I'd tell my friend that his cheating is a deal breaker and we are no longer friends for as long as it continues. Then he'd be gone as a friend. Any future activities would be invite only to the wife. That likely will tell without telling.
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i wouldnt touch that with a 39 and a half foot pole
I am shocked why anyone would intercede. I would like explanations from those who would?
This isn't the first thread like this.
The responses are eerily familiar.
MY STORY: At work, two married people were having a rather common knowledge affair. Obviously the gal's hubby and the guy's wifey didn't work there.
It didn't effect me or anybody else so everybody's work-a-day life went on as normal.
One day the gal and a friend had gone Christmas shopping. The two gals showed up after lunch with enormous shopping bags. The sister even had her baby in a stroller.
They clogged the front doorway.
Without thinking, I offered to schlep the huge shopping bag into my coworker's office to clear the way.
She accepted.
When I dropped the huge bag off in the office three other female coworkers came up to me and told me (in a super friendly way, as I got along with everybody there), "Don't ever be nice to that {insert filthy language here} again. She's a cheating ****e, etc. etc.
Baby...that's as close as I ever want to get to that kinda carp. Do I make myself clear?
And the real funny part was that nobody ever described the guy in those derogatory terms.
The responses are eerily familiar.
MY STORY: At work, two married people were having a rather common knowledge affair. Obviously the gal's hubby and the guy's wifey didn't work there.
It didn't effect me or anybody else so everybody's work-a-day life went on as normal.
One day the gal and a friend had gone Christmas shopping. The two gals showed up after lunch with enormous shopping bags. The sister even had her baby in a stroller.
They clogged the front doorway.
Without thinking, I offered to schlep the huge shopping bag into my coworker's office to clear the way.
She accepted.
When I dropped the huge bag off in the office three other female coworkers came up to me and told me (in a super friendly way, as I got along with everybody there), "Don't ever be nice to that {insert filthy language here} again. She's a cheating ****e, etc. etc.
Baby...that's as close as I ever want to get to that kinda carp. Do I make myself clear?
And the real funny part was that nobody ever described the guy in those derogatory terms.
Unless asked directly keep out and play Switzerland 
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!Funny but I have not such a friends. I wonder how pple waste there precious time with such things. Why you should hurt someone? To be in the oil forum , I should say;”better change your oil”
'Don't Don't Don't'. Attribution to an unidentified speaker.
My instinct would be to leave it alone unless perhaps there was a way to tip them off anonymously.
I have a coworker who has been cheating and may still cheat on his wife. Let's call her Julia. I know her and she's a fine lady. Let's call his girlfriend Destiny. I know her vaguely. The cheating has been going on for 9 years. I didn't ask for this info, he volunteered it. I'm one who lets people dig their own graves but sometimes I don't mind giving a helping hand. One day, my coworker and I were out and about in a vehicle and his wife called. He had her on the speakerphone. He told her he was on his way to blah-blah with his coworker blah-blah. I instinctively and without thinking yelled cheerfully, "Hello Destiny, how are you?" Dead silence from Julia, a murderous glance from my coworker. He has since stopped talking about his affair and I am just fine with that. He has also stopped putting private calls on the speaker phone. 
AZjeff
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You're burned no matter what you do. Back away from the friendship until the situation is resolved and maybe forever.
This is the situation the phrase "no good deed goes unpunished" was invented about.
This is the situation the phrase "no good deed goes unpunished" was invented about.
A shame people can't get all of this out of the way before finding someone they really want to be married to.
Some people never seem to be able to grow into adulthood.
Opportunities abound but one should not dishonor themselves and their commitments by taking advantage of them.
Would I tell? Probably not, but I might share with someone I knew would.
Some people never seem to be able to grow into adulthood.
Opportunities abound but one should not dishonor themselves and their commitments by taking advantage of them.
Would I tell? Probably not, but I might share with someone I knew would.
AZjeff
$50 Site Donor 2023
My old boss used to say "I only have 3 friends and don't like 2 of them".
Bros before hoes?? Just kidding, it’s a no-win situation-when people have told me about it, I try to forget ASAP… ^Skippy has the right idea!
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