Finally got a chance to try all three of the tools I settled on:
1. Standard die (Lang Tools)
2. 2-piece die (Steelman)
3. Counteract SBCT13 w/ SBR12 brush insert
The 2-piece Steelman die did fairly good work. This is the one you assemble at the base of the thread and then wind off (though I guess you could also use it from the top like a normal die). Downsides: It's a bit fiddly to use, and it doesn't fit inside the lug holes in my wheels, so I can't use it until the lug nut has already come off.
Fortunately, the standard Lang Tools die plus the 19mm socket it requires do fit in the lug holes. It didn't get much off the threads but... better than nothing, I guess.
The SBCT13 is great. Very easy and effective. Feels robust. Works as advertised. I can see how it'd be a game changer for a fleet of trucks. Sadly the HBR13 hub grinder attachment doesn't fit on my car; there's not enough room between the studs and the flange on the hub that the wheel sits on, so the grinder can't actually touch the surface of the rotor or hub. Fortunately, I don't think my cars ever have an issue in those areas that an abrasive pad can't solve.
For reference, here's why I run 90mm studs. With the 17mm spacers I have to run in the rear to get stock offset with my 3-season wheels, 90mm gives just barely more than enough thread for full engagement on the nut:
That's only on the rear, thankfully. My front wheels need a 10mm spacer or none at all to get stock offset, so a 90mm stud is way overkill. I'll be switching to shorter studs up front soon.