318,000 miles on an A4LD in a 1992 3.0 Aerostar.
When I bought the van about 200,000 miles ago the ATF was black. I changed the filter and cleaned the pan - there was a huge mound of magnetic sludge on the magnet. Then every few days I siphoned out 2 quarts of fluid through the dipstick tube and topped up. I did this until the fluid appeared clean. Took at least 10 goes, as I recall. I also used the then-new Mercon V. After a few thousand miles the fluid had become darkish again. I summised that this was because the new additives were cleaning up the AT components. Repeated the above procedure until the fluid was clean, and it's been clean since. I continued with Mercon V for about 100,000 miles, and then switched to a fully synthetic ATF.
Regular mainteneance is every 20,000 miles - filter change and the 3.5 qts of fluid that's in the pan. I use Fram ATF filters as they are the only ones I've seen that have a filtering medium. The other brands (that I've looked at) merely have screens.
Jan Richter