was promised a promotion and raise when I was first hired at my current job. My job spans kind of a weird situation of being fairly hands on and technical, but also needing an advanced degree in my field to understand the what and the why of what's going on.

In any case, when I was first hired the person then doing what I do now was making noise about retiring, and the plan was for him to spend ~1 year training me then give me his duties and submit a reclass/raise.

From the time I took over to the time I actually got what was promised was a bit over a year. I was held up by a few things-one was my supervisor who simply wasn't doing her job by both not getting paperwork submitted on time and also not correctly submitting it. Beyond her, though, there was a lot red tape that made any sort of promotion difficult, and my supervisor just didn't understand my job well enough to justify it(I'm a chemist, and my supervisor was a business person with no science background whatsoever).

In any case, the department chair-my boss's boss-advised me to apply for jobs. As he told me, that can be the only way to really show what you are worth. He didn't want to lose me as an employee and said as much, but he'd done just that himself.

I applied to some local places, but couldn't really find a good match. Finally, I applied for a job in Arkansas that effectively mirrored my current job description. A few weeks after I submitted my application, I flew there on their dime for a two-day interview. A week later, I had an offer. I submitted that to the department chair, and my current employer matched the offered salary within 48 hours. Needless to say, I stayed since I like where I work and didn't want to move 3 states away.

As a side note, I apparently wasn't the only one for whom my supervisor didn't get paperwork submitted correctly or in a timely manner. She was "given the opportunity to resign" 3 weeks ago...
 
bunnspecial,

Luckily for you they matched the salary offer and you stayed at your current job.

Some places after you put in a 2 week notice will immediately deactivate your company computer access, ID badge and escort you off the property. This is rare but in some very high sensitive technology companies, they don’t want an employee to mess things up (not you) before quitting due to not getting a raise or promotion. They will pay for your last 2 weeks , unused vacation and PTO.

The smaller the city, the OP will have limited job opportunities. I’m not saying to move.... but he might have to in the future to have a better choice of job offers.
 
First, blank spaces between paragraphs make them easier to read.

Second, you're in shock from being blind-sided. You feel depressed and sleep more than usual, so do that: Sleep. The shock will eventually wear off and you'll be able to think clearer again. It will take time though...

Third, you're wise to not see the new guy as the enemy. He's not.

Fourth, "resume doesn't show any technical stuff" As in? Why not?

Fifth, "Speeding tkts" As in plural? Multiple? What's that about? A bad day or a bad habit?

Sixth, sounds like you do your job well, are diligent at follow-up, and thorough. Good. No one can take that from you, so don't let them. It's yours.

Seventh, if the "super unqualified guy" is truly that and he's sent out on service calls, his poor qualifications will quickly show up. Repeatedly.

Eighth, rather than dwell on job titles, shift your focus to your own core competitencies (sp?). Knowledge, skills & abilities. KSA's. Your KSA's. They're yours. You own them. Know them. Can demonstrate them. No one can take these from you however you have to develop them and be responsible for your own development of them. They are found in your own "Tool Box".

Ninth, NOW and only NOW do you have a clean, three year driving record. Keep it that way.

Tenth, Don't quit yet. Sounds like you don't have any back-up plan, nor much structure outside of work. If you leave in haste, you might well fall apart. That wouldn't be good. A M.D. visit might help, especially if you find you cannot sleep. You need a way to vent your frustration, anger and rage. Typing all of this out here helps. So everyday, write in your own journal about how you feel, what happened that day, etc. Every day. Don't vent on any 'social media' either. It's far too easy and too easily found by others, including prospective employers.

Eleventh, when this wave of shock passes you need to begin working on a game plan. Strategy & tactics. Just WHAT is your best foot and HOW to put it forward and WHERE to put it forward. I'd suggest you read "What Color Is Your Parachute?" and DO the exercises. Look up the website and read/watch what is there. This isn't just ANY homework, it's not for a grade, it's for YOU. For the rest of YOUR LIFE. Getting it down on paper will get it out of your head so you can be more objective about it. The book will explain all of this.

Twelveth, enough advice for now. Go ride a bike or throw rocks. Learn to throw with your other arm. You'll understand why later.
 
I had been in a supervisors position for the last 20 years of my 35 year career. The last 6 years I was also an ABC pipe fitter instructor at Local 123 PIPE FITTERS UNION in Tampa, FL. My advice to you Sir, pick yourself back up and do your job. But, go out of your way proving to your boss that he made a mistake in hiring the "OTHER" Tech. When I say going out of your way, do extra tasks, put in extra effort into the job you're doing on a service call. Get to work early and start work early (like, 5 minutes) and stay a bit late (a few minutes here and there). Believe me, you WILL be recognized! I know, been there, done that. And, I would look for it in employees when evaluation time came around for a raise. Eventually, this under rated Tech. will fall due to his/her inexperience. And, your boss will see you like "A DIAMOND SHINING IN A GOATS ***!"
 
Virtus_Probi,

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OPer, try to get fired up and look out for your best interests. Do your job but look for something better the whole time...the only one who's going to advocate for you is you.


I agree with everything you said.

The OP also needs a well written resume that highlights all his talents, knowledge, skills and abilities.

Just because he isn't a Tech 2 doesn't mean he is not knowledgeable with troubleshooting hydraulics, mechanics , electronics (Ohms law), using multimeter, reading schematics, etc..., etc...

I remember the OP repairing the range top on his stove a while back and posting a thread about it with photos.


Astro,
Im also wondering if his employer has yearly job performance evaluations from the boss. When I was working at Publix Supermarket in high school the manager would tell me what needed improvement and what was needed to get to advance within the company. That's SOP and protocol at any job now or days.... unless the person is a temp employee from a staffing agency.
 
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Virtus_Probi,

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OPer, try to get fired up and look out for your best interests. Do your job but look for something better the whole time...the only one who's going to advocate for you is you.


I agree with everything you said.

The OP also needs a well written resume that highlights all his talents, knowledge, skills and abilities.

Just because he isn't a Tech 2 doesn't mean he is not knowledgeable with troubleshooting hydraulics, mechanics , electronics (Ohms law), using multimeter, reading schematics, etc..., etc...

I remember the OP repairing the range top on his stove a while back and posting a thread about it with photos.


Astro,
Im also wondering if his employer has yearly job performance evaluations from the boss. When I was working at Publix Supermarket in high school the manager would tell me what needed improvement and what was needed to get to advance within the company. That's SOP and protocol at any job now or days.... unless the person is a temp employee from a staffing agency.

I had a few friends that worked at PUBLIX when I lived in FL. PUBLIX is a GREAT store to work for. All of my friends had nothing but GREAT things to say about PUBLIX. And, it was my FAVORITE grocery store to shop at. It was the cleanest, most friendliest grocery store ever. I guess that's why they were voted #1 once before, and always stays ranked in the top 3.
 
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